Post # 1
No relationship is perfect, do you have certain people you talk too when problems arise? Or do you keep it between you and your SO? I have some friends that keep their lips sealed and others who openly discuss issues to me and I don’t really mind.
Post # 3
I used to discuss it moderately in high school. We were much worse at communication back then, so I really needed to dish to my best friends. I haven’t had to in the past two years, though, because we’ve gotten much better at taking each other into account and fighting fairly. I’m sure there will be more rough patches to come, but for the most part we keep things between us.
We don’t try to hide our tiffs, though. If we disagree on something we’ll get into it in front of family, even if it means bickering. That’s just our personalities though.
Post # 4
As a rule i NEVER tell my family when we’re fighting. Moms have much longer memories than we do for when our guys are dumb 🙂
I do tell my MOH just about everything because I know she’ll tell me when I’m being stupid. Or tell me when she thinks he’s being stupid.
Post # 5
We have friends that know both of us and were there from the very beginning; however, as late, we are much more introverted about our relationship and our ups and downs. We’ve gotten pretty good at talking to each other rather than turning to others in our relationship
Post # 6
I don’t tell me my family anything about my relationship with FI. I have ONE friend that I will discuss some things with when I need to get some feedback before approaching FI. I am a pretty private person and not the most trusting so I would never want to put something out there that someone can then use gainst either myself or my FI. The reality is…the things you say about your FI…either in anger or happiness WILL color your family’s perception of him/her.
Post # 7
We tend to fight about really weird and impersonal things – either chores or semantic/intellectual arguments pretty much, so I don’t consider it a big deal if I tell other people about it. But I think that we’re strange in that we never fight about serious things – jealousy or commitment issues or anything like that. If I end up talking to others about it, I really don’t feel like we’re airing personal dirty laundry. Except when we’re fighting about who should do the laundry.
Post # 8
I used to do it when I was younger. I learned pretty quick that it just creates more problems, because other people don’t know your relationship like you do. If you tell your friend/mom/whatever about a fight where he said something mean then no matter how much of a sweetheart your SO is they will always have that view of him being “mean” behind closed doors.
Post # 9
No. I don’t really like to discuss my relationship with others because no one can seem to fully understand the situation at hand unless they are in it themselves.
Post # 10
For the most part I don’t discuss our relationship with others. I do have one really good friend though who is married and we sometimes discuss our relationships. It usually just things that we both can relate to though (ex. the challenges of finishing grad school/ wanting a career vs. the desire to have kids).
Post # 11
I have one girlfriend I tell, and she tells me. I like that we can be there for each other, and it helps to get everything out and off my chest. She is on here too, so THANKS!!!!!!!! 🙂
Post # 12
The first two years we were dating I did. But then things changed and as we became more serious it became more important for him to be the one I went to when I had a problem or vice versa because we realized we had frustrations but weren’t talking about them and trying to vent them to others and put on a happy face for each other. But our relationship is 10x better since we made that decision.
I will talk about general things with close friends, like my frustrations with one of us having to work late, or how hating my job I’ve been trying not to take that home to him to much, or kid plans. Stuff that I’ve already talked about with him. But I wouldn’t bash him or insult him to a friend. We’re each others best advocates.
Post # 13
There’s pretty much just one girlfriend I talk with about our relationship with. She’s all around an amazing person and we’re able to relate to each other on many different levels, which makes it that much more easy/awesome. It’s helpful having someone like this, for sure ;]
Post # 14
My best friend (man of honor) is a guy and we share lots about our personal lives. I can’t imagine not having somebody to share things with! I only tell my mother limited info. I think friends (great friends) are the best to share stuff with. 🙂
Post # 15
I wish I could discuss it sometimes, but I keep it between us, out of respect for him/ our private relationship. Sometimes that is hard, but “sharing” can sometimes bite me in the butt, so I never tell anyone our personal problems/ secrets. . . even though it is hard sometimes!
Post # 16
I don’t have anyone that I really talk to about our relationship right now. I haven’t found anyone here that I’m very close to and I don’t want to whine to people about my problems!