Post # 1
This is a spinoff of the small rings thread. I’m genuinely curious – do you care about status symbols? Are designer labels important to you? Do you feel you need to drive a status symbol car, have a prestigious address and/or as big a home as you can afford? If so, why? If not, why not?
Post # 3
@Zhabeego: I don’t really care. Do I have certain products that I splurge on because I genuinely like a name brand better? Yes. But for instance, when it comes to clothes, shoes and accessories, I almost never buy designer but I look like I do. I think you can look great and be noticed and that it doesn’t all depend on flashy name brands. I get complimented on my sense of style all the time and most of my clothes come from Old Navy, vintage shops, etc. Its all in how you put things together.
Post # 4
I don’t really care about status symbols. Sometimes if a brand is hugely popular as a status symbol brand (among most people anyway), I actually find them to be a turnoff so I will avoid that brand for that reason. But I do like nice things so sometimes I will definitely want certain brands/manufacturer’s because I find them to be better made or more attractive than others. This could apply to clothing, shoes, electronics, or housewares/kitchen stuff.
I really don’t care about cars, so I would want a nice car with good gas mileage but I could care less about a luxury car. I don’t need a prestigious address, but I still would want a nice home! And I would never buy a home “as big as I could afford” just for the hell of it. I mean if I won the lottery, I wouldn’t be buying a 10 million dollar home just because. I’d rather buy a few vacation homes or something I can rent out when I’m not there. And I definitely wouldn’t spend every last cent of my disposable income trying to impress people with a big house. I’d rather live in a smaller house and be able to afford other nice things (like vacations).
Post # 5
I’m pretty much the exact opposite. I prefer to be as non-pretentious as possible so I avoid outward status symbols. Most material things are pretty low on my priority list. I don’t really care about nice finishes to a home. I rarely buy new clothes and then don’t buy anything expensive. My jewelry is nice (including my e-ring) but it’s all heirloom, I wouldn’t really spend that much to get new jewelry. My husband and I generally gift each other experiences – tickets to shows, nice dinners, etc. And we spend a lot on vacations. And we invest a lot in retirement. Those are our priorities. So no, I don’t have designer anything because it’s just not worth the money to me, because I don’t get that much pleasure out of a name. That being said, there are things where I will pay for quality. For instance, I have accepted that I just have to be willing to pay more to get a bra that fits me well. So I do (thought you certainly wouldn’t ever see that!). Same with luggage. I tried cheaper versions and they just don’t last. But I’m not paying for a brand, I’m paying to get what I want. If I could get what I wanted with a different name for cheaper – I absolutely would!
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I’ll spend more on something that isn’t plastered with labels. Brands like dooney & bourke, coach, and michael kors are a turnoff because they are so brand-y. I don’t want to sport and advertisement for a brand everywhere that I go. It’s a turn-off for me.
That said, I’m also a person who prefers quality to quantity. I would rather spend a few hundred on a pair of shoes that will look great and last for a long time than spend $30 on a pair that will break in a season (cough- those silver wedges I loved that broke in 4 months- cough). Or I’ll spend $150 on a nice leather bag and use it all year instead of a smaller amount each season for something where the stitching will quickly fall out. So when it comes to quality, brand often does matter. There are brands that I have come to trust for products that last.
And it’s the same with where we live. We live in a very pricey area. We didn’t choose to live there because it is expensive. We chose to live there because the schools for DS are amazing and the quality of life is exactly what we are looking for (safe, quiet, uncrowded). But all of those things that drew us in are also what make it very expensive and therefore somewhat exclusive. If you say you live in west county, people know you dropped a good chunk of change on your house. Some people call that prestige, but I am sure others call it foolishness. I don’t care what they think. I only care that we love our neighborhood, our home, our son’s school, etc.
EDIT: I agree with another poster that I generally refuse to spend a lot on clothes. Mine is a weight issue. I’m always losing or gaining. I don’t feel like spending a lot on clothes that probably won’t fit in 2 years. I’m all about Marshalls, Lands End, JC Penney, and Kohls. Cheap is good. 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
I voted yes… but for me the first thing that came to mind as a “status symbol” is my education. I’m not going to lie.. I’m really proud of the prestigious schools I have attended and will name drop them IRL if it comes up.
Purses and makeup? Yes it matters. I’ll buy eye shadows from Urban Decay over Loreal just because they are better quality. I’ll buy a nice designer bag because I know I’m going to use it everyday until it wears out.
Clothes? Meh. Most of my stuff comes from Express. I’m well put together but my outfits definietly aren’t designer.
Jewelry? Moissy! I didn’t have to have a designer ring. I actually like that my ring is custom because I’m the only one with it!
Post # 8
@Zhabeego: I like luxury items for their quality, not because the lady next to me thinks I am awesome. DH drives a very nice luxury car and has started to enjoy luxury items like watches. He is the least superficial person I know and frankly doesn’t give a rat’s ass about impressing anyone. He, like I, sees the benefit in these items and purchases them for his own personal enjoyment.
Post # 9
@lovekiss: Oh, I don’t like some of those bags for that same reason! I do like some of their bags but none with the logos smeared all over it. For the most part I find those really hideous.
Post # 10
Yes and no.
Say I do become uber wealthy overnight I will still probably get excited when I find a coupon I can use, and go to McDonald’s once a week.
Will I deck myself out entirely in designer merchandise? Probably not. I would definitely add a few designer bags to my collection, though.
I do care to an extent, like most of the time I try to present myself as someone who is doing well in life. I won’t go into debt to achieve this, though. I also don’t buy labels for the sake of labels… I like that mix of quality and being well-known as well.
We have a BMW right now and I love it… but with things like cars you get the perks for the price, right.
Post # 11
No, not at all.
I refuse, REFUSE, to buy a brand like Michael Kors or Coach. If you walked in to Wal-Mart and saw a bag that had a bunch of “MK”s on it, would you think it was cute? NO. People mostly buy these for the brand ONLY. Take a look at a BCBG shirt. Guarantee it will say “Made in China” and be made out of the same fabric as something you can find at Target. All you’re doing when you buy brands like this is paying extra to advertise FOR them. It’s nuts! Not to mention, have you ever looked at Michael Kors clothing? It’s HIDEOUS!! This guy has to be laughing all the way to the bank because he is a piss poor excuse for a “designer”.
My main reasoning is, I find joy in the more important things in life– family, friends, travel, and helping people. Yes, I can go buy myself a multi-thousand dollar handbag, but at the end of the day, it doesn’t take away any personal turmoil I may be in, or bring back those in my life that I have lost.
Post # 12
I actively dislike status symbols and have negative associations with people who do seem to care a lot about them.
I think that mindful consumption and living a simpler life are virtues, and luxury status symbols fly in the face of that.
I do like quality, in the areas where it counts. Of course, quality and status luxury status symbols do not have a straight forward relationship. Sometimes the high end brand is woth the money for quality purposes. Sometimes it’s not. Sometimes the level of luxury afforded serves no practical purpose (I feel this way about fancy cars).
Post # 13
@Zhabeego: I’d really like to hear from the people who voted yes, they care. I’m so curious.
Count me in as someone who likes nice things – but for the thing itself. For instance, I do think you often get what you pay for and I can appreciate something that’s well made, quality and will last. To me, I’d rather buy it once and buy it right than buy something cheap that’s crap that I’ll either dislike or just have to replace. Then again, if its something thats not that important – I’ll totally cheap out to save money. However, I never buy anything simply becasue its X brand. And can I just say I also really loathe logo bags and wear? I do not care to be a walking billboard for some company. That seems tacky to me. Like, LOOK! I have a Coach bag here so you know I paid X for it! Blech.
I never feel like I need to project a certain image other than being stylish, wearing flattering clothes and looking my best. But as symbols of my success or social status? Never.
When I’ve bought homes, I’ve naturally wanted to live in a good, safe neighborhood but I’ve never sought out a house because it was in a tony zip code. I wouldn’t reject a house that was, its just not something that registers on my list of needs/wants.
Post # 14
I do! Not going to lie.
I have a super expensive ring, and I love it. I don’t judge people with smaller rings, I just love how flashy mine is!
My car is nice, but not super extravagant, and our apartment is nice but not super extravagant. The things I own clearly mark me as being firmly middle class! And I like that.
Though I am a giant Craigslist ho. I have a few things that are ultra-fancy because I only had to pay a small fraction of the cost! Like our Petunia Pickle Bottom diaper bag. Love a great deal!
Post # 15
I do not buy nice things purely because of the name, but I will pay more money for somthing that is high quality, good construction, and aesthetically interesting. However, for basics I will go to “cheaper” stores. Things like cotton t-shirts, tank tops, plain cardigans etc. can be inexpensive and hold up fairly well.
Post # 16
@FutureDrAtkins: I never thought about education.
In general though, I buy something because I like it. Now that I’m an adult, I do tend towards buying the nicer stuff (and thus more expensive stuff) because I have money and consider it an investment (ie this is stuff I’ll have for a long time as opposed to when I was in college and needed something to just get by). I don’t care about designers and labels and brands.
I also always thought it was in poor taste to flaunt your wealth.