Post # 1
Since we’ve been living together, Darling Husband often asks me to do his laundry. I’m at home more than him so I guess it makes sense, but I’m already doing 90% of the cooking and cleaning and I really hate carrying an overflowing laundry basket up and down two flights of stairs (washer & dryer in basement). I’m fine with washing my own clothes as well as household linens. I just wish he would help me out and wash his own clothes!
So, Bees, do you do your SO’s laundry for him? Is everything separate (like in our house) or do you wash your clothes and his together?
Post # 3
We keep all our laundry together. I really don’t see the point of doing some laundry but not all of it.
Post # 4
Our laundry is all mixed together and I do it all. I would let him do it if I wanted all my cloths to come out doll sized, seriously, the guy can shrink towels and I am still not sure how he does it.
Post # 5
Yes, and it drives me crazy. He wears 2-3 shirts a day, which is a feat for someone who wears a uniform to work. I do about a dozen loads of laundry a week.
Our laundry is mixed, but sitll, I could get away with doing a load a week of my clothes. The rest is all his.
Post # 6
@iheartnerds: I really hate carrying an overflowing laundry basket up and down two flights of stairs (washer & dryer in basement)
Would it help if HE brought the laundry down for you and brought his own laundry back up and put it away himself? It doesn’t hurt to ask…
Post # 7
Yes…it drive me crazy that he never offers to help when i am folding a basket every day/other day
Post # 8
I’m with VAWife…we do it all together. We share laundry duty though…Whoever gets to it first when it starts to get full.
Post # 9
@VAwife: Agreed. Our laundry just goes into a hamper together and is seperated into colors…not his and hers.
Post # 10
Hell no! Not now, not ever! I won’t let me do mine either! I do not iron and he does not know how to hang up clothes fresh from the dryer!
Post # 11
He usually does mine :-D! Gotta love my man…
ETA: just to add to previous, ours goes in the basket together and Boyfriend or Best Friend will do all of it. I did it for the first time this weekend in several months! And even then he had to show me how to use our new machines…
Post # 12
So, my Fiance is actually pretty good at chipping in around the house (cooks sometimes, pretty much always does dishes, will clean the bathroom if I ask, etc.) but he is really bad about laundry. I think this is a carry over from his bachelor days and he just puts it off until he is literally out of clothes. :/
My advice is to try to plan out a time where you do laundry together. Sometimes this works with my Fiance. If this doesn’t work, you might be stuck doing the bulk of the laundry but I would still try to talk with him about what other chores he might be interested in. It sounds like you are already doing a lot around the house, even if you are at home more. Maybe share the men-doing-housework-makes-women-want-to-have-more-sex research with him? 😉
Post # 13
I guess we’re weird for not mixing our dirty clothes! 🙂 We have two laundry baskets and two hampers – though most of his clothes end up on the floor, anyway.
Post # 14
I do the laundry because I actually like folding clothes, and hate when he folds stuff because he “can’t”…it’s like learned helplessness so I will redo it. But that’s how you live together — you each have the chores that you don’t mind, and you do them. He takes out the trash every week, mows the lawn, and fills the dishwasher. I empty the dishwasher, vacuum, and do laundry. The cat cleans the bathroom, so all is good!
Post # 15
He won’t let me touch his laundry, not that I’m complaining! (His mom ruined some of his clothes YEARS ago and he has been protective of it since then). He used to do mine for me when we were in college (he lived at his parents, and I had coin laundry, so he would do it at his parents’ for free). We’ve been living together for the past year and he does his own clothes, I do my own clothes, and we alternate the towels, sheets, etc.
Post # 16
Often times – I don’t really see the point in only doing half the dirty laundry just because I didn’t wear the clothes.
But sometimes Darling Husband will do a load of his own if he wants something in particular clean. He doesn’t typically do my laundry because he knows I’m anal about sorting, laying things flat to dry, etc and he isn’t.
@iheartnerds: “We have two laundry baskets”
We have separate laundry baskets too. But if I’m doing laundry, I grab both of them.