(Closed) Do you and your SO see eye-to-eye regarding politics?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My FI and I are the same way – we decided to agree to disagree for the most part. We’ve actually learned a lot from each other and I’d venture to say we’re both independents now, with each of us leaning a different way. We have a rule when it comes to any political discussions – as soon as one of us raises our voice or makes an disaraging comment, the discussion is over, period.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We are lucky-we share the same political beliefs. Which made our first year of dating, which also happened to be a major election year (last year), smooth sailing!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

We have very differing political opinions and a couple of times right before last year’s elections, one or the other of us got a little snippy about it, so we’ve made a resolution to only talk about the issues we feel we can stay calm about!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

FI and I are VERY conservative but come from families with many VERY liberal members. We get along great about politics but it’s hard dealing with family members who want to argue (some of whom are educated and have valid points, some of whom **coughFMILcough** get their news from The View and Oprah) when you just want to keep the peace, or family members who want to talk politics but don’t want to listen- just preach. We are both so politically involved I don’t think we would have been compatible if we were politically opposite.

 

I hate that politics are becoming so divisive lately! Whatever happened to “to each their own”?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We’re both really similar in political viewpoints, and we’re both news / politics junkies and talk about it all the time.  I really like it.  I know a lot of people who make differing viewpoints work, but for me.. dating a Republican has never worked out and just gets too frustrating.  I might not have enough patience, haha.  Sorry I don’t have any advice to give! 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

We are both conservative, but I am more Libertarian and he is more of military/legislation supporting conservative. So we are on the same side of the fence but find ourselves in opposition sometimes. We just try not to talk about the things that get us riled up. One thing we can agree about, though, is that neither of us can stand modern political commentators on either side. There is so much hateful talk and suggestions that if you’re not a Democrat or a Republican (depending on who’s talking) then you’re obviously of sub-par intelligence. Obviously hearing from those who are against us gets us mad because we KNOW we have good, intelligent reasons for our viewpoints (and my husband as a blue-collar, white male veteran is now in that new class of “domestic terrorist suspects” the far left will talk about), but we get mad hearing conservative nutjobs rant and rave too, because that just fuels that negative stereotype!! I wish people could just calm down and talk to each other. I don’t agree with a lot of what Obama does or says, but I liked his “Let’s just have a beer and talk” idea with the whole professor/cop debacle. 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee

We have very different views–it was one of the reasons we came together in the first place.  He tends to be much much more conservative than me.  The thing we have in common is a desire to understand the other’s view, even if we don’t agree with it.  And, ultimately, we are both happy we can these conversations, and we agree that as crazy as it may seem sometimes, our democracy is one of the best on earth. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I work for an organization that advocates for public healthcare and I am very passionate about it. He’s VERY conservative and we get into it sometimes. He says he’s very scared of what will become of single payer, public option, etc etc and also very passionate about it. Sometimes I wonder if we have the same values. It’s hard sometimes. I’m trying to learn how to respect his viewpoints, but I have to admit, it can be a turn-off sometimes. I’ve learned a lot from him though and I have a more open mind about things, and vice versa. We have agreed not to talk about politics often, especially in public. We live in DC where there is debate everywhere…We just save our need to vent/debate with others. 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

He is much more conservative that I, so, no, we don’t see eye to eye about politics.  We just have agreed to try not to discuss it with one another. 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

My partner and I have extremely similar political views.  However, I grew up in a household where *nobody* shared my views *at all*.  I learned how to navigate the minefield of political disagreement at an early age, and also feel that growing up with opposing viewpoints helped me to really dig deep into why I believe what I believe.  I learned that political viewpoints do not indicate a person’s worth or goodness.  I learned how to listen, respectfully disagree, and incorporate the parts of the opposition’s views that may be reasonable.  Above all, I learned tolerance.

My partner, on the other hand, comes from a household where everyone shares the same political views.  I think it’s really hard on him when people don’t see eye to eye politically… and it is a big part of the lens through which he sees my family.

Still, I marvel every day at not having to be on alert for political conflict at home.  It’s a real blessing!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1990

We see eye to eye on almost every topic, thankfully.  I couldn’t imagine it being otherwise because I would get too angry, haha.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

We both hold literally the same political views and I’m an officer of my area political party and will even be speaking at an event soon.  He’s 10000% supportive!  We’re conservatives with a very free-thinking side.

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