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Have you had an instance where someone used this while speaking with you? Personally, I don't find it hurtful unless someone is purposely attempting to be snarky and use it with some tone.
I avoid it! I think I might have used it to describe that picture with the girl whose dress isn't covering like *any* of her chest but I might have just thought it in my head :). I think it's hurtful and not necessary.
I'm gulity of using this word. I didn't realize how hurtful it was until my fiance at the time pointed it out. I was referring to an idea his mom had for the wedding. The first time I used it, he let it go or snickered a bit, but after I used it twice more he said "That's not really cool that you call my family tacky"
I apologized.
But in my defence her idea was super tacky !
OP - did someone hurt you?
I hate it because it's like the number one word in my mom's vocabulary. Everything is "tacky". She uses it to describe anything she doesn't like, just like you posted above "Especially when it is constantly used for everything under the sun, most of which it doesn't apply to."
I've posted this before, but I had a supervisor that use to call me out in a passive-aggressive manner and would say things like she thought "tramp stamps" were tacky knowing damn well I have one (I HATE it and am NOT proud of it). Everytime I hear someone say "tacky" I can imagine her little rat face all scrunched up and hear her voice. Ugh!
I'm not a huge fan of the word tacky, I feel like there are better ways to say what you want to say without being hurtful.
Tacky (adjective): Not tasteful or fashionable; shabby in appearance; crass, cheaply vulgar, tasteless, crude; gaudy flashy or showy.
It's not the nicest word out there.
My first names rhymes with tacky. So I never liked getting called that as a kid.
It's not part of my regular vocab. But I would probably use it when discussing something with someone I knew had similar opinions as me. With people I didn't know well, definitely not!
@jedeve: "It's not part of my regular vocab."
Same. I reserve it for my inner monologue. ;)
Do you avoid the word 'tacky'?
like the plague!
eta: there are so many good (and more tactful/appropriate) adjctives to use!
Yeah, I try to avoid it, unless I'm just absolutely sure that I must say "tacky." I think it's overused and even misused a lot.
I don't ever use it here, but in real life... Oh, yes.
On Weddingbee, it seems that no matter what you say these days, you'll piss someone off. I'm not about to take that risk and use the word tacky. I can just imagine. Ack.
I dont use the word but my definition would be something not tasteful like writing please give cash gifts only on a wedding invitiation (just an example). I hate when people use it to describe what is not their personal taste because not liking something doesn't make it wrong-just wrong for you.
@stillme: True. I will use it when referring to the stickiness of putty.
Hmm. I wish this putty was tackier so it would stick better. :-)
If somethings tacky, I say it's tacky. I dont have an issue with the word whatsoever. I've had someone tell me that an idea I had for my wedding was tacky but I certainly was not offended by the statement. It's just a word, I don't get why people let it bother them. There are MUCH worse things to be called, IMO.
I don't use it when talking to other people about their weddings, but I definitely use it when talking about my own. "Oh, I don't want that... I think it'll look tacky." Or....."Just let me just have my tacky wedding!!!" when somebody questions my chioces haha
I use the word when appropriate, which is very sparingly. Usually in my inner monologue and usually referring to somone's behavior, rather than their physical appearance or other material aspect. This is one of those words that can quickly become annoying if overused. And it really grates on my nerves when people use it in situations where it doesn't even make sense.
No, I don't avoid it. It's a lot like the F bomb, which covers many scenerios in one word :)
tacky is one of my favorite words! it gets used often and without discrimination.
I try and avoid it when talking wedding stuff. What's tacky to me is totally perfect for someone else. However, there are totally instances in life where the word is appropriate.
I avoid it-- I agree that there are better ways to get the same point across. Also, I feel tacky when I use the word.
I don't. Sometimes there's no other way to describe things. I usually will use other words if they apply (because usually if I can describe what's wrong with something I can offer a good solution to fix it) but some things like colored plastic clip-in hair, t-shirts with "sexy" bodies airbrushed on them and clear plastic shoes with goldfish in them are just...tacky. :)
I don't avoid it, because there are some situations that are truly tacky. However especially on WB I find it way overused and mostly incorrectly.
I don't think it's the best word to use and it can come across as rude. Particularly on WB it's not very constructive to use to simply share your opinion on something.
@Belle2Be: No tarantula shoes are okay because spiders are black...and black goes with anything. :)
I don't necesarily avoid it, I just don't use it. I usually think there are better words to describe whatever it is that I am trying to, well, describe!
Now on another note, I hate when people talk about "drinking the Kool Aid" or "sheeple" but that really isn't wedding related. :)
if you avoid the word tacky because it's "hurtful" then shouldn't every single adjective with a negative connotation be avoided? if "tacky" should be avoided, then one might as well never use the words distasteful, ugly, bratty, selfish, boring, unflattering, outdated, classless, horrible, stupid, annoying, rude, self-centered.. the list goes on. sometimes you have to use a word with a negative connotation to describe a certain thing/person/situation. that's just how it is!
I've never used it to begin with, it's just one of the words that just by itself annoys me. (Does anyone else have words they just hate how it sounds?? Maybe I'm just weird.)
But since being on WB I find it extra-insulting...I mean in my opinion "tacky" would be used to describe maybe ugly clothes, etc. when talking with a friend. Not to describe someone else's wedding and their way of doing things.
I try to avoid it, but I'm definitely one who tries to avoid hurting other's feelings or slighting anyone. Sometimes I think something may be terrible or quite awful, but I just say that 'it's not my taste' or that there may be a better/more efficient/less intense way to do it, etc. I think I'd still get the point if someone said those things to me, but it doesn't sound as harsh as being told something is tacky.
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Does this word bother anyone else? Especially when it is constantly used for everything under the sun, most of which it doesn't apply to. Plus, when it is used, it comes across as hurtful, even if that may not be the intention at all, when there are other words that are much more effective for the situation without being offensive. What are your thoughts on this?