Post # 1
I have never bought my friends’ kids presents. I will bring them little things now and then. My BIL has told me before that he’s not really interested in his friends buying them presents. He worries that they don’t know what the child needs and will just buy toys that will clutter the house. I’ve heard other parents say this so I never worried about buying kids presents.
Much to my surprise I went to a friend’s Christmas party last year and everyone brought the kids presents except for DH and I. Oops! We’re going to the same party next week and now we’re wondering if we should buy presents for the kiddies.
Does it depend on how close you are to the children? Does it make a difference that we don’t have kids ourselves?
Post # 3
I don’t buy friends’ kids gifts. Holy cow that sounds like a pandoras box of trouble. There are tons of kids in our network of friends and it would totally break us. No, only graduation gifts from us.
Post # 4
@AlwaysSunny: Did adults exchange gifts at last year’s party? If not, I’d say it’s a non-gift party and you did nothing wrong last year.
The only time, ever, that I buy gifts for other people’s kids is when my kids are invited to their birthday party. (And same with other people and my kids).
Post # 5
I dont have kids
I buy things for my BF of 27 years. I dont see her or her kid very often even though we live in the same metro area. But I do try to get her little things for her birthday or xmas or when I travel to some place fun.
I have 2 other friends that I see more often (every week), but we’ve only known each other 4 years and gotten super close this past year. I dont buy their kids gifts unless we are invited to a birhtday party.
Post # 6
I bought a gift for my best friend’s 18 month old. She doesn’t have much money so I got him something I know she’s been wanting to get him. Otherwise, I don’t buy for friends’ kids.
Post # 7
We buy a gift for my best friend’s daughter and my husband’s best friend’s daughter. So just the ones we are close to. Their kids call us Auntie and Uncle and I enjoy getting them little things at Christmas so I do 🙂 Usually a book or piece of clothing.
Post # 8
I don’t. In general I try to keep the whole gift giving thing from spiraling out of control and I don’t give gifts to friends for xmas. I am keeping this going with friends kids. Honestly, we live in such a world of plenty that my friends really don’t need the extra things for their kids and I certainly don’t want to create a situation where they start buying stuff for me (I need more stuff like I need a hole in the head).
Gift giving is not really something that I connect with. To me it all just feels like part of the consumerist culture that we’d be better off without.
Post # 9
@paula1248: Well there was an adult “secret Santa” gift exchange but I guess nothing was arranged for the children. I didn’t really give any thought to it until I got there. They were all around 1 year old at the time so it would be silly for them to “give” presents to each other.
@cbgg: I agree with you. I’m not really into spending a lot on presents. I will put a lot of thought into a $20 – 30 gift for DH and our parents each year but that’s it. I always appreciate the thought with someone buys me a birthday and/or Christmas present but I’m not a person who needs things.
Post # 10
I buy my BFF’s son something for borthday and Chirstmas. We buy birthday presents for DH’s best friend’s kids, but that’s because we’re always invited to their birthday parties – can’t show up without a present 🙂
We don’t have kids yet but I am currently pregnant.
Post # 11
I only have a handful of close friends who have kids, and I always buy stuff for them. I think that may dwindle as more and more people have kids, but right now, it’s manageable.
Post # 12
i do because my friends son is my godson and im really close to him…if that werent the case i probably still would get something
Post # 13
I used to buy for only my best friend’s kids. This year I’m not. Between buying the house, the dog, & $2400 towards getting my car fixed, I just can’t do it right now. Luckily I only have to buy for 3 people + the dog.
Post # 14
I don’t but I probably would if any of my close friends had children.
Post # 15
@Rubbs: I hear you! I bet the dog will be happy with whatever you buy him though
Post # 16
We don’t. We have enough kids we are actually related to who need gifts from us 😛