Do you buy birthday presents for your sibling's partners/spouses?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Do you buy presents for your siblings in law?
    I buy presents for my sibling's spouse : (8 votes)
    13 %
    I don't buy presents for my sibling's spouse : (6 votes)
    10 %
    I buy presents for my spouse's siblings : (4 votes)
    6 %
    I don't buy presents for my spouse's siblings : (2 votes)
    3 %
    I buy for my sibling's spouse AND my spouse's siblings : (11 votes)
    18 %
    I don't buy for my sibling's spouse OR my spouse's siblings : (24 votes)
    39 %
    I buy for my sibling's spouse but not my spouse's siblings : (1 votes)
    2 %
    I buy for my spouse's siblings but not my sibling's spouse : (6 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    2792 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    You don’t have my option up there, so I didn’t vote.  We don’t exchange presents for birthdays other than buying a drink for who’s ever birthday it is, but at Christmas, we give a joint present from me and my FI to FSIL and FBIL, and they give us one joint present in return. 

    Post # 4
    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No, actually a group of us just went out to dinner for my husband’s brother’s fiance’s birthday. We did not bring a gift and I would not want her to get me one either on my birthday.

    Actually my husband’s sister gave me a gift card for my birthday and I DISliked it – simply because now I feel obligated to get her something (no idea what) and I don’t want to start this gift giving tradition!!

    Kids? different story.

    Post # 5
    922 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I don’t really have a standard on this one, it kind of depends how close i am to the person, and how I’m doing financially at the time. One of my brothers’ irlfriends is my really good friend, so I generally do get her a gift. Both of FI’s siblings live out of state, but if they were in town for their birthday’s I’d probably get them a little something.

    For Christmas, I picka  gift I want to make and make the same thing for everyone. It’s cost effective and no one feels left out.

    Post # 6
    1666 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    @Deejayelle:  Here is what we do:

    FI’s Family – we buy birthday and Christmas presents for his parents, siblings, and that girl his brother is dating (really wish we didn’t have to get her anything, but I digress)

    My family – we buy birthday presents for my parents, siblings, and FBIL. At Christmas, we get my parents a joint gift and my siblings, FI, and FBIL do a PJ Swap; basically, you buy yourself a set of pajama, hand your pjs to the person next to you, hand them back to the person who bought them, and act all surprised. It’s actually really funny to watch (my parents always crack up).

    Post # 7
    1952 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I voted that I buy for my husband’s siblings and not my own, but really we just give them money. We give money to SIL’s husband, but my husband’s brothers are single. We do give the kids presents though.

    Post # 8
    830 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Deejayelle:  My fiance’s sisters have always given me gifts on my birthday and at Christmas, and I have done the same (and my sisters have always given my fiance gifts as well and vice versa).

    I remember early on in our relationship, it was always “separate” presents – as in, my fiance would give his sisters a gift from himself, and then I’d give them a gift from me.

    As our relationship became more serious, we naturally moved on to giving his sisters/my sisters a single gift from the both of us.

    Post # 9
    6447 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My husband buys a gift for his brother so I guess in a way I’m giving a gift as well.

    ETA: he writes my name on those gifts to his brother and we share money so yes, I get his brother a gift but we don’t give him two separate gifts.

    When my brother gets married or his brother gets married we will likely buy presents for them as well.


    Post # 10
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I buy presents for my siblings and their spouses. I like to give presents. Getting presents, however, makes me feel very awkward. 

    Post # 11
    1112 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Nne of our siblings have spouses, or even boyfriend/girlfriends. We do however always give a present to each sibling, from both of us. When they’re all married… well, we’ll probably try, but DH has 3 brothers and a sister so it could get a little difficult to keep track of. My brother should be much easier.

    Post # 12
    1116 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    “I” don’t specifically buy gifts for my BIL, but we have all our money in one account now essentially, so some of ‘my’ money goes towards buying presents for my BIL. Just like some of DH’s money goes towards buying presents for my sister. The ‘rule’ though is that we have to pick out and purchase the gifts for our own sibling and parents. Or DH at least has to tell me exactly what to get so I can go out and get it. (I work right next to a mall and go ther often so for me to stop and get a sweater for my BIL or whatever is no big deal).

    Before we co-mingled funds we’d just each spend a little more than usual on presents and make them from both of us, which meant it evened out in the end (I’d spend an extra $25 on my sister’s present as then BF/FI’s contribution, he’d spend an extra $25 on his brother’s present as ‘my’ contibution). Works out nice since our immediate families (the people we buy presents for) are the same size.

    Post # 13
    1737 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

    @Deejayelle:  looks like I am the one and only

    “I buy for my sibling’s spouse but not my spouse’s siblings”

    My family is close like that and his is not.

    Post # 14
    1208 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2004

    I get everyone a card.  Husband is ridiculous to shop for so I usually just throw him a party.  We really only do presents for Cheistmas.

    Post # 15
    6674 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Yes to sibling’s spouses and spouses’s siblings for  milestone birthdays or if we are celebrating together. Otherwise, a card. We do the same for siblings.

    Post # 16
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    In my family, we go out for dinner and treat the birthday person (well in reality the couple) and give a card.  With DH’s family, I get a gift for my SIL.  It’s become a thing with her as her birthday is close to Christmas.  She doesn’t get me a birthday gift, but when we’re in town she does take us out for dinner.


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