Post # 1
I told my boyfriend years ago when we were still casually talking about getting engaged someday that I didn’t care if he got me a real diamond or not. I’ve had many friends say that they would never do this or don’t understand it.
I have several good reasons:
1) Sometimes you really can’t tell it’s not real. There are some nice quality cubic zirconia stones. I just don’t want one that looks like it was really cheap.
2) I will work in a Dental office soon as a hygienist and can’t wear my ring for 30-40 hours of the week anyways.
3) I’d rather him spend the money on something else…either it can go to a wedding fund or towards a down payment for a house.
4) After we have more money he can upgrade to a real one for an anniversary or something if we want to at that time.
What do you think? Have any of you told your SO this? Or would you care if he got you a fake diamond ring?
Post # 3
I love the diamonds in my ring, but very honestly, I would have loved whatever my fiance could afford. You’re right—it’s often hard to spot a fake. And what really matters is the concept that you’re getting married, not that you’re wearing diamonds on your left hand. 🙂
Post # 4
I think if no one pretends its real and you knew what he was going to get and were fine with it then thats ok, but if he said it was real but it wasn’t that’d be really deceitful. I’d probably go with a cheaper, colored, gem stone before I went with something that was “pretending” to be something else. You’d either have to keep telling people it wasn’t a diamond, or you’d have to lie and say it was because most people would assume- and you know what they say about that.
Post # 5
I wish I could say that I’d be fine with whatever, but honestly I wanted a real one. Its the only “real” piece of jewlery I own and its important to me. I wear it everyday though and I plan to wear it everyday for the rest of my life so I wanted it to be special. To me having the real thing was worth it.
Post # 6
I can already see it… everyone gettin all controversial on this post haha. I think you should get whatever you can afford! My sister has a cz and i think it looks fine! until i put mine next to it.. and honestly, who will be comparing rings with you? no one. I got a real diamond bc FI was getting a bonus at the time and had saved up for it so we could afford it. We wanted that expense to be out of the way and not have that as an extra bill when we were married. You make legit reasons so do what you want and what will make you happy 🙂
Post # 7
I would be lying if I said I didn’t care. I would prefer a real diamond. But I would have to agree with Papercrane in that I would prefer a different, colored gemstone over something that was trying to look like a diamond. But that’s just my preference. I would accept and cherish whatever my FH could afford.
Post # 8
My FI really wanted to get me a real diamond (I’m the saver, he’s the spender), although I would have liked to see the money go towards our home or something.
I have to admit, though, I do really like my ring 🙂
I wouldn’t have minded a lab-made diamond or other center stone, as long as he didn’t try to deceive me into thinking it was real and it wasn’t.
Post # 9
I would not want a fake diamond…but I also couldn’t walk around with a fake Louis Vuitton or Chanel bag…just something about me know it wasn’t real……I’m sure I’m not of the majority but oh well..
Post # 10
I mean, given a choice, yeah, I’d want a diamond. But if a real diamond meant no engagement, I’d for sure be okay with a “fake.” The engagement mattered more to me than the exact ring.
Post # 11
My fiance made it very clear there was no way he was buying a diamond – we could use one from grandparents or buy something non-diamond but for a whole host of reasons he wouldn’t pay for a diamond. I didn’t want a ring at all and had to be talked into wearing one, so i was fine with that, and we ended up with an emerald ring. Have you considered something like that? I have a friend with an aquamarine that no one would mistake for a diamond, but it’s reeeeaaally pretty. There’s a whole host of semiprecious and precious stones that are way less expensive, so you save money, but you also don’t have to worry about people thinking it’s fake.
To be honest, I think it’s really great to spend less on the ring. It can always be upgraded later. The issue is more how you’d feel about wearing it in public and dealing with other people’s reactions – if someone asks if it’s real, would it make you feel bad to say it’s not? Would you want to lie? Would you be super psyched to tell someone that it’s a cheaper alternative for at least the time being? It’s about what makes you feel comfortable.
Post # 12
I didn’t care if it was real or fake as long as it didn’t look cheap. I, too, prefer that the money go towards something more useful (house, student loans, etc.). I also didn’t want him borrowing money to pay for it.
My FI got me a real diamond and made sure the cost was within his means. I love my ring and love it more knowing that he was wise with choosing it.
Post # 13
@Entangled: i agree about it being upgraded later. but i hope no one ever says “hey is your ring real?” sorta rudeeeee eh?
Post # 14
Honestly it wouldn’t bother me… after all this money was spent on my real diamond ring, I came on here and started reading about Moissanite rings and wished I got one of those instead LOL… we would have saved a lot of money to put towards our house, and who would really notice the difference. But not everyone thinks this way. Its your own personal choice, but if you really want to get married, but can’t justify spending the money on a diamond, why not go for the latter?
Post # 15
I woulda wondered why DH was hoarding his money and being a cheapskate, not buying me a real diamond, considering our situation at the time…. But really, i wanted the classic diamond engagement ring and he seemed surprised at the idea of anything else. He’s a traditionalist.
Post # 16
I have a 2 ct diamond and while I love it and love what it represents for us…I see it as a total waste of money. If I had it to do over again, I’d have requested something else and saved the $$ for something else. My ring costs about as much as we spent on our wedding & honeymoon together which looking back I find a bit ridiculous (and I’m sure people around me find selfish)
After just 3 wks I’m starting to regret my diamond wedding band. The prongs catch on my hair, and I know as soon as the first stone pops out (which is bound to happen soone rather than later since the stones go all the way around) I’m going to REALLY wish I had something simpler. That said, I also LOOOOOVE how they look together=)