Post # 1
My husband and I got married in September and it is unbelievable how different we are with each other. Everything is so much better now that we are married. We treat each other better and we communicate better.
This past weekend was somewhat of a break through for hubby and I. We moved to a different state to start a small business and it’s not necessarily our favorite place. We both love city life and this is more of a low key “southern” atmosphere. We’ve discussed when we want to TTC, and I told him I’m ready whenever. (We are both 25 years old).
Hubby mentioned this weekend a 5 year plan. We stick it out here, and then move to a big city in 5 years and then consider children and what we want to do. Now that he put this idea in my head, I want to move NOW! I told him lets make it work. I don’t want to talk about it and never get around to it.
I know this process takes time, especially with finances. Does anyone else move this much? Or change lifestyles? I guess I’m looking for just someplace to share because we won’t be telling our family for a while!
Post # 2
We move alot. I can’t wait to move city again but we have to wait a year until FI has finished his studies. But we rent so its much easier. I think if you know you will move in 5 years anyway, why wait! Especially if you are thinking of children because it will be much easier TTC if you have already moved. Obviously your business would need to line up with the new city though.
As far as a 5 year plan, we have a rough idea for the wedding and TTC but we are open to moving and dont know what city (or country) we will end up in.
Post # 3
Long term planning I think is one of the best and hardest things about marriage. We have an 8 year plan to be out of school debt plus have a decent savings built up, a 10-15 year plan for our current house, and a three year plan for children. It’s frustraiting to not be able to do everything right away, but it’s nice to have someone to work on goals with instead of trying to do everything yourself. It is also exciting to have something to look forward to. The next 8 years for us are going to be TOUGH but the payoff will be worth it!
Post # 4
We sort of have a five year plan: House in 2 years and student loans paid off in 4 (the only debt we have). Kids can come somewhere inbetween or after the loan is paid off.
Post # 5
We have a (very) detailed 5 year plan and a vague 10 year plan. I think it’s incredibly important to be on the same page about the future and to have mutual goals.
Post # 6
We’ve always talked about our dreams and what we want in the future. And thankfully we have always wanted the same things. Our city right now was chosen for us because of our small business. We bought a house and I do love it, but the city is boring. It’s SO difficult to meet anyone our age!! Husband finally admitted that he isn’t too fond of the area and wants something more fast-paced.
My husbands always called me a city girl and I’m hoping we can keep our promises and make that a reailty! I’m so excited for what the future holds it makes me want to skip five (very important steps) and just move!
Post # 7
FutureMrsK2014: Our 5-year plan is to build up some savings and buy a house or condo. We’re not having kids, so there’s no issue there. It’s so nice that we’re both on the same page about everything.
Post # 8
We have a two/three year plan! I think five years is too far ahead for me, I find it difficult to plan that far ahead as so much can change. I know we’re on the same page about all the big things though.
Also, if you want to move you should definitely do it! We moved from the country to the city a few months ago and we don’t regret it. It was tough but so exciting and fun!
Post # 9
penny29: I’m with you! We live in somewhat of a country atmosphere. It’s SO slow and I’m not enjoying it, except for the mild winters. I love my four seasons and we are looking to go to the East Coast. I talked with my husband this morning and said “Lets makes this a 3 year plan! I can’t wait 5 years!”
Post # 10
We actually sat down and wrote one out two years ago before we got engaged even – and “get engaged” and “get married” was on it, along with selling our current apartment, moving to another state, and TTC. So far so good. We realize not everything will go to plan, but it has kept us uniformly working towards a goal and is really good for us. We sit down every once in a while and go over it again.
Post # 11
FutureMrsK2014: We have a 5 year plan 🙂 This summer was really hard because I finished school in April, but DH didn’t finish until August so all summer I felt like I was in limbo just waiting for the next step. I kept busy and enjoyed my summer activities but still! I know it sucks to wait, but if they’re important steps, don’t skip them!! There was a point in time where we both were really baby crazy and came very close to ttc. I’m am so relieved we didn’t because not only do we both still have a lot to accomplish before that step, we’re also enjoying it just being us. So I say, try to relax and embrace the step your in. The next step will come soon enough and you may even miss where you are now.
Post # 12
FutureMrsK2014: I had to giggle a little when I first read your subject title because whenever I tell people our 5-year plan, they are always so shocked!
After the wedding, I’m moving to another state to be with him. Then in the summer of 2016, he is leaving the military to pursue his MBA. Then after that 2 year program, we will move again depending on job offers. After he has settled in his new position and if we like the area, we’ll purchase a home and then TTC in 2019ish, bringing us to 30-31.
I’m glad to see that it’s much more common than I thought!
Post # 13
FutureMrsK2014: i have a friend who moves constantly! i dont think i have seen all of her houses because she just moves that much. Her friends and family are tired of it but to each their own they just really like moving and they never have a stable enough job to want to stay somewhere.
Personally i would have kids and THEN move to a big city after a few years. but thats my opinion i have never liked big cities
Post # 14
Our loose five year plan is to rebuild our savings (we just built/bought our first home in June). We also plan on paying off all our students loans in the next 3 years and pay off my car. We hope to travel to Europe and do an East Coast road trip at some point and lastly we are looking to start TTC in about 3-5 years.