Post # 1
I can honestly say that if no one reminded me I could pass by my birthday without even realizing it. My FI is the same way, we just don’t see the point or specialness. As the only baby in a giant family you can bet the celebrations were big. I was never into bring friends over I just wanted to be with my family and I loved it. The presants were a perk lol.
But… I was rather dissapointed later that day when I realized Nothing actually changed. Sure my room now had some new additions, but nothing really changed. Turning 10 didn’t mean I could now sudenly know how to ride a bike, sit in the front seat of a car, or stay home alone for extended periods of time. I had to still learn and practice on a bike. I still had to be a certian hight, and I still had to prove to my mom I was responsible (not setting the house on fire) by demonstrating my maturity somehow.
So I realized at about, I’d say 6 that when the clock strikes 12 on my birthday nothing fundemtal changes in that one secound. I never felt the need to celebrate birthdays ever since. But If someone wants to give me a party I won’t stop them xD but I hardly see it as somthing worth celebrating.
Things I do think are worth celebrating, Birth/adoption (for parents and a yay a new family member kind of way) a transistion into adulthood, (I really think my culture’s ceromonies fufill that) Weddings, new house, leaving an abusive relationship, healing from some illness or accident, finnishing a big project, achieving a long held goal, or starting a buisness.
That all makes sense to me. It’s a time when you want family around to celebrate and be happy. so I supose I need a question… how do you feel about birthdays? are they still special for you and why.
Post # 3
To my birthday’s symbolize the day a person came into this world. So yes we celebrate birthdays. It is a huge deal now days with a child of our own. (He just turned one in Sept). DH and I for own birthdays basically just make a special meal and have cake/ice cream.
I always take my birthday off of work and do something special for myself…
Post # 4
Absolutely. Why not celebrate the anniversary of your birth?!
Post # 5
Yes, I don’t celebrate the person’s age but it’s like a day to celebrate the person. There’s MLK day, birthdays are like that to me. I even celebrate my pets’ birthdays by spoiling them and singing “happy birthday” at them the whole day long.
On my own birthday, I reserve the right to do whatever I damn well please. I normally take the day off. One time I loved my job so much that I very willingly worked all day on my birthday. That told me a lot about what I love to do as a career.
Post # 6
I am totally over the top with birthdays! I spoil my fiance like crazy on his birthday. I love birthdays!
Post # 7
Any occasion that I get presents can’t be all bad.
Post # 8
@SillySavage: I love birthdays. More than Christmas!
I dunno, I just get so excited and it brings back those feelings I had when I was a little kid. I’m not one of those people that loves to be the center of attention all the time (I’m no party animal, that’s for sure), but I like it when people say ‘happy birthday’ and I love presents. I love being able to pick a place to go out for dinner and/or have my favorite meal made for me, guilt-free. I love ice cream cake as well and ask for it every year 🙂
I am definitely not a surprise party kinda girl, but to be with my bf and family is great.
I try to make an effort for others’ birthdays too, but I keep in mind what they’d actually want (i.e. no surprise parties for my equally introverted boyfriend!).
Post # 9
I must say im not all Bahumbug! on my birthday or other peoples birthdays. I love giving presants as well not so much material presants though, and I love celebrating the people in my life. I suppose I just dont see why that should be reserved for once a year.
Its not like that day I just suddenly popped into the world and my mom was like “holy crap a baby” i was here all along. I just can now experience the world without the muffling effects of a womb and I have a lung full of air to cry and communicate with xD the only one that did work was my mom. so I feel like my birthday is more significant for her, its the day her life significantly changed. Mine did to but I dont remeber and I dont think I cared, it was probably tramatizing more then anything lol.
And so on my birthday I end up giving my mom a gift of some sort, cookies in exchange for the calcium I stole from her bones and the body I ruined for a bit. And my dad, and my grandmothers and aunts for raising me as well. so on my birthday its not about me because I couldn’t be here and I wouldn’t be who I am if it wasnt for all the wonderfull people of my life.
Post # 10
I get it now! thank you everyone for letting me bounce ideas off of you and adding your imput ^-^ I guess I just didnt know what I thought untill I could got it out there and take a look.