Do you ask your friends if they got their invite?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

If you’re worried that they didn’t get them why not ask when you see them next? This is a non-issue surely?

Post # 3
6455 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Meh I never say anything to friends when I get their invite and they didn’t say anything to me either. I would just wait until the RSVP date and then ask them if you haven’t received their RSVP.

Post # 4
539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I did, but only because I had several not get them. Several got returned, I was talking to someone who hinted around that they didn’t receive one, & another said her mailman mis delivers stuff all the time& the neighbors won’t re direct it, so I asked everyone else just to be sure.

Post # 5
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We haven’t sent invites yet, but I asked my BMs whether they received their STDs 

Post # 6
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I don’t ask. Some mention it and some don’t. I figure they don’t have to mention it- they just have to RSVP. No need creating multiple checks on ppl. We’re doing things early and we also send out electronic versions from our website to everybody, so I can see that everybody gets the information regardless. Also, if it doesn’t make it to the guest, it’s getting returned to us, so we’d know. For our save the dates, the only one that didn’t make it to the guest or back to us was one of the international ones.  

Post # 7
1272 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I am planning to let my college-aged friends know beforehand that we are sending out STDs and invites (just so they remember to actually go check their mail when they normally wouldn’t). I probably won’t ask if they received them though. I think most of our guests would let us know if they DIDN’T get an invite, because they would be offended haha. With younger guests, I will also probably contact them a little before the RSVP date if they haven’t responded. It just seems like some of my friends are so busy, and I understand if they forgot or didn’t know they should send back the RSVPs.

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