(Closed) Do you believe in "meant to be?"

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you believe in "meant to be?"
    Yes (please explain why) : (88 votes)
    53 %
    No (please explain why) : (56 votes)
    34 %
    Not sure (please explain why) : (21 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    3969 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @goodasitgets:  I think things happen for reasons that we might not find out for a while, or might never find out nor understand. So I guess I do think things are “meant to be” even if things feel unfair. 

    ETA: this isn’t to say you can’t make changes in your life. If you’re unhappy, it’s not just “meant to be.” But things like, having emergency surgery, that you could not have prevented. 

    Post # 4
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    1418 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Not really…I believe in decision making, not fate, and believe that we all have many people out there we could be happy with, it’s just about who you decide to choose to be with at the moment in your life where you are ready to choose somebody, basically. And yes, I am a mushy-gushy annoyingly sickly sweet romantic, but also pragmatic, lol.

     

    Edit: and not just in love, in general…for instance my best friend’s father just passed away from cancer, literally within a month of diagnosis he was gone, he was only like 54, was a doctor who had so many patients who loved him so much his wake had a line around the block and the fire marshal was called, and I can’t for the life of me believe that someone who only contributed good to the world dying could have any meaning whatsoever. Although full disclosure I’m an atheist so I’m sure that doesn’t help, haha.

    Post # 6
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    904 posts
    Busy bee

    For me, when my So and I say we were meant to be, it’s because soooooo many things had to happen for the stars to align for us to meet. And when we did, it was like lightening struck. We’ve been madly in love and attached at the hip for a year. Neither one of us can imagine life without the other. We have an odd familiarity with each other. There are too many coincidences for it not have been meant to be.

    Post # 7
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    478 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    the first time i met my FI (through friends) was when i was about 14 (and not at all impressive) hehe and he is a couple of years older and i thought oh my, one day one day he’ll look at me go ah and be mine lol

    years later he messeged me on a social website and i blew him off for a bit then agreed to a date and other without ever even realizing its him until my friend told me who he was months later

    he still can’t remeber ever meeting me lol

    creepyness

    Post # 8
    Member
    6260 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I do now.

    Post # 9
    Member
    79 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Absolutely not. If that piece of crap on the floor was meant to be in the garbage, it would. See? Doesn’t make sense.

    Post # 10
    Member
    904 posts
    Busy bee

    All this said, I don;t believe in one soul mate. I think we have many very suitable partners available to us.

    Post # 11
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    2790 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    I don’t believe in it, but I understand why people try to — it’s a comforting notion.

    Post # 12
    Member
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    No, life is what you make it not what just happens to happen to you.

    Post # 13
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    807 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think it’s a combination of the two. On the one hand, I’ve seen things fall into place in a way I can’t explain. But on the other hand, I firmly believe that the choices we make influence our lives–I don’t believe in being a victim of my circumstances. So maybe, the opportunity/potential pre-exists, but ultimately it’s up to us to determine the outcome. 

     

    Post # 14
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    5408 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Absolutely. I believe in destiny and I think at the end of life, you end up the way you’re supposed to, but your decisions throughout life influence how you get there. But I think the end result is the same. I think our decision making ability just make us feel like we are in control. That’s not to say what we do doesn’t matter, but I think life works out how it’s supposed to. That’s how I feel about life anyway. 

    Post # 15
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    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @RedAngelDreamer:  I agree.

    There is no way we should have ever met and fallen in love, but someone put us together and when I first saw him there was a familiarity that I can’t explain.  It’s something that if you’ve never experienced it, then you can’t explain it.  

    Post # 16
    Member
    529 posts
    Busy bee

    I got fired from a job when I was a few years out of college and I was devastated. My boyfriend at the time wouldn’t let me move in with him and I couldn’t afford to live on my own so I moved back in with my parents 2 hours away. Once I had some space and perspective I realized that my boyfriend was emotionally and borderline physically abusive. Looking back now I can’t see any other circumstance that would have saved me from being with him and I really think he might have killed me eventually (several years after breaking up with him I learned he had out a past girlfriend in the hospital). So in general I believe we make our own choices and find our own paths but every once in a while something happens that makes me wonder if there isn’t a bigger plan at work…

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