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We've been living together for a while now and I'm SO happy we did it this way. There's a huge difference between dating/knowing someone and living with them. Living together was a must-do before getting engaged for me. Thankfully it's worked out ;)
Yes and no? haha. When we first started dating I was away at school in another state. Due to some personal reasons I transferred schools and moved back in with my parents. At first he would never stay over but instead would leave at like 2/3 in the morning. Finally my step-dad said it was silly that he was leaving so late at night and to just stay. He hasn't left since :D
Funny thing is, he still won't do laundry at my house even though he is here every minute of the day. He only goes to his parents house when he needs to do laundry. His belongings are also split between my house and his parent's home.
I will say I like living together, although it would be much different if we lived in our own place. Unfortunately that isn't feasible right now because we live in Los Angeles and are both students :/
My FI and I live together and have since about 2 months into our relationship. It works VERy well for us and has given us a lot of time to get to know each other and be 100% positive that we're able to live together!
we live together and I can't imagine it any other way. We've been together for over 5 years and living together for over 4. I moved to London 10 months after we left and we got a flat together... I was willing to move in with someone earlier than I would have under normal circumstances, but since I was moving to another country to see if it would work with him, I thought it was worth the risk! So happy we did it... less than 3 weeks 'til we tie the knot!
We've lived together for the majority of our relationship (4 out of 6 years), and we'll be getting married this November. I'm glad we do, because we DEFINITELY had an adjustment period at the beginning where we had to work through each other's quirks.
Nope! We'll move into our own place once we're married. We're very happy this way and I wouldn't change it for the world.
I will say that it's one of my pet peeves to read about cohabitators who think their relationships are better than non-cohabitators' simply because of their living arrangements. Not true! It's simply a personal choice. :)
We started dated when we were both at college and so we quasi lived together then. Once I graduated, we were LDR for 3 years, but we are now living together - I moved in a few months after we were engaged. It has been really wonderful so far, but I am glad we were engaged first.
We live together but NOT until after we got engaged and the date was set. I am a firm believer in not shacking up. My grandma raised me so I am old school. To me living together with no commitment is like having your cake and eating it too. That being said, I respect eveyone else's decisions. There is no one path to anything only the path that works for you. 
I voted but I'm married...sorry! I voted because I lived with my husband only after we were engaged :)
We've been together for 7 years and lived together for 2.5 years in college. School has us apart again for now, but we'll be reunited a few months before the wedding.
My fiance and I have been living together for 3 years. I believe that this was the best decision for us. This way, when we get married in April, there will not be any surprises. I know exactly what I am getting myself into and he knows exactly what he is getting himself into. And like a PP stated, there is definitely an adjustment period. Glad we got it out of the way before coming home from the honeymoon!
We live together and own a home together too!
I am so glad I live with him. We moved in with each other after dating for a year. Didn't think I would live with a boyfriend that quickly ever, but both agreed that it felt right and natural.
We lived together for a year and got engaged in that year as well. After a year of living together we bought a house together. We love home ownership as well.
Living together has worked great for us.
We are engaged and waiting to be married to move in together, and we are both so excited!!
I was thinking about moving in with my FI for a while but not decided until some major family stuff came up and I needed to get out. It was about six mo. or so into our relationship. I first lived with his parents and then we've lived together in our own apartment for a year now. it's been wonderful. It's nice that we've gotten how we are out of the way now so when we are married we can enjoy that blissful moment without it being awkward.
We've been living together for just over 2 years now. It was hard at first getting used to each other's little habits and schedules, but I'm so happy we lived together before we got married! Rather than having a tough first year of marriage, we got through it as boyfriend and girlfriend. Now we're living so happily together and working as a unit. I feel really confident in the strength of our relationship now, and I have no fear or reservations about marrying this man!
We have lived together "officially" for 4 years and unofficially since we started dating. When I met FI, he had his own house and I was commuting to college at the time which resulted in me staying there all the time.
We have lived together "officially" for 4 years and unofficially since we started dating. When I met FI, he had his own house and I was commuting to college at the time which resulted in me staying there all the time.
I have been living with my man for about 3 years now and we are getting married next year. I would not have have it any other way. I was able to find out what he was actually like day in and day out and now I know all his little annoying habbits that I have learned to love (or tolerate at least). I wanted to live with him before getting married and I am glad that we did. It is such a huge difference between even seeing him everyday and living with him every day.
I have been living my boy for just over 2 years and we have owned our house together for just about a year now.
Everyone's circumstances are different, but for me living together before marriage (and engagement!) is important as it makes you see if you can really spend your life with this person.
We decided to go the unconventional route of living together and buying a house together before we got engaged as it made more sense financially for us. We are now setting ourselves up for our future and will get married when we can afford it.
But everyone is different!
We live together. We dated for 6 months before we moved in together. We will have lived together 1 year and 3 months before we were engaged and will have lived together an additional 11 months before the wedding day.
I wouldn't have done it any other way. I love that we come home to each other, wake up next to each other, and still get sad when one of us travels for work.
We live together and have for most of the relationship. He stayed over for the first time less than a week after we started dating and then kind of never left. I use to tease him that he only dated me because I had a comfy bed. When we meant he was temporarily living with his best friends family until he found a new apartment. After spending every night here for about 2 months, we talked and he asked if he could officially move in. We had a back-up plan since everything moved fast and he didn't go on the lease until we renewed it after being together for almost a year. He's a very easy person to live with, and even though we're not officially engaged I wouldn't have it any other way. We both work to hard and it's nice to be able to relax in the same home together.
I moved in with my boyfriend about a month a half ago. Things are going great - the adjustment period has been easy breezy - other than the occasional nagging comment I make about leaving his clothes on the floor or watching tv when I want to sleep - we rarely bicker.
I was really unsure about living together before engagement, even though my boyfriend told me he did see it as an intermediary step to marriage....but now that I'm here, he told me he wants to wait five years until we get married. Not at all what I had in mind....so....I don't know if it was the best choice in terms of my future working out how I planned and when....but we get a long great and it makes me all the more sure I want to marry him......I thought he felt the same but now I guess it just makes him realize he has the milk...why buy the cow? :(
We moved in together after we got engaged but more because he was moving to NYC to be with me and each paying rent for separate apartments makes no sense in this city.
It's purely personal preference.
We're not living together till we're married, and I wouldn't have THAT any other way! :)
yep we lived together while we were engaged. originally I didn't think I wanted too but then we found a great house for a great deal. Turns out to be a good thing bc the FI (now hubby) and I fought like no other for a few months! Would have been super stresful if we had just gotten married and then that happened.
Yeah, for the last... 2 years. He's awesome, he's great to come home to - much more willing to cuddle than previous room mates. Plus he makes me dinner, so eaasy decision when looking for a roomie. :)
We have ben together three years this year and have been living together for two. It changed the relationship in a sense we are a lot more closer than before. I got to see how he lived when I moved in etc.. I was orginally against the idea at first but things change and now I wouldn't want it any other way.
we live together, he proposed the night of our final walk through, a week before we moved into our home!
we originally had planned on buying the house after/during wedding planning.. but the tax credit was too good to pass up and we got our house for a steal.
i think my parents would have preferred that we moved in after we were married, but they're totally cool with it now... and so am i. actually, if anything, i feel like we're a step ahead of the "first year of marriage is tough" myth. we've been living together for almost a year, and will have been for about 13 months on our wedding day. he'll still carry me over the threshold... (he's been saving to do that for our wedding!) but as far as daily habits and living together wise... we've adjusted and are totally in tune with each other's needs/wants :)
i can't wait for after the honeymoon when we'll be able to put our money into the house, instead of the wedding! :)
I always joke that FH (then bf) spent the night on our first date and never left!
I would never marry someone with out living together first. Living with someone is totally different then dating for 10 years.
I agree with mishelleez, my BF and I have been together for 5 years and living together for 1.5 of those years. I'm glad I did it this way then to have waited until after the wedding to realize I cant stand that he leaves his clothes all over the place.
It was an adjustment in the beginning.
We moved in with each other about 7 months after we were engaged. I also was really glad that we did. We were forced to have a long engagement because of school/health insurance reasons so it would have sucked waiting so long to live together. It was perfect and worked for us, but I get that it isn't for everyone..
FI and I have been living together officially for about a year and three months, but he was at my place 24/7 for 4-5 months before he moved in. We both knew that we wanted to live together before we thought about even thinking about marriage, but that living together was a step in that direction. We got engaged 8 months after he officiall moved in, and it worked perfectly for us. I agree with some of the other ladies that the transition was a little rough, and I'm glad to have gotten it out of the way LONG before we're married!
Hubby and I lived seperately up until our wedding date. we bought a house together and he lived there for two months until we got married.
I am absolutely happy with how it all turned out. i'm happy i waited until our wedding night to stay at our house. it gave me the six months on my own that i needed to plan the wedding, while he was travelling for work anyways.
FH and I live together and are engaged. I moved into his house when we had been dating for 6 months, we got engaged after about 9 months of living together/ 15 months of being together, and by the time we get married, we will have been living together for 3 years/ been together for 3.5 years. The long-ish engagement was intentional.
I definitely agree that there is a transition period and living together has helped our relationship mature and get ready for marriage. Also, the house was (and still very slightly is) a fixer-upper, so I'm glad to be getting the house finished before the wedding-- not after. So after our honeymoon, we are good to go. :)
We moved in with each other after being together for 4 years. He proposed 3 months later. I can't imagine not living with someone before being married, but that's just me. I guess I can see the issues/points on both sides.
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