(Closed) Do you correct friends who use “politically incorrect” sentences?

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Would you correct her?
    Yes, it is offensive : (65 votes)
    60 %
    No, it isn't that big of a deal : (38 votes)
    35 %
    I didn't know that phrase was offensive?? : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    46128 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I speak up all the time. If you don’t you are condoning their behavior.

    Post # 4
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    1691 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would say something – first because you find it offensive and it IS politically incorrect and unprofessional and second (a much less important reason) just out of principal because she would say it to you.Wink

    Post # 5
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    2657 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I wouldnt. There are tons of things that I hear that I dont like, but there is no way Im going to tell everyone what I think. They would just look at me and think Im a moron or something.

    Just let it go.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I normally don’t say anything unless it’s someone very close to me. I don’t need unnecessary drama or arguments; most people don’t like to be corrected.

    Post # 7
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    515 posts
    Busy bee

    If she corrects others, then I think you should, especially if you do find it offensive.

    Post # 9
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    3593 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    I don’t correct people, maybe I should…

    Post # 10
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    869 posts
    Busy bee

    I choose not to use those phrases, but I don’t correct people when they do…

    Post # 11
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    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would. The PPs all listed good reasons why:

    1- it’s unkind/rude/hurtful/wrong/etc

    2- this cowork has said it various times now (if it was one time, I’d make one of my ‘uh, did you really just say that?’ faces, but 2+ I’d speak up)

    3- this coworker has corrected the use of other inappropriate comments, so they presumably know better

    4- I have a handicapped relative, so I speak up every time, as it’s something that really bugs me, not just the general ‘that is rude’ feeling.

    Post # 12
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    1865 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I feel VERY strongly about the R word in particular (I’m a special ed teacher), so I correct people all the time. Generally not complete strangers, but if I’ve met them more than one time and they say it, I correct them. My FI knows my feelings about it, and it’s really cute when he corrects his friends/acquaintances in my presence. I’ve been calling people out on the R word, “that’s gay”, etc since high school… it just bothers me a lot.

    Post # 13
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    9825 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I’ve actually told a VERY good friend “Would you please stop saying ‘retarded’ in front of my daughter and I?” Given the fact that she knows my daughter is autistic I was stunned I even had to address it.

    I know it surprised her because I have a pretty lax attitude about curse words and I’m definitely not all PC all the time, but I draw the line when I feel I need to.

    Post # 14
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    753 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    If it bugs you, you have every right to tell her so! Just do so in a non-confrontational manner. I don’t think she’ll get angry at you, if anything she’ll feel embarrassed that she said something that offended you. 

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It’s bad manners to bring up somebody’s faults, but in this case I would kindly say something. I’m sure it’s just a bad habit for her that she needs to grow out of.

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