Post # 1
Hi Bees! I’m still fairly new to the hive, but have really enjoyed reading the different tips, advice, vents, etc. There is definitely a lot more to weddings than meets the eye so it’s nice to have a place where you can talk about it 24/7 if you want.
Anyway, I’ve read a lot of posts about whether or not to include registry info in invitations (don’t worry not going there just bear with me). Many of the people against including them in invites have suggested including the information on the wedding website. I immediately thought, do people really create entire websites about their wedding? I can barely figure out posting on internet boards, let alone create my own website. LOL!
So my questions are: what’s the point of a wedding website? Is it so guests can go and find out where you are registered, location of the ceremony/reception, etc.? What makes it less (or more) tacky than including relevant information (i.e. registry, area attractions, directions, etc.) in the wedding invite? Is it more acceptable etiquette-wise?
I honestly have no opinion either way just looking to get as much information as possible so I can make the best decisions for me when the time comes.
Post # 3
Some friends have made fun of me for having one (good naturedly) but honestly- I have so many guests coming from out of town. This is a place where all the info can be found, and i don’t have to keep emailing everyone or responding to the same questions all the time.
I think it is perfectly fine to list registries- at the top of mine I wrote “Your presence is certainly gift enough, but if you so wish here are our list of registries” (something like that)
There is info about the locations, directions, parking, dress attire, whether kids are being invited or not, etc…
I think it also gets the excitement up for the event. You can also update it with wedding shower, bachelorette, bachelor pics which is fun.
As you can see, I am very pro-wedding website. 🙂
Post # 4
I had not planned on having a wedding website. I thought they were a bit frivilous and silly.
But now that my wedding is less than 2 months away (and a destination wedding to boot), I decided to make one. I realized I was emailing the same information over and over and people are asking the same questions. I anticipate I’d get more and more of that as the wedding gets closer, so a website is perfect to consolidate it all in one central, easily accessible place.
Post # 5
i think people use the wedding websites as a place for their guests to go to find all the information on the wedding, from direcions to the church to how to book hotel rooms. I think its a little more ettiquette friendly in the gift department because they are willingly going to look at it rather than you sending them a card and saying oh hey here is where you can buy me a gift.
To be honest i dont know how many of my guests actually looked at our website but i can see how it would be wonderful to have in case there are any changes in venue or say the block of hotels is booked up and you need to let them know they have released more rooms. something like that.
Most wedding (blog) websites will have a free template you can use and they are pretty user friendly.
if you want to see an example, PM me and ill send you mine.
Post # 6
I don’t find them tacky but they are not my style really. Maybe because in my circle it’s not common and so far the only person to have one was a bride who was completely absorbed in her own wedding so it came off as pushy and in your face to everyone. I’ve seen tasteful ones though and I’m sure they are helpful I just won’t be having one.
Post # 7
@VegasSukie: Hi and welcome 🙂
I don’t think wedding websites are tacky at all. You can get the majority if not all the information about the wedding without having to bug the bride and groom. You can put anything you want up there; ceremony and reception location, directions, hotel information, info about the couple, registry information, some even have best places to visit/see if its a destination wedding, thank you’s to people who may have helped in the wedding, and even later wedding pics 🙂
You don’t have to be technologically savy either to make one. Many have templates that allow you to pick the layout you like and then you just fill in the information or upload the pictures!
Post # 8
I really don’t get why it’s ok to list registry information on a website but not on an invitation. The website is about the wedding; the invitation is about the wedding. Why is one okay but not the other?
Post # 9
It depends on the way the website is put together. If it focuses on providing useful information then thats fine but alot of them dont focus on useful information and have long essays about how in love the couple are and every tiny detail about how they met.. I just find that to be self congratulatory. I have an online rsvp page and thats it, and so far its proved very useful
Post # 10
I think it’s a great way to let people know about various aspects of your wedding. It can also be a money-saver (not to mention environmentally friendly)! We live in the digital age; chances are that whatever information you put on your invitation will be looked up online anyway! My Fiance and I are planning to send out very simple invitations and skip all the extra papers except an extra little card referring people to our website to RSVP (they can also telephone if they’re less web-savvy).
It’s incredibly easy to make one these days. Mine is on weddingwire, but there are dozens of places to choose from. They range in price (many are free) and complexity. Even on the free ones, you can add forms such as music requests, apps such as weather and maps, links to registries. . . You can also buy your own domain name for a few dollars so people have a quick easy address to remember– “Jane-John.com.”
I also enjoy looking at other people’s websites. It’s fun to look at photos of the couple and read their little stories and such. You might want to think about demographics though. The majority of our guests will be mid-twenties to early sixties, all people well familiar with the internet. If you have a lot of older people it might not be as useful.
Anyway, I am obviously pro-website, but you should by no means feel that it’s necessary.
Post # 11
I don’t think they’re tacky, but I do always LOL at the “how we met” stories which are never that interesting (seriously 90% of people meet in college, you’re not that special) and are always written in different tenses. They’ll be like, “Nicole and John met in college where I saw him in class and fell in love right away! John proposed two days later and Nicole said yes and we couldn’t be more excited!” IT’S EITHER FIRST OR THIRD, PICK ONE!
Post # 12
@Evie19: I can totally see how a wedding website would be helpful for destination weddings or out of town guests. The thing is, do people actually visit the website? I’ve never even heard of them before coming here. Also, I really liked the wording you used about “their presence being gift enough…”.
Post # 13
I myself am pro-website since MOST of our guests are from out of the country/hemisphere. We live in Canada and Canada in November has the reputation of being a cold, frigid place with igloos. Happily, we live in the southern portion of Canada which lends itself to spring like weather in November.
But nobody believes us. They keep calling and calling asking about what winter clothing to bring, where they can ski and if we have snow tires. Seriously. (“Which fur should I bring?” “Um, none, please.”)
This website is going to clear up MANY misconceptions of my beloved nation when I post average weather tempuratures, photos from past November’s, etc. Also, many people are wondering what to do around the area and the website allows me to post all that information without having to personally tell them EACH. My poor Future Mother-In-Law fields about two calls per week with these questions. A website is just easier in this case.
As for the registry information potentially being tacky, I agree that it’s not appropriate to be ON the invitation because it’s seen as a “gift grab”, however, the website is a place for information to be conveyed, including registry information, song requests and photos of the couple up to the big day.
Post # 14
I am having a Destination Wedding so a wedding website is a great place to communicate all the info to our guests. However, if I was having a regular wedding I wouldn’t have a wedding website because I would think its unnecessary and likely no one would view it.
Post # 15
@shaunna: I kind of agree with you here but can also see how it’s more etiquette-friendly than putting it in the invite.
Post # 16
@ohheavenlyday: I agree with you on the tense issue! Also, I don’t think people care how the happy couple met, to me the website should be a more practical tool.