Post # 1
Just wondering what everyone else does…
In my circle I seem to be the only one who calls my FI’s aunts and uncles “Aunt ____” and “Uncle _____”. Everyone else engaged or married calls their spouse’s aunts and uncles just by their first names. Even Fiance calls my aunts and uncles just by their first names!
I don’t know why it started like this…maybe because we started dating when I was 19, I felt very young and had never been in a particularly serious relationship before so I had never really done the “meet the extended family” thing, and I didn’t feel ballsy enough to call his aunts and uncles by just their first names. But Fiance didn’t meet my aunts and uncles until last Christmas, when we were 22, and everyone thought he was going to propose on Christmas (i.e. they knew we were serious about each other), so maybe he felt “old” enough and “family” enough to call them just by their first names? That’s my theory anyway haha.
So what do you call them? Aunt/Uncle So-and-So, or just first names?
Post # 3
I call FI’s aunts and uncles by their first names, because that is what he and his siblings do. None of them say, “Aunt D” or “Uncle E” They just say, “I talked to D.” or “E used to work there.” So, that is what I do. Now, as far as the grandparents go, I call FI’s grandparents “Meme” and “Pawpaw”. I just felt rude calling them by their real names. Even Future Mother-In-Law calls FFIL’s parents “Meme” and “Pawpaw”. I have only met FMIL’s parents twice (she doesn’t talk to or see them much do to a family disagreement). But, when Future Mother-In-Law refers to her parents in conversation with me she says, “Mawmaw” and “Pawpaw”. Kind of insinuating that I should also call them those names.
Post # 4
I call them by their first names, but if I’m writing a card that is from both of us, like a thank-you card, I’ll use “Aunt ___” and “Uncle ___” for simplicity’s sake.
Post # 5
I do…. but only because our kids do as does the rest of the family. I think it would be more weird if I didn’t.
Post # 6
I call everyone by their first name. Including my Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law, his aunts, uncles, whatever.
Post # 7
Same. No one in his family is “aunt ____” or “uncle ____” Everyone just goes by their first names. He has great aunts and uncles who occasionally get “aunt” or “uncle” put in front of their name but not very often. I call his grandma “Grandma Connie” and I just call his grandpa “Grandpa.” It’s the opposite in my family though. I have an Aunt Cyndi, Aunt Debbie, etc. and he calls them that because that’s what we call them.
Post # 8
@kperry3: Ditto! Unless I am addressing a card or something from the both of us then Ill put Aunt and Uncle since its from their nephew as well.
Post # 9
I haven’t met his yet but he calls them by their first names, I think. In our family we always said ‘tia’ and ‘tio’ (aunt and uncle in spanish) No names because it’s considered disrespectful in my family. So not sure how comfortable I’ll be using names when I meet them, its very weird for me. I always said ‘tio and tia’. Grandma was ‘lita’. My nieces call me ‘tia’ (LOVE hearing it 🙂 ) Only people called by their names are siblings, cousins, and son/daughters. And if cousins are older … like I am 22 and my little cousins are 12 and under, they call me tia. I do the same to my older cousins as well.
Post # 10
I don’t even call my own aunts and uncles “Aunt_” or “Uncle _,” so I don’t call his that either. Luckily, he calls them by their first name, as well.
Post # 11
I have never even met most of my FI’s aunts/uncles yet, but I will be meeting them for the first time at our shower in a few days. I just refer to his closest aunt that I’ve met by her first name cuz I don’t feel particularly close to her since I’ve only seen her a few times.
Post # 12
I always call them by their titles. It’s more respectful, I think. I even call his parents Mom and Dad.
Post # 13
Seems I do that with teh older generation..his 80 year old is “Aunt Claire,” Grandma is Grandma, but the younger aunts/uncles/cousins are just first names.
Although we both call his dad Uncle but that is an inside joke.
Post # 14
@Kant: I say Aunt and Uncle so and so. I call his grandma, grandmama so and so. etc. For me it is a matter of respect I guess.
Post # 15
They are not MY aunts and uncles- so why would i? Then again, I call my own aunts and uncles by their first names only since I’ve been an adult. At this point in life they are much more my friends than my parent’s sbilings.
Post # 16
I call them by their first names, but so does Darling Husband and his siblings. The only people I call by a title are his grandmas. I also call my aunts and uncles by their first names, and so does Darling Husband.