Do you and your so have mutual friends? If so is it from high school or college

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We have people that we mutually know (him from high school, me from college) and he has friends that I really like, but I don’t know that we have anyone I would consider a “mutual” friend in that they’re equally close to us both.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

@Ap2010:  We didn’t meet till after I was out of school. We have tons of mutual friends, mostly from church.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@Ap2010:  I’d say the majority of our friends are mutual friends, save for some of his work friends who I haven’t met. Some mutual friends are from high school or university, though we didn’t go to any of the same schools.

I actually find it odd when couples don’t have mutual friends. When his friends come over, what do you do? Leave? Hang out awkwardly while not understanding the inside jokes? It doesn’t make sense to me and I don’t think I’d like it.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes, we went to high school together, so some are from that. I still have “my” friends and he has “his” but we have a lot of mutual friends too. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We met online, so there are no direct mutual friends.  We are from the same area our whole lives, and have similar hobbies, so it is funny how occasionally there will be a random common link.  Like I’m telling a story about some place I hung out in high school, turns out he knows the guy that worked there and I totally remember him.  So no mutual friends, but we could play a good game of Six Degrees of Separation if we wanted to.

 

ETA: I mean that more when we first met.  We of course intoduced our friends to eachother and have gotten to know them.  I might not call them up and hang out one-on-one, but there are many I would consider friends now.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We do have mutual friends from both high school and college. In fact I was friends with his best man in high school before I ever met him, and when I did meet him it was through a different group of friends entirely. FI’s also become really close to one of my college roommates and his girlfriend. We did college as an LDR so we have completely different sets of college friends. Our entire bridal party is mutual friends except for my man of honor because he lives in Switzerland and he and FI have never been in the same location long enough to actually meet each other and form a friendship.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

All of the friends we hang out with on a regular basis are mutual friends from grad school, work, or our neighborhood. We don’t live anywhere near where we went to high school or college and we both haven’t really maintained many relationships from that part of our lives because of moving.

We each have a small group people we’ve maintained close friendships with for many, many years, who we are both quite comfortable with even though one of us may claim a person as a best friend. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We have tons of mutual friends.  We started dating in high school and have been together for almost 11 years.  There is a bunch of friend overlap.  I like it and wouldn’t have it any other way.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

All of our friends are mutual now (we would both hang out solo with any of our friends & not think it was weird) but we definitely each have our best friends that are closer to one if us. We met through my high school friends (2 guys) who worked with SO after university. He became close with my whole group of besties, and brought along his best friend as well. It just so happened that they (my SO and his best friend) also went to high school with one of our friend’s cousins – who we’re all close with also. It basically ended up that all of our friends merged into one big group haha.

It’s kind of amazing actually – one big happy family!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

FI and I don’t have a lot of friends, unfortunately. But the few friends we do have are all mutual friends from high school.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No mutual friends at all, we grew up in different states.  We met online and had our own set of friends before we met. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We have mutual friends (former labmates) from when we met in my undergrad/his grad school.  We also have some mutual friends from his former job and my current grad school.  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We met through friends in college, so we have quite a few of them.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Most of our friends our mutual.

We met through a friend we had in common and have been running in the same social circles for several years now. I know all of his friends, and he knows all of mine, and more than half of them are people we both consider friends!

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