Post # 1
Do you and your husband have rules? We have two…and I’m wondering if we are odd (ok, maybe we are…bur are we the only odd ones out there?).
The first rule? Neither of us can wear anything but a wedding ring in bed. Of course, there are exceptions (I’m on my period, one of us is sick), but that is the default rule.
The second is no umm..self-pleasuring alone. This goes for both of us. Not that we think there is anything wrong in that…but we both decided we don’t want to miss out. If the other one feels the need to do that, the other wants to be in on it or at least watch.
Now, although I call these “rules,” I must explain that these rules were mutually decided upon and we are really playful about them. For example, my husband got me the other night with “Get out of bed. You have earrings on!”
Post # 3
Nope, we don’t have any rules!
Post # 4
haha i think that is cute! but no, we don’t have any rules.
Post # 5
NO TV IN THE BEDROOM and NO BOUNDARIES IN THE BEDROOM..
The bedroom is a safe place for any and all conversation and physical emotions. There can be no communication boundaries of any kind. No joke it helps a ton. More in sync with one another. If we are uncomfortable with anything its all let out once in the bedroom, no boudaries, no off limits.
Post # 6
Are we talking sex rules only? We don’t have a TV in the bedroom cause we think it reduces the intimacy of the area.. But I guess that’s it.
Post # 7
I had to establish a “no iphones in the bedroom” rule when FI started climbing into bed with it (especially where he plays video games for hours each night).
Post # 8
No TV in the bedroom – ever.
No clothes in bed (same exceptions as you; oh, and socks don’t count, as my feet are always freezing).
Post # 9
@Neva: as to your second rule…doesn’t that sort of defeat the purpose of the act itself? by no means am i judging you. what people do behind closed doors is totally their business. but the first thought that came to mind is when my SO is away on long business trips is the time I would actually need to do it myself and according to your rules that’s a no no. if he’s there on the other hand, i would just rather have him.
Post # 10
We really don’t have rules. We don’t have a TV in the bedroom, because it would reduce the amount of decent sleep we feel we would get. And I’m not allowed to wear socks to bed (even though my feet are always freezing!) because my husband doesn’t like the way they feel against his feet, lol. So when my feet are cold, I get to put them between his legs to warm them up.
Post # 11
@OP doesn’t rule #2 defeat the actual purpose of it?
Post # 12
We have no sex rules. Come to think of it, we have no bedroom-related rules at all. Hmm.
Post # 13
Hmm.. No tv in the bedroom (that’s my rule, otherwise I’m not sure he’d ever go into the living room at all)
Ask/Warn before you do something surprising lol..
No stealing the covers and no pushing me off the bed!! He’ll literally PUSH me OFF the bed. As in; I’m sleeping soundly…then I’m on the floor.
My rules are rarely enforced though, aside from the tv.
Post # 14
No rules. I dont know what we would do w/o a tv in our bedroom!
Post # 15
no street clothes in the bed! we live in nyc so conceivable the jeans worn on the dirty filthy subway then get in my nice clean sheets… GUHH!
but, i like some of these other ones, regarding communication and not just cleanliness 😉
Post # 16
@Neva – that’s absolutely your rules and no one should judge you but I absolutely think self-pleasuring is 100% natural and healthy