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NO TV IN THE BEDROOM and NO BOUNDARIES IN THE BEDROOM..
The bedroom is a safe place for any and all conversation and physical emotions. There can be no communication boundaries of any kind. No joke it helps a ton. More in sync with one another. If we are uncomfortable with anything its all let out once in the bedroom, no boudaries, no off limits.
Are we talking sex rules only? We don't have a TV in the bedroom cause we think it reduces the intimacy of the area.. But I guess that's it.
I had to establish a "no iphones in the bedroom" rule when FI started climbing into bed with it (especially where he plays video games for hours each night).
No TV in the bedroom - ever.
No clothes in bed (same exceptions as you; oh, and socks don't count, as my feet are always freezing).
no rules.
@Neva: as to your second rule...doesn't that sort of defeat the purpose of the act itself? by no means am i judging you. what people do behind closed doors is totally their business. but the first thought that came to mind is when my SO is away on long business trips is the time I would actually need to do it myself and according to your rules that's a no no. if he's there on the other hand, i would just rather have him.
We really don't have rules. We don't have a TV in the bedroom, because it would reduce the amount of decent sleep we feel we would get. And I'm not allowed to wear socks to bed (even though my feet are always freezing!) because my husband doesn't like the way they feel against his feet, lol. So when my feet are cold, I get to put them between his legs to warm them up.
We have no sex rules. Come to think of it, we have no bedroom-related rules at all. Hmm.
Hmm.. No tv in the bedroom (that's my rule, otherwise I'm not sure he'd ever go into the living room at all)
Ask/Warn before you do something surprising lol..
No stealing the covers and no pushing me off the bed!! He'll literally PUSH me OFF the bed. As in; I'm sleeping soundly...then I'm on the floor.
My rules are rarely enforced though, aside from the tv.
No rules. I dont know what we would do w/o a tv in our bedroom!
no street clothes in the bed! we live in nyc so conceivable the jeans worn on the dirty filthy subway then get in my nice clean sheets... GUHH!
but, i like some of these other ones, regarding communication and not just cleanliness ;)
@Neva - that's absolutely your rules and no one should judge you but I absolutely think self-pleasuring is 100% natural and healthy
No rules for us - but I am totally with @kjwinter: with the no street clothes in the bed! It kills me! My husband always says this was the first thing I ever 'yelled' at him about when we were dating and he'd try and flop on my bed in all his dirty clothes. He also always laughs that I say 'street clothes' but now I know other people say it too ;)
I guess I should explain our second rule. It's not that either of us think there is anything wrong with self-pleasuring. I agree that it is natural and healthy.
I'm not even sure how it became a "rule." I think because my husband said once, "If you are going to do that, I want to watch." And I said, "Well if that's what you want, then the same goes for you."
Of course, as we are married and live together, it's not like we have a lot of time when we are alone when it might be an issue. We work pretty much the same hours and neither of us travel much for our jobs.
But it's not a hard and fast rule. I'm guessing if one or the other of us had to go away on an extended trip, that rule would fall by the wayside pretty quickly...but that hasn't happened yet. If my husband was gone and I did that and he found out, he'd not be mad...but he'd use it as an opportunity to tease me about it.
I think we just both like the idea that we try to hold out to do something (whatever that might be) together...it kind of makes things a bit more interesting when we do if we have waited.
@Neva - we have the same rules when we're home together - we sleep naked with each other (unless we're sick) and we also self-pleasure with each other (or watch or "help") when we're home together.These rules only exist to make sure our intimacy stays high through stress, kids, exhaustion, etc.
We do have slightly different work schedules and we both travel for work, so when we're alone we can self-pleasure whenever we want. We have fun telling each other about what we fantasized about while we were apart. :)
We also have other rules concerning communication (open and honest at all times) and about our children. While neither one of us feels like we need rules to enforce on each other, we established these rules to emphasize that our realtionship, intimacy, and communication are the highest priority and we always have these to fall back on if the relationship ever hits a rough spot.
You are definitely not alone.
gah, do you get underwear when you're on your period!??!?!?!??! lol that's what i'm curious about =P
i feel so nekkid without pjs! but i do try to buy soft and cute ones. Not sure if that counts.
I agree with ejs, I can't lay around naked! We don't have any rules, we don't have a TV in the bedroom anymore but we didn't really use it before at our old place.
I am all about the no street clothes in the bed! The thought grosses me out! I think that is all we have for rules...although we have some of best talks about anything while in bed. I guess it is an unspoken rule that you can say anything you want without worrying about boundaries.
@ejs4y8: Hahahaha...I would hope for undies during my period for sure!
@Neva: Jajaja! i think thats cute and I love your rules!! i think im gonna be suggesting them to FI :)
lol@dance, well, i'd want undies and shorts/sweatpants and my big oversized snuggly bathrobe with my fuzzy socks. =D
Well my rules for bed are I wear pjs but I don't like my man to wear anything - if you saw his body you would know why!! Purrrrrr 
Yah! Some ladies have my rule-
No outside clothes in the bed!
It grosses me out!! He thinks I'm strange...oh,well.lol
Does no shoes in the bedroom count? lol... otherwise, we have no rules.
i think this board is full of sex addicts haha
maybe i just like a dull life...but WOW you guys must have the most hormones in America. good on you!
Our rule is no going to bed angry - which I think is a pretty common rule. We also have a no clothes in bed rule with some exceptions. But, I love being naked when I sleep. It was me that pushed him to get comfortable with it too. Hmmmm no other rules I don't think.
We have a good night and good morning ritual that we do every night/morning. Its something we both enjoy and it's kind of like a rule. :)
Oh.. and as a steadfast rule, no animals in bed, the dog can sleep next to the bed, but not in the bed.
Right now I just spend weekend at FI's place in his bed, but when we get a place and I get new a new bed and sheets and everything....No dirty street clothes, especially pants, on the bed!! Not even the edge of the bed to have a little seat. Shirts I might forgive.
My rule: No outside clothes in the bed. Ever! Just grosses me out beyond words.
His rule: No one in the bedroom but us.
our rule is that the "after sex" is just as important as the "before sex." this means that the cuddling, back-tickling, and kissing that goes on after sex is just as important as the foreplay. you wouldn't text on your phone or surf the web during foreplay, so no doing it while your cuddling after sex. that's all!! :)
I don't think we have any rules but we don't disagree on much there. We have a tv in the bedroom but I can't remember the last time we turned it on when we went to bed. It is basically only used when I'm folding clothes. Street clothes in bed would gross me out but neither of us has ever even tried that so its not an issue. We don't sleep naked and I don't think either of us want to. :)
I guess the only "rule" (but not really a rule just a request) is that i favor yoga pants over sweatpants or pj pants. I work from home most days and so I stay in pjs/comfy clothes for most of my week. So FI requested that if I'm not going to wear "real clothes" I wear yoga pants (which he thinks are cute) rather than sweats or pj pants. Easy enough for me!
We don't have a TV in the bedroom...maybe one day if we have a big 'ole house we will but only if it is in armoir with doors :)
We don't have any rules. I guess I have an aversion to that term, but we both insist that the other is respectful and considerate of one another's feelings in all aspects of our relationship and life together, and that's pretty much it. So however that translates to a specific situation is 'the rule' I guess.
1. no arguing in the bedroom
2. no working/studying in the bedroom
only pleasant things are allowed to happen in there :)
We have one which I like. We must kiss each other whenever possible. At stoplights, just brief kisses on the hand while driving, when we get up from the table to get more water, etc. We like kisses. :)
Only sleeping, sex, and talking in bed. No going to bed angry (which means... I sometimes end up sleeping in another room. Less and less...)
And, ugh! How do you even bring up the no street clothes in bed rule??? He always wears his clothes to bed (except for dress shirt, belt, and shoes.) After we're intimate, he'll put his underwear back on, pants too, if he's not sweaty. He'll go a whole weekend without changing his clothes, and I find it somewhat gross. It's also annoying because... I can't ever surprise him. :(
No going to bed angry is a big one! I cant get to sleep if I am mad so I always need to settle it before I lay my head down! We also try to make love almost everyday at the least 6 days a week..... but who knows if that will last forever lol
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Do you and your husband have rules? We have two...and I'm wondering if we are odd (ok, maybe we are...bur are we the only odd ones out there?).
The first rule? Neither of us can wear anything but a wedding ring in bed. Of course, there are exceptions (I'm on my period, one of us is sick), but that is the default rule.
The second is no umm..self-pleasuring alone. This goes for both of us. Not that we think there is anything wrong in that...but we both decided we don't want to miss out. If the other one feels the need to do that, the other wants to be in on it or at least watch.
Now, although I call these "rules," I must explain that these rules were mutually decided upon and we are really playful about them. For example, my husband got me the other night with "Get out of bed. You have earrings on!"