Post # 1
I’ve seen tons of posts about brides not being happy because MOB/FMIL are either wearing white or a color that does not fit the color scheme. I never understood it.
But now I kinda feel that way. Me and my mom went shopping today to try to find her a dress and…. She picked out a white and orange dress. My colors are blue and purple. I was going to get her and FMIL a corsage to match our bouquets (which are shades of lilac and aqua.) Which would obviously look awful with orange. I was NOT happy at first, but then I saw how much she loved it and it really is flattering on her. So I dont care too much.
What about yall? Do you care what they wear?
Post # 3
@allyfally: I say no now, but neither of them have picked anything out yet. I guess I’d hope they would at least show me a picture of what they’re consideringm but another part of me is just kind of like, “Whatever. As long as it makes them feel good, who cares what it is?”
Post # 4
In my head I picture my mom in red trench style dress with a full skirt so I guess if she asked my opinion I would steer her towards something like that but honestly I don’t care what she wears. My mom is actually very stylish for a woman in her late 50s so I’m sure whatever she decides to wear will be great. I’m also not in the “no one but the bride gets to wear shades of white or anything that could be photograph white camp,” so I don’t care about what colors my mom or FMIL wear.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
There’s an old saying that the mother of the groom’s job is to show up and wear beige. Since that’s a shade of white, I’m fairly convinced this MOB/MOG can’t wear a shade fo white thing is rather new. No one is going to mistake them for the bride.
These womena re adults. They can wear what they want. If they dress inappropriately, they’ll only embarrass themselves. And personally, I’d rather they not match the bridal party, but I wouldn’t dictate that they couldn’t. I wouldn’t want them to be mistaken for a bridesmaid just as I wouldn’t want them mistaken for the bride (which would be much harder to do and I don’t think is something brides need to worry about).
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@allyfally: It flatters her and is appropriate for a wedding so that dress is fine IMO. Parents are not members of the bridal party so they don’t have to wear those colors, altho something that “works” with those colors helps with pictures.
Like you said, she is happy with it. What color is your FMIL wearing? You could get them white corsages, it’s them wearing flowers that sets them apart from other guests, so the color of the flowers shouldnt’t really matter.
I hardly remember them on my MOB or FMIL… or the rest of the family.
Post # 7
@allyfally: I think the dress looks great on her! But only if she wears the socks with it! J/K
I told both (Mom & FMIL) that I really didn’t care what they wore. FMIL already has her dress and it’s a darker almost navy blue. Our wedding color are black, white and a accent color of malibu blue. It technically doesnt match but I don’t care. I want them to be comfortable in what they have on. I swear my mom’s wardrobe consists of almost nothing but purple, green and orange, those are her favorite colors and they flatter her. If she chose one of those it wouldn’t matter to me.
Post # 8
@mchitt329: Oh, I have no idea FMIL is wearing. FI said she might not even buy a dress, so she’ll probably show up in an old church dress or something. XD
Yeah, after she picked it out I figured I’d just do white flowers for them. And white goes with everything anyways, so it doesnt really matter what FMIL wears with it.
Post # 9
I’ve said this before but, while I didn’t really care what the parent’s wore, it looks much nicer in the pictures that my parent’s tried to coordinate with the wedding and each other while ils just wore whatever. So while it isn’t a huge deal I totally agree it is really nice for the parent’s to coordinate too.
Post # 10
Nope, they can show up as plain or as flashy as they want. Jeans or sparkly red evening gown, I don’t care. As long as they’re comfortable and happy, I’m happy.
Post # 11
@candief: LOL. I tease her all the time about her socks. She has some that go up past her knees!
Post # 12
My mom/FMIL kept asking me what colors/cut/length they should wear! I just kept saying “You’ve been dressing yourselves for 40/50 something years. I’m sure you can pick something!”
They book picked dresses they LOVE, and they both look AMAZING! FMIL is wearing purple, and my mom is wearing blue! Our wedding colors are red/blue, to they coordinate, but that’s just a really happy coincidence!
Post # 13
I inititally asked my mom and FMIL to coordinate with the bridal party (grey BM dresses/yellow & white flowers). My mom went shopping first and actually ended up chosing a silver dress that coordinates well – I think is the perfect mix of her style with a little of my dress and the BM dresses. She loves it and looks beautiful in it so, really, that’s all that matters. My FMIL was going to coordinate too, but when she went shopping, she changed her mind and bought a blue dress. Honestly, when I first found out about her purchase I was a little peeved, but I quickly realized that t was being ridiculous and it was selfish of me to be upset so I let it go and never said anything.
So, I guess what I’m saying is, I’ve realized that it shouldn’t matter what color they want to wear, as long as they love it and feel confident/comfortable in it (and it’s not white lol that’s the only no-no).
Post # 14
I didn’t care. They wore what they wanted and looked lovely.
Post # 15
I said no shade of white, but if it were a beige I wouldn’t care, I just don’t want my mom wearing white or ivory. My mom is actually wearing a dark gray dress which she loves and picked out without me even telling her what I wanted or liked, and I was fine with that. My mom isn’t the type of gal to want to wear light colors anyway. She loves darker colors.
Post # 16
I really don’t care what my mother and FMIL wear, but they seem to want me to really really care. They are both wearing different shades of blue which aren’t in our colors but will be perfectly fine.