Do you believe in love at first sight ?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Honey bee

Tinkerdust:  Nope, I truly think it is generally lust at first sight. Why? Because you aren’t going to know until the relationship actually leads to a succesful marriage. I have had many friends say they knew when they first saw their now husband (but oddly enough, they also thought the same thing about past guys that didn’t work out). 

When DH and I first met, their was a lot of lust, passion and excitement. Did I say to myself, “he is the one and I will marry him?” Um, no. Why? Because I didn’t believe I could know that quickly. I would be judging solely on looks and that would be a very rash, shallow decision to make (for me at least). 

We were definitely in the “honeymoon phase” for the first two years. Then, it settled down a bit and we realized we were very compatible and the chemistry was still there. We still get excited to spend time together, but we have definitely had our ups and downs at times. 10 1/2 years later, we are happily married and the “passion” is still there, but it’s different than when we first met. 

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Aye, I do and I am getting married to my guy after nine months of dating. I knew within days of meeting him. We were engaged within weeks. He is the arm I never knew I was missing. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Personally, no. The change of brain chemistry is responsible for the the feelings of intense happiness, obsession, lust, energy, and excitement that a person feels. I believe thay these physiological changes happen quickly, and can happen when you first “lay eyes on someone.” I believe that it was these chrmical reactions that caused me to “half-a** try to leave” the table when my met my fiance’. I felt attracted to him. Withen a day, we went on our first date. (Later on I found out from a mutual friend, that she had thought that we had been together for much longer during that first evening.) Withen a couple of weeks, we had discussed a breadth of topics (I can’t say everything, because I am not smart enough to discuss theories in Physics, other sciences, mathematics, etc.). Within four months, I had been more open honest with him about myself and my life, than I had ever been with anyone (including my family). <br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />At the time I thought that we were soulmates and perfect for one another. It wasn’t until we had broken up, became friends, and then started to date again from a far that I truly fell in love with him. He was no longer the perfect man that I had imagined, but someone real. Someone who had flaws, and who was capable of breaking my heart. When we began dating again, it was the first opportunity I had to trust him not to. We have learned so much more about one another, in the past 6-7 years or so. Our connection has deepened. I love him in a way that I was incapable of, when we first met. I love him unconditionally. I am at home with him in a way that I have never been with anyone else. We are still growing as people and as a couple.

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Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Nope. Not me. 

My husband felt something more on our first date; but I didn’t. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Absolutely not. I believe in lust at first sight.

If it’s truly “first sight” then all you’ve done is looked at someone and evaluated what they look like. And looks are pretty low on my list of priorities, so it seems a bad way for me to judge a potential mate. I suppose you can get some imformation about generaly fashion sense, but again lumping someone in preppy or hipster or well groomed or business-like isn’t really helpful for who they actually are. I don’t think you can really know someone from how they look and I don’t think you can love someone that you don’t really know. So love at first sight doesn’t make sense to me. But that’s me. I took 5 years to be sure I was ready to marry my husband!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I can’t edit my post anymore to remove my typos, but I hope that you can still understand my post. I am sorry. I should have checked it again before submitting. <br /><br />

bmo88:  Thank you.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Nope. I have seen relationships where they married quickly and it worked out and I have seen the opposite. I don’t believe you can love someone that quickly because you don’t even know anything about them (other than what they look like obviously).

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Nope. I think it takes time to grow love.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

No, I don’t think you can be in love with someone you don’t know. It’s lust, until you know that person. All you know so far is that you like what you see. But that doesn’t have any bearing on what I believe regarding how slow or fast a couple can fall in love AFTER that.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you can fall in love quickly, but I don’t believe it’s possible to love someone without knowing them.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I believe in a connection/attraction/etc. at first sight… but if it turns into love, then that’s just good luck/coincidence.

I don’t think you can truly love someone unless you know them.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with the others about love vs lust at first sight. But, I will say that when I met my FI, I knew instantly that it was “different” and so did those around me.  

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