Post # 1
I’m interested to hear about mutual friends! I would say that FI and I have a few mutual friends, and we’re of course comfortable spending time with each other’s friends when they’re over or we’re hanging out or something, but it’s definitely the exception to the rule–we have our own friends that we hang out with on our own time. That said, I’ve seen a lot of stuff on the Bee indicating that this isn’t how a lot of couples operate, so I’m just wondering what the numbers look like! 🙂 Please feel free to explain your answer if you so choose in the comments.
Post # 3
We went to high school together and the majority of our friends are mutual friends from high school. I would say over 90% of our friends are mutual friends.
Post # 4
@MrsRevolutionize: FI and I have been together for 7 years and have lived together for a little over half of that. At this point most of our friends are mutual but not all of them. I still have friends that I’ll see on a one on one basis and same goes for him. But all of our good friends, the ones we see the most, are mutual friends. I’m not sure if that’s the norm or not. It just sort of happened.
Post # 5
We have mutual acquaintances, but no mutual friends. FI is getting to be friends with some of my friends, but I don’t know at what point they stop being “mine” and become mutual. We went on a mission trip with my church, and so all those people met us at the same time, but they are all a lot older (all have teenage+ children but one).
Post # 6
Nearly all of our friends are mutual.
Most of these people were “my” friends for years before DH and I met. When we started dating, he had only recently moved to my state and had no one to introduce me to. Plus, he’s terrible at keeping in touch with people outside family, so I’ve only briefly met 3 of his friends from his previous residence.
Anyway, I have many male friends, and when I started dating DH, I wanted him to be comfortable around them. Now whenever they call, they ask for him instead, LOL.
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
We met through mutual friends, so about 95-99% of our friends are mutual. And even friends that started out as mine became friends with him too. So, we basically share everyone, LOL!
Post # 8
Most of our friends are mutual, save for one or two that are more my friend or his.
Post # 9
All of our individual friends are now mutual friends, but we only have a few who are true mutual friends – aka we met them after we started dating.
Post # 10
@MrsRevolutionize: All of our friends are mutual. Every single one, lol.
Post # 11
Me and my ex had a ton of mutual friends. But after the breakup I opted to let those friendships go because I needed to completely get away from my ex.
Now me and FI have no friends in common, but we’re slowly building relationships with each others friends.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
@MrsRevolutionize: All of the friends that we spend time with regularly are mutual. We met at church and hang out mostly with our friends from church so we really have almost all mutual friends.
He does have some friends from his college/ partying days that I don’t really know but he rarely hangs out with them. I moved to northern california after I graduated from college so naturally, he doesn’t know my college friends or friends from back home, but since they all live several states away, I don’t spend time with them.
Post # 13
Our relationship started as the two of us being friends for 2 years, so yes the majority of our social circle is mutual.
Post # 14
We met online and despite living in the same area and having similar taste we didn’t run in the same circles at all. We very much like eachother’s friends, but there were no mutual ones before we met.
Post # 15
We got pretty lucky in the friend catagory, my girlfriends from school (elementary- and middle school) all married great guys, they in turn have become friends with my DH so we all get along really well. My DH’s guys have great wives that I have become friends with and will grab dinner with or shopping without the guys. So now its all mixed, but i will still hang out with my girls for wine nights and he will still grab beers with his guys to watch the game so we hang together and we hang separatly.
Post # 16
I am completely in love with all but ONE of his friends (and she HATES me, so not my fault)! And all his guy friends bring their wives to hang out, and I absolutely love their wives! So I’m super lucky. I consider them all mutual friends!
DH, on the other hand, HATES my friends. He’s always funny and polite with them, but once we leave he goes “Can we talk about your friend Allisande (not real name)? She’s dyed her hair rainbow and shaved it into a faux-Hawk and doesn’t understand why no one will hire her? REALLY?”
But I love that he doesn’t like them. My BFF literally offered her body to him the first time she met him (she has the body of a VS model). She said “You know… I’ve slept with 75% of BrandNewBride’s boyfriends.” And he replied. “So, Joe? (Her BF that was SITTING NEXT TO HER) How do you feel about that?”
My DH is pretty smooth!