Do you and/or your FI/spouse keep in touch with exes?

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
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Bee Keeper

I still get together for lunch and stuff with some of them, still talk to them on the phone, so does Mr. 99, it’s silly to think that just because it didn’t work out romantically, the fundamental friendship has to suffer…I know circumstance has a lot to do with it, and a lot of time has passed between breakup and now for all of us, so I think that helps, we’re older, wiser and more mellow.

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Busy bee

I pretty much do not want to be in touch with any exes, especially the LAST one, who will not go away, after three years.

My husband has to stay in touch with his ex to a point because they have two children and 6 grandchildren. 

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Buzzing bee

Both Mr. Hobbit and I do, but we both recognize that we are the exception rather than the rule. We both have really constructive 110% platonic relationships with some of our exes, so it works for us and our situation. It won’t work for everyone. One of my exes actually helped out Mr. Hobbit quite a bit with my elaborate proposal. 

To each his own.  

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Bumble Beekeeper

Absolutely no way.

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Honey bee

Nope not at all, and I would feel uncomfortable if we did.

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Buzzing Beekeeper

There is one that I may chat with via instant messenger every now and then, we also send a happy birthday text to each other.

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Honey bee

I don’t have any. My SO is still FB friends with his. He wished her a happy birthday last year on FB, When she got engaged and changed her status on FB a year ago, he wrote congrats on that update. Otherwise they have not spoken in years.

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Bumble bee

I used to see my exes a lot more in group settings, but since getting married and moving away, I’ve lost touch with that group.  Never really “kept in touch” with any of them, though.

DH doesn’t keep in touch or see any of his exes.  Except for one, and only because DH was friends with her brother before they dated and is still quite close with him.  So, we do see her on occasion, but again, don’t “keep in touch”.

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Blushing bee

I really don’t, but my FI does. It took me a long time to get to be OK with it. I was VERY uncomfortable at first, and at one point their relationship almost broke us up. 

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Honey Beekeeper

I regularly talk to all but one of my exes and get together very rarely with a few of them.  His ex of 15 yrs passed so he doesn’t.

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Bumble bee

He doesn’t talk to any of his, I still speak to mine that I had in say – middle school, so not really serious relationships. I still speak to the family of my last ex before Mr. O around the holidays/their birthdays, just a quick text hello, and he still does the same to my family. He was around for 5 years, so it’s fine that we stay in touch, we’re just happier with other people!

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Busy Beekeeper

One of his ex’s happens to be one of his best friends, so he still talks to her. I dont mind. I’ve hung out with her a few times as well. They were best friends way before they dated, and it was just weird for them to have a relationship so they split on good terms.

I’ve talked with one of my ex’s a few times through email. We never actually split, so to speak. We were in a long distance relationship and both of our towns had bad storms and power outages. My power was out for a week so I couldnt talk to him, and when I finally got power again his phone was turned off and I could never get a hold of him. He hadnt had internet for almost a year by that point, so the phone was our only way of talking. About 2 years later he made a facebook with the sole purpose of searching for me. We still talk sometimes. He’s actually married to a girl who is the manager of a store of the same company I work for now.

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