Post # 1
Obviously it’s best not to say anything if you think it’s ugly. I’m one of those pests who will compliment total strangers on their rings if they really stand out to me (without hand grabbing, of course). However sometimes I don’t want to compliment people on their rings, not necessarily if they’re ugly, just boring and overly common. Do you comment on rings that are styles you see over and over again?
Post # 2
Aquaria: Are you being asked about them or just volunteering comments to people about their rings? If you’re asked, and you find it boring, be polite and say, “It’s such classic/timeless design.” If you’re not asked, don’t say anything.
Post # 3
It would be pretty rude if they asked and you didn’t comment.
But I wouldn’t offer up a comment randomly if I didn’t like it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
It’s not hard to say “Congrats, it’s beautiful.” That would literally make a newly engaged girl’s day. If you don’t like it and they ask, just say congrats and move on. If you aren’t asked then there’s no point to say anything at all. If someone said to me, “Oh god, halos are so overdone.” When I first got engaged that would most certainly piss me off.
Post # 5
MOHlookingForIdeas: lauraashley09: FutureDrAtkins:
Not if they asked, just if they were someone you know flashing it and waiting for compliments. And the person next to them had the same ring. And the person next to that person had the same ring. And the last 5 jewelry store windows you gazed into had the same ring…
Post # 6
Aquaria: If they don’t ask, don’t volunteer a comment about their ring. Just congratulate them on their engagement.
Post # 7
I agree that if it isn’t someone I know or someone who has mentioned their ring, I generally don’t say anything at all. No one really expects strangers to comment on their ring anyway. I do rarely comment to a stranger if it is a knock-out beautiful ring. For people I know or people who ask, I always stick to, “Congratulations! It’s just beautiful!” I doesn’t matter what I really think; they don’t want to hear that. And to say nothing would be rude.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
In that case, then definitely no… the whole “If you don’t have anything nice..” applies, well for me at least. I’m sure they know that their ring is popular.
Post # 9
Well I dont walk around narrating the rocks on the ladies at large so no!
Any newly engaged person I know is getting a ring compliment from me fo sho.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
a simple ” very nice” doesn’t hurt anyone. I found that so many people spoke their feelings about my previous setting and it was quite hurtful to hear people blatantly knock someone’s choice. In retrospect I have never told a friend their ring was anything but pretty even if it wasn’t my particular favorite. If the wearer asks for an honest opinion that’s different, but strangers to offer up negative comments towards a ring- uncalled for. After all the ring shouldn’t be the focus, the decision to get married should.
Post # 11
On this site, no, if I don’t think it’s pretty I move on to another thread. In person, yes, I feel I have to say something. “Nice” is usually my response if I’m not liking it too much. I will tell a stranger her ring is beautiful if I notice it.
Post # 12
I will also add: erings are beautiful and exciting because of the signifigance.
Seriously: someone forked over (often a large sum of) hard earned cash to give them a ring to symbolize their commitment, presented with a marriage proposal. Its a Big Fn Deal. So “its beautiful” is true and natural regardless of the ring. eyeroll “omg im so bored of your stupid solitaire/halo/whatever” is…. unbecoming.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
I’d just congratulate them like a PP mentioned.
Post # 14
If it’s someone I know or someone who specifically showed me their ring, I would definitely comment in some nice way, even if the ring isn’t something I particularly like. Sometimes, just a simple “Congratulations! It’s beautiful!” can make a person’s day a bit brighter, and I like to do that, if possible. I’m in the camp who feels every ERing is a thing of beauty in some way, just because of the whole getting married thing. I think it’s wonderful to see people so excited about a big change in their lives.
I do sometimes comment on strangers’ jewelry — without hand-grabbing and depending on the circumstances. For example, if a bank teller or waitress or someone like that — someone whose hands you can’t help but notice — has a truly stunning ring (or watch or bracelet), I generally will compliment it. If I find the ring, etc. boring, then I don’t say anything at all.
Post # 15
I would compliment it, yes, if it will make a newly engaged girl feel good.