Post # 1
I mean, people in real life, obviously. Asking other bees on here is totally different :). But my aunt keeps wanting to know what I got for Christmas and I feel very reluctant to tell her.
I feel like she’s being too nosy. I understand asking a kid what they got for Christmas. That’s normal. But to me, an adult asking another adult what they got for Christmas is nosy and/or inappropriate.
And I also feel like when another adult tells me what they got for Christmas (without me asking them first) is akin to bragging. Like “Look at all this stuff I got!”
I told all this to my SO and he thinks I’m overreacting. And I could be, I suppose.
So I decided to pose this question to Weddingbee. Do you find it weird to ask another adult what they got for Christmas? Why or why not?
Post # 3
I had a few texts along those lines that I didn’t reply to…I don’t like to compare to others that way too.
Post # 4
@LadyBlackheart: Honestly, no I don’t. I also don’t really know of many people that ask what I got for Christmas either.
I am normally pretty accepting of all things FB and I’m a huge advocate for live and let post but I have to admit that posting your Christmas presents mere moments after recieving them does make me a little crazy.
Post # 5
@LadyBlackheart: I guess it depends on your relationship with the person. My brother called and we asked eachother right away what we got for xmas. But i dont run in and ask my coworkers what they got, you know?
Post # 6
I don’t ask people except for maybe kids, and in that case I’m probably just asking not because I really care but just to let them brag about their things. I don’t ask other adults what they got and I don’t usually answer people who question what I got.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands
I’ll ask good friends and family (like my sister) but no one else.
Post # 8
I don’t ask, but I’ll tell if asked.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I don’t ask, but I’ll answer if someone asks me. I usually ask them after I answer so that I don’t seem ‘rude’, but I don’t think it’s very polite to ask in the first place.
ETA: I think the exception is very close friends and family. I don’t feel weird asking or telling if I’m close to the person.
Post # 10
I don’t go out of my way to ask – like I wouldn’t call my friend just to see what her DH got her. However, it’s a possibility for small talk, especially since I see distant family and friends a lot this time of year. If don’t really know what to say to you I may ask you about your gifts and/or holiday plans.
Post # 11
Etiquette Snob here… lol
Not generally (falls into the None Of My Biz category). If I say anything it is perhaps… “Did you have a nice / good Christmas”… and then let them volunteer what they will.
Altho, I do have a very close GF or two I might ask details on if I know they had told me previously about something special they were hoping that Santa would bring
“Sooooo, Did Santa bring you those Earrings you told me about ?”
Post # 12
I don’t ask, but I will tell when asked. I don’t know why, but I am a bit uncomfortable asking people. It just feels like I am asking to be nosy…and I am not a person who gets uncomfortable easily, but this does it. Especially because my husband and my parents tend to spoil me when it comes to gifts. Even when I am asked, it feels like bragging. OAN, my husband’s family literally shows all of their gifts when we go over for the holiday, and they expect me to do the same. One of my gifts from my husband was this gorgeous Movado watch, and they wanted to know why I didn’t wear it because they wanted to see it. My husband also bought me a rechargeable cell phone case (it’s the schitt), which I did have with me, and when I came out of the bathroom he was showing them. What the figgedy f*ck? It is weird.
Post # 13
@LadyBlackheart: i ask all the time – not random strangers but friends and family. I don’t see anything wrong with it.
Post # 14
I don’t ask. I’ve been asked by 1 friend.
Post # 15
Wow I ask people! Whoops!
But it’s more conversational, like “did you have a good christmas, Santa bring you anything cool?” sort of thing, not for comparison & seeing who did better.
Post # 16
I have certain close friends that I always talk about that sort of thing with after Christmas… we’ve been doing it since we were kids so I guess we just never stopped! But even then, I don’t usually ask for a full run down, I just ask if they got anything special.