Do you comment on someone's engagement ring if it's boring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Busy bee

Aquaria:  Are you being asked about them or just volunteering comments to people about their rings? If you’re asked, and you find it boring, be polite and say, “It’s such classic/timeless design.” If you’re not asked, don’t say anything.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It would be pretty rude if they asked and you didn’t comment.

But I wouldn’t offer up a comment randomly if I didn’t like it.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

It’s not hard to say “Congrats, it’s beautiful.” That would literally make a newly engaged girl’s day. If you don’t like it and they ask, just say congrats and move on. If you aren’t asked then there’s no point to say anything at all. If someone said to me, “Oh god, halos are so overdone.” When I first got engaged that would most certainly piss me off.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Aquaria:  If they don’t ask, don’t volunteer a comment about their ring. Just congratulate them on their engagement.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

I agree that if it isn’t someone I know or someone who has mentioned their ring, I generally don’t say anything at all. No one really expects strangers to comment on their ring anyway. I do rarely comment to a stranger if it is a knock-out beautiful ring. For people I know or people who ask, I always stick to, “Congratulations! It’s just beautiful!” I doesn’t matter what I really think; they don’t want to hear that. And to say nothing would be rude.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

In that case, then definitely no… the whole “If you don’t have anything nice..” applies, well for me at least. I’m sure they know that their ring is popular.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Well I dont walk around narrating the rocks on the ladies at large so no!

Any newly engaged person I know is getting a ring compliment from me fo sho.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

a simple ” very nice” doesn’t hurt anyone. I found that so many people spoke their feelings about my previous setting and it was quite hurtful to hear people blatantly knock someone’s choice. In retrospect I have never told a friend their ring was anything but pretty even if it wasn’t my particular favorite. If the wearer asks for an honest opinion that’s different, but strangers to offer up negative comments towards a ring- uncalled for. After all the ring shouldn’t be the focus, the decision to get married should. 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

On this site, no, if I don’t think it’s pretty I move on to another thread. In person, yes, I feel I have to say something. “Nice” is usually my response if I’m not liking it too much. I will tell a stranger her ring is beautiful if I notice it. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I will also add: erings are beautiful and exciting because of the signifigance.

Seriously: someone forked over (often a large sum of)  hard earned cash to give them a ring to symbolize their commitment, presented with a marriage proposal. Its a Big Fn Deal. So “its beautiful” is true and natural regardless of the ring. eyeroll “omg im so bored of your stupid solitaire/halo/whatever” is…. unbecoming.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

I’d just congratulate them like a PP mentioned. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

If it’s someone I know or someone who specifically showed me their ring, I would definitely comment in some nice way, even if the ring isn’t something I particularly like. Sometimes, just a simple “Congratulations! It’s beautiful!” can make a person’s day a bit brighter, and I like to do that, if possible. I’m in the camp who feels every ERing is a thing of beauty in some way, just because of the whole getting married thing. I think it’s wonderful to see people so excited about a big change in their lives.

I do sometimes comment on strangers’ jewelry — without hand-grabbing and depending on the circumstances. For example, if a bank teller or waitress or someone like that — someone whose hands you can’t help but notice — has a truly stunning ring (or watch or bracelet), I generally will compliment it. If I find the ring, etc. boring, then I don’t say anything at all.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I would compliment it, yes, if it will make a newly engaged girl feel good. 

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