Do you do an afterparty after the reception? (kind of long, sorry)

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Well I’m FROM Raleigh and I’ve never heard of that. Every wedding I’ve ever been to down there, the bride and groom have had a grand exit at the end of the reception and that was it. If family wanted to go back to the hotel and drink in the bar or something, then fine, but I’ve never heard of the bride and groom splitting up to hang out.

I have been to one wedding with an afterparty, and it was in Chicago. Maybe the family is from another area?  I was so exhausted that I didn’t go. I was a bridesmaid and had been up since 7AM and had been “on” the whole day.

My SO and I are introverted too. We will be so ready to go be alone together after our reception! Thankfully, that was never even an option for us.

Post # 4
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My fiance and I are having an after party. Our reception goes until 11pm and then we have rented out another space on the resort property from 11pm-1am. The number one thing I feel like I hear from newlyweds is that their wedding was so fun, they didn’t want it to end! I think my fiance and I will feel the same way and I want to stretch my day out as long as I can. I have the whole following week to spend with JUST my new husband. I want to hang out with my friends and family who have traveled to celebrate our special day with us, while I can.

Post # 5
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Every wedding I have been to has an afterparty, usually at the hotel bar.  I had one as well.  I think it’s a really nice time to get to talk to people in a more personal setting than at the wedding.  It’s a nice time to be with your closest friends and family.  We also hosted a brunch the next morning (which is usual in my area).   I was with my DH, at the afterparty.  We had been together 8 years, there was no rush to get back to our hotel room.  You only have one wedding day.

Post # 6
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I see it both ways. We are not planning an after party, but I kind of expect some people to get together and do something after the reception, since we have to be out of the venue by 10 p.m. If that happens, we may or may not attend, depending on how we feel. I think the way some people see it is this: They have the whole honeymoon if they’re having one (or even late on the night of the wedding) to spend time together, but when else will all of their loved ones be in one place?

For me, I’ll definitely want plenty of private time with my husband on the night of the wedding. But I’ll still be happy if that comes after a couple of extra hours hanging out with our friends who we hardly ever get to see.

Post # 7
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

DH and I had an afterparty. Our reception (dry because of religious family members, even though neither DH or I are religious) only lasted long enough for people to eat and mingle for a little while and then we made our grand exit. About half an hour later we came back (we’d gone to a friend’s hotel room to change).

By the time we got back all of the older people, kids, and my Southern Baptist family members had left. that’s when we brought out the booze and broke out Cards Against Humanity.

Post # 8
2818 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Nope. Reception’s over, now y’all go home. Actually, you don’t have to go home, WE’LL leave, lol. I’ve been waiting way too long to start my married life and I’m not postponing my wedding night any longer than I have to. My fiance and I had a little chat about this, him assuming that we were going to host people in our suite after the reception. It wasn’t even up for discussion as far as I’m concerned. 

Post # 9
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

usually meet meet up at the hotel bar or go back to someone’s room.

for my FI’s group of friends, many have moved across the country and some out of the country, so weddings are reunion time.

the bride and groom hang out for a little while then do their own thing.

we plan on hanging out with out guests for a short time after the reception, and it ends at midnight. we will go out for a little bit, then if guests want to keep partying the bars are open until 2.

we are serving brunch to all of our hotel guests the next morning as well.


Post # 10
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I actually love the afterparty and plan on doing one. However, we will be having one afterparty and we will be together, not separate with our bridesmaids/groomsmen!

I think it’s nice to end the reception at a reasonable time (like 10:30) so the older people or whoever is feeling tired can go to bed without feeling like they left early, but the young people can keep celebrating.

We have lived together for years and it’s not like we’re going to be embarking on this big change, so I really want to make sure we get the most out of our day!

Post # 11
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

All of the weddings I’ve been to have ended at 11 p.m. or midnight, which is waaaaay past my bedtime.  With all of the dancing and socializing, I end up exhausted by the end of the night, and that’s just as a guest!  I can’t imagine how tired I’ll be as the bride.  

To me, the reception is the party.  I don’t want or need a party after the party.  I’m an “early to rise” kind of girl, so I’m going to want to go to bed already.

Post # 12
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m a bit conflicted on this. I’d never heard of having an official after party as an event, but FI and I were planning on going out with the bridal party and a few other close friends. Then FMIL started planning this big after party at the only other spot in our area for her whole family. When we tried explaining to her that we didn’t really think an afterparty was necessary and that we probably wouldn’t be there she was like “this is very important to me to have, you don’t have to come, you can still go out with your friends.” But we can’t, because she’s taking the only other spot around (we’re getting married in an old village).

Post # 13
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’ve never been to a wedding that had an afterparty. Isn’t the reception the afterparty?! 

I can see how an afterparty would work if there was an afternoon backyard ceremony and reception, followed by a group of people going out for dinner and drinks. I’ve never been to a wedding like that though, so I don’t know. I think it’s very odd that the afterparty could entail a “girls night” and “boys night” type of thing directly following the reception. I don’t get it.

Post # 14
4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@LadyBlackheart:  DH and I were staying the night in the hotel where all of our OOT guests stayed (which was his entire side of the family and most friends) and there is a bar with live music in this hotel so we figured we would go there if we had the energy after the reception.  Well we were REALLY TIRED so we didn’t go to the bar but lots of his family members did.


For DH’s sisters wedding they invited the wedding party and friends to their hotel room for drinks and pizza, we didn’t stay long as we were tired then too (I’m sensing a theme…)


I don’t think it’s an odd thing to do, but I think normally it’s more of the guests going out after the reception ends because receptions normally end between 11pm and midnight, so they can stay out until 2am if they want to.  We went to DH’s friend’s wedding last year and all the college friends that only see each other at weddings now days went out to a club together.  On the other hand, my BFF did not have an afterparty, I think it depends on your group of friends and how wild and crazy they are.

Post # 15
3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am doing an afterparty because we are having a sunday brunch reception and my guest will be a lot of older people with bedtimes, while there will only be about 20 young people (under 40). so we will hit up a casino or lounge or something. We are doing the wedding on the cheap so this is something that I want…

Post # 16
1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve never seen an afterparty at any of the weddings I’ve been to.  The receptions have lasted well past midnight and then people just go up to bed or head home.  All of these have had open bars, though, so that might be a part of it.  And I would definitely NOT want one. 

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