Do you call your FI your husband / wife to anyone?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

MrsUPS:  I’ve never heard my FI call me his wife. I do call him my husband sometimes when fiance just feels awkward. Example, our power company called because it’s time to renew our contract. I said I needed to talk about it with my husband and call them back before we agree to a new contract. It’s just easier and there are less questions and judgements from strangers! 

Post # 3
1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Sometimes. When we were renting and meeting landlords in a tight rental market, toooootally. 

Fiance sounds strange to me, coming out of my mouth. And sometimes it sounds goofy saying “oh I’ll have to talk to my fiance about it first”. I really just don’t like the word! 

Post # 4
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

My doctor referred to him as my husband and I didn’t correct him, but we don’t refer to each other as such yet. I usually call him my boyfriend as I hate the word fiancé, it’s so uncomfortable to say!!

Post # 5
2136 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

No, not really. I think there was something recently, but I can’t remember what it was…I think it was a warranty for something and we thought it was kind of weird that they wanted to know how many people lived in the house and their relation, but anyway it wasn’t that important so FI put me down as his wife on the form since we’re so close to our wedding.

We also just got a new internet service from a small town company and we just used FI’s last name for both of us…just because I don’t want to have to go back and change it, and we asked one of the owners and told him our wedding date and he said it was fine.

But yeah, before we got so close to our wedding date we would never “pretend” we were married. Haha, aaaand, since I don’t like to bother my friends all the time with wedding talk, I kind of reserve the wedding talk for randoms. Like when someone asks if we’re married, I’ll dive right into our upcoming wedding details (lol not all the deets, just date and location and the importance of the date hahaha I’m so awful). So it’s still fun to say we’re engaged. 🙂

Post # 6
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I do quite often, but I think it’s mostly when I’m speaking Czech. The word for husband is much easier to get off the tongue than fiance.

But we call each other husband and wife all the time in private. 😀 We’re just really excited.

Post # 8
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I just did it the other day on the phone and I got all giddy! I had to order FI a credit card under my account so he is actually able to do some errands for me and when they asked his relationship to me I just blurted out husband! I usually just refer to him when speaking as my boyfriend as the word fiance has never rolled off my tongue that easily. 

I know FI has called me his wife to a ridiculous number of people, he finds when he mentions girlfriend that they don’t seem to take our relationship seriously, when he says fiancee they just get weird and ask wedding questions, but when he refers to me as his wife they seem more respectful when speaking.

Post # 9
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

It’s quite common slang where I’m from in the UK for a man to refer to his SO as ‘the Mrs’ but we certainly don’t call each other husband or wife yet. More like ‘hubby to be’ and ‘future Mrs Hislastname’.

people often assume we are married and it depends who it is as to whether I correct them or not…

Post # 10
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

nope. we’re not married yet, therefore, he isn’t my husband. it feels wrong to think of calling him my husband before we’re married.

Post # 11
582 posts
Busy bee

MrsUPS:  I dislike it too for similar reason.  It confuses people!

Post # 12
6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Some people may just not want to put their real date in order to stay anonymous.

Post # 13
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We joke about it in private but never say it in public. 

Post # 14
5188 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

DH and I started referring to each other as husband and wife when we moved together; we didn’t discuss doing it, it just happened.  We married many years later, and the wedding didn’t make us feel more husband and wife than we already felt.

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