Post # 1
After 5 years, I would think I’d be used to our different work schedules. By choice to avoid the major city commute, I’m at work by 0530 and home by 1500. I could flex my schedule but that would turn a 30 minute commute to easily 1 hr each way. He works in town and normally works 0700 to 1630; but, his job has started flexing their hours all over the place – some days they start at 0430 and other times he hasn’t gotten home until 1930. Since we’re saving for the wedding, I really don’t mind it. But I guess it’s bothering me today because I’ve had a bad couple of weeks at work and would love a little companionship and cuddling. So here it is almost 1800, dinner’s cooked, he has no clue when he’ll be home, and I’m feeling a little lonely. How do other couples handle the different shift work?
Post # 3
We go through a bit of this too — not year round, but during certain times of year. It’s certainly not ideal, I know. My best advice is just to keep yourself busy during your alone time (or savor your chance to watch your favorite TV) and then see how you can do something little to make the time you do have together special. At home date night? A bottle of wine? And definitely make some great plans for the nights you KNOW you’ll have together. I know it’s tough, but hang in there, hun!
Post # 4
Ours is a bit like this too – my boyfriend coaches schoolkids, so a lot of his hours are outside of school hours. Then he is doing an internship that is across town, and so he has to leave the house around 6am, whereas I don’t leave until 8, and he sometimes doesn’t get home until gone 9. I work 9.5.30 every day, unless I have a late meeting!
It isn’t ideal, but we do really try to make the most of the evenings we have together!
Post # 5
Mister works 11a-10p Monday, Tuesday, and Thursday. 11a-11p Friday and Saturday, and 12p-7p Sunday. He is off on Wednesdays. He is a tattoo artist who works solely on commission so he doesn’t get paid for every hour he is at work.
I work 10a or 11a- 5p or 6p Tuesday-Friday. 10a-3 or 5p Saturday. And I am off Sunday and Monday.
We don’t have any days off together. Wednesdays after I get off work we usually do dinner and walk around the mall and then Sundays after he gets off work we typically do dinner and a movie with another couple.
We live together so we get a couple hours of “us” time when he comes home from work.
I wish we had a full day off together, but we make it work. We treasure every minute of the time we do get to spend together 🙂
Post # 6
I work 8:30-4:30 M-F, but my FI works retail and has a more random schedule, so normally he closes at least 2 days of the week, opens 2 days, works one weekend shift and has one weekday off. As such, we normally have at least 3 weeknights where we can spend some time together, and Sunday is our day–we have to agree with each other if we’re going to spend any time with anyone other than us.
I’m pretty happy with this arrangment, though FI isn’t and is trying to find a job with a more “normal” schedule.
Post # 7
Yes. I work Monday – Friday 8-4.30, but if you count in travelling time I am out of the house from 7.15-5 ish. My fiancé works Mon-Fri 2-10pm, but sometimes he has to work one or two days on the weekend so then he will have days off in the week.
I only work term time so I am currently on holiday, so when we are married we will at least have those mornings together.
Post # 8
@gemchick82: I work Monday-Friday 8:30-4:30 from home. FI works Wednesday-Sunday 2-10pm. We see each other in the mornings while I work from home and have Monday and Tuesday evening together. I do get lonely…which is why we got a puppy this week! I’m already feeling better having some company around 🙂
Post # 9
Thanks ladies, it’s good to know I’m not alone in this.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Savannah, GA
@gemchick82: At least he doesn’t work night shift… I’d kill for my fiance to work anywhere close to normal hours.
Post # 11
@gemchick82: I work 8am to 5pm and DH works 2pm to 2am, 5 days a week. Its been like this for a year and it’s terrible. He can’t talk at all during his work so we get to talk for about 20 mintues a day around 1030am. We both hate it and he’s in the process of changing his hours.
We just want to spend time together during the weekends and none of our friends understand! We’re literally like “I truly haven’t even SEEN him/her conscious for 5 DAYS!!!”