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OK I got a txt message from one of my closest friends that asked if she could wear a black dress because she had been shopping and seen nothing she would wear to an afternoon wedding
My response was to wear whatever makes you feel beautiful and that my suggestion is wear something that you would wear to KY Derby or English Garden Party.
So I kind of dodged the question because I was surprised that I actually would really rather people not wear black. I feel so stupid though and I know if she had shown up in a black dress it would not have phased me at all . . .
So do you care if your guests wear black?
no... but i'm not traditional in the least, they can come in their pj's for all i care
No, I don't care. I feel like some people are more comfortable in black (because it's slimming, I guess?) and I'm fine with that. I doubt one person wearing black would make my wedding look like a funeral, and I'd probably be too busy to notice anyway!
BTW, if she's fixated on the black dress, maybe she can offset it with some colorful accessories.
Not at all... I don't think that black means any certain thing or that it has to have a somber or serious connotation to it
i didn't want my mom or Dh's mom to wear black but that was it.
and the only reason that is is because my mom said my dads mom wore black to their wedding because she didn't want them to get married...
silly but true!
I voted I could care less, because I honestly don't! All the colors are welcome in our wedding. :D
I wouldn't want someone dressed for a funeral but I don't mind tasteful black with colored accents. I can't dictate what people wear, but I would want them to dress for a celbration.
No. I'd care if it was one of our parents, but I didn't care what the guests wore as long as they were dressed appropriately.
As long as they don't show up in jeans or a white dress I don't care!
No I don't mind. I think many people associate black with dressy.
@AirForceWife78: This about sums it up for me! Unfortunately, based on a recent wedding, I think my cousin's bf may wear jeans...but whatever, I'm sure I won't care too much the day of.
@AirForceWife78: I second that! (half of my family will probably show up in jeans!)
I wouldn't care... I always shop intending to add some color in my wardrobe but honestly have a difficult time (I don't like a lot of patterns, bright colors, can't wear some colors because of my skin fair skin tone). So I know it sometimes can be difficult to find a colorful dress!
I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE black, it's THE most classic color (shade) of all time. So I would never discourage anyone, ever wedding or not to not wear black.
My closet is filled with dressy clothes that in some way involve the color black. I would not be offended if someone wore black to my wedding because I have worn black (with fun colored heels or jewelery) to many weddings!
nah, because usually the black dress is fancy and accessorized with colorful shoes or something. As long as it doesn't look like a mourner's outfit and they don't drape a black veil over their faces I'm okay
Not in the least. It would fit our color scheme perfectly if the guests wore black! White might upset me though. My FI and I are both wearing white.
I don't care if they wear black, I DO care if my mother wears black, and I got called a bridezilla (by a bridal shop worker) for saying that.
I didn't care one bit what people wore. I had plenty ask me, and I just told them to wear something they liked and would be happy to see themselves wearing in pictures.
@TopazWedding: I can't believe they would say that to you!
On the other hand, my mom is wearing black and cream to my wedding, haha!
No. Our bridesmaids wore black and so did my step mom. Unless they were the hat with the veil over their face like they are mourning, then I don't care at all.
Most people wore black to ours, I think! All of the bridesmaids were in mismatched LBD's, and several guests wore black dresses/skirts, etc. Both of our moms wore black pants suits with silver accents. My grandma wore a black dress too.
It was New Year's Eve, after all :)
My mom said to me, "But if your BM's wear black dresses, how will your guests know who they are if other people wear black?"
My response was, "Uh, because they're standing next to me and sitting at the head table?!"
Grandma was also afraid of "looking like a bridesmaid." I was like, "No offense intended grandma, but no one is going to think you're a bridesmaid." Hahahaha.
Moral of story: I didn't care. AT ALL.
No but white/ivory/cream and some shades of champagne would bother me. I would say something if they asked in advance, but not day of.
i don't care if they wear black becasue on a daily basis i dress in all black. Whatever they are comfortable to party in i'm fine with ^_^
I heard someone say your not suppose to wear red becasue it pulls attention away from the bride, but i havn't heard that your not suppose to wear black o_o. i can see how it would be kind of out of place at a garden party though.
My bridesmaids are wearing little black cocktail dresses of their choice, so clearly I don't mind. But even if they were in a different color, I really wouldn't mind my guests wearing black, Its not like they are trying to overtly disapprove of my wedding. If they were, I hope they would show their discontent in a less passive-aggressive manner.
I honestly don't mind black at weddings and I am glad that people are starting to embrace it more for all events.
I would mind women wearing all white, that to me is a no-no.
No, in NYC it's very common to wear black to weddings. I have felt underdressed at times wearing color!
Ha, both my mom and one of my best friends wore all black to my wedding. It didn't bother me in the slightest; hell, my mom actually wore black to her OWN wedding when she married my stepdad. (It had some colored accents and didn't look like a funeral or anything!) I think it's just a classy dress-up color.
One of my fave pics of me and my mom:
Just a brief comment: "I could care less" means you care. It's "I couldn't care less."
I prefer that people don't wear black, but it's not that big of a deal.
No not at all. I tried to convince both my mom and my FMIL to wear black, but both didn't want to appear to be sad. So no black for either of them.
Ha my apologies to both of you - I did not catch that I did that. Guess I was too distracted by visions of LBD at my afternoon spring wedding :) It is fixed!
Nope, I really wouldn't care. My BM's are going to be in black, so as long as my guests don't show up in the same dress I couldn't care less.
I wouldn't be offended but I do think it would look out of place considering we're having an outdoor lunchtime reception in SoCal. Having said that, I was trying to convince my mother the other day that if she couldn't find anything else, she could wear a black skirt with the blue jacket she's wearing, and she would have none of it. "I am not wearing black to your wedding!" Um, OK Mom. :)
Apparently, I missed an important memo somewhere. I was never under the impression that it was unacceptable to wear black to a wedding.
@Frog E.: My mom did the same thing. I do not mind a black skirt with a dressy suit jacket but my mom was horrified. She will not wear red, black or white to any wedding and that is how I was brought up too.
I think it bugs me more because it is springtime and afternoon so I was thinking pretty colors but if my guests like wearing a LBD and feel good then i know I will not mind on the day
@fembride045: Technically for those of us who are older you were not supposed to wear black because it was a funereal color and thus indicated you might not approve of the wedding - you also never wore white or red. Just an old rule I guess
I wouldn't care if people wore black! As long as they are not wearing white, I'm all good.
? I love black. I think it looks great on people, so I wouldn't mind :) I would be glad because they would look nice.
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