Post # 1
DH and I were discussing christmas gifts and amounts we’re going to spend, and this came up. Do you think it’s necessary to give more/better gifts once you’re married, since technically it’s coming from both of you? Or would you still give the same gift as if you were a single person? Mostly we were considering our siblings, but it could apply to anyone I suppose. Just curious!
Post # 3
I’d say we spend about the same per person as before, except now we have to buy gifts for the grandparents ourselves, and his cousins (there are 4 of them, under 18) since his family is closer. In the past his mom has always given him gifts to give each person, so now that we are buying we have to set some sort of limit.
Post # 4
It’s the same as before for us but I’ve always gone a little overboard for gifts.
Post # 5
It is the same as before. I dont see why it needs to change except for the fact that now you both are buying for both your families.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
We’ve been giving gifts together since 2010… the gift giving gets better as our income gets better. Not because we are together.
Post # 7
This has come across my mind a few times…. in a nutshell – no, it hasn’t changed (the gift giving). I also thought my income would drastically improve figuring 2 incomes are better than 1 – and, while it helps in some ways – there are still TWO people living with the income – vs. it just being my expenses… so it doesn’t really feel like we have more money to spend!
Post # 8
I tend to over-gift (I LOVE giving gifts), and I would love to, if we could. I do sort of think that, at least in my case, I would be likely to give more extravagant gifts since they are from “us” now. It’s funny, since we’ve gotten married we’ve had to take a few steps back, financially. DH is in med school so we’ve been joking this year about how we’ll be papier macheing gifts and creating macaroni art for our family and friend haha! It’s sort of fun, trying to find great DIY things to give to people–they reflect a lot of thought into what that person would like, I think! So, our first married Christmas will actually see us buying on a lot more budget-friendly level than ever before…being a one income home at an expensive private medical school is turning out to be just like everyone told us it would be–a challenge!
But when we’re “established” after he graduates and we BOTH make money…I can’t wait to shower our supportive family with gifts I know they’d love…and ones we could finally afford!
Post # 9
It’s the same for us, but I’m a huge gift giver and always go over the top.
Post # 10
I think it definitely depends. We cannot afford to “double” everything, as we are now buying for two families as well! If you think about it, you are usually gifting the same amount of people total as you were before the wedding (each family, etc.), so doubling doesn’t necessarily make sense.
Post # 11
I’ve never really thought about it – but we just give gifts that the other person would like just the same as we did before we were married, typically same dollar amount as it was in the past.
Post # 13
I said yes because we joined our finances. DH makes quite a bit so combined we do very well and I like to get nicer presents for people.
Post # 14
We just give the same amount that we would if we were a single person. We’re a couple, but since we are married we’ve been joined together as one family so I think that is acceptable. We would like to give more, but we rarely have a lot of money around Christmas. We give out Christmas cards to everyone, but we don’t give that many gifts.
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Post # 15
We haven’t upped our budget b/c of getting married. Also, DH’s parents are divorced so there are step-parents (although they didn’t come into his life until his 20s) and step-parents’ parents which are like additional grandparents but always get him/us gifts.
His brother is also engaged to a woman with a daughter and so I bought the little girl a ton of gifts and his FI is pregnant so it went from buying 1 gift for BIL last year to 4 gifts this year. I’m still trying to convince DH that next year only the kids get gifts but we’ll see….we went to visit his family recently and took their gifts….30 gifts just for his family.
Honestly, if anything changed, it was probably that these people got gifts in the first place since DH isn’t into buying gifts for people.
Post # 16
It does depend on the person and year, but generally we only spend slightly more now that we’re married vs. when we were buying as single people. In fact, since we now buy presents from us as an individual for each other’s parents most years, the value of individual gifts has gone down since we are buying more things.
For example, instead of the big gift/gifts being from just me to my parents, it’s from both of us. Then we will each get each of our respective parents something smaller and inexpensive which may reflect a special meaning between the people (like my DH always finds a wooden puzzle ball for my dad bc they have fun trying to figure them out together, and I bought a pair of fancy dishwashing gloves for my MIL because we both hate dishwater hands).