Post # 1
Do you ever wish that you could just spend time with your friends without their SOs around or is it something you accept because couples are supposed to be a package deal? I get irked when I can’t re-hash old memories of wilder days with my friends because their SOs might hear something they weren’t supposed to know about. I knew my husband long before we started dating so nothing about his past came as a surprise, but my friends all met their SOs online and could therefore withhold whatever they wanted to make themselves look innocent. Do these situations annoy anyone else?
Post # 3
I do like hanging out with other couples, but sometimes I just want to go out with my girlfriends. I don’t think my FI and I always have to be a packaged deal – we’re very much together, but we can still have individual things going on. I’ve never understood the couples who are completely attached at the hip and can’t even spend one day/night away from their SO.
Post # 4
We actually really enjoy our “couple” friendships. My husband is actually cutting his hours on weekends so we can spend more time with them. I still occasionally spend time alone with friends, but when we go out it is usually in couples.
Post # 5
I like couples – my boyfriend’s roommate and his girlfriend are really cool and my boyfriend is always urging us to go out with them. We’re in college right now so there aren’t a ton of couples (woo 60/40 girl to guy ratio here!) that we are friends with, but I also have a guy friend who’s in a LDR who’s great to hang out with because he’s super committed and a great guy and there are no worries there.
However, we are NOT attached at the hip in the least! I hang out with his friends more often because I’m a pretty chill person, but I’m not going to ask him to hang out with my friends very often. I would be upset if my friends wouldn’t hang out without their SOs. I need my girl time, and he needs his guy time! In the future when we live together I’m sure we will do more coupley things, but we will both also need our own friend time.
Post # 6
we are lucky that we have a group of friends that are mostly couples and we all get along amazing. they guys rarely hang out alone – but us ladies do for sure!
Post # 7
Ehh, it’s a non-issue for us because I was a virgin when I met him & he is my first.
Our only “couple friends” are my 2 best girl friends & their very long time boyfriends, & they were both virgins when they met their boyfriends as well.
It’s so much fun when we hang out with our best friend couples because we are all on the same page. Even my husband’s best friend & his wife lost their virginity to each other, so we relate so well to all of our friends in that way.
Post # 8
@Aquaria: Well… my FH has a best friend, let’s call him Ian, who will be best man at our wedding. They’ve known each other since high school (before FH and I got together) and I get along well with him. He’s a good guy. We like hanging out with him and occasionally the two of them go out to the pub/bars together.. the only problem is his girlfriend!!!! (Let’s call her Erin.)
FH and I don’t really like her, and sometimes when Ian comes over without her he talks to FH about relationship issues, complaints about Erin, all ups and downs etc. We feel sorry for the guy. Anyway, the boys have a heart to heart and I usually offer to leave (being a female and all!) but they ask me to stick around and insist they don’t mind – they know I’m not into the whole “sisters sticking up for each other” thing, I respect FH and his best friend and they know I won’t go running to Erin with all the “man gossip”. We have a bit of a laugh, exchange of advice, etc. It’s all good. We can chill out when it’s just the three of us, but when Erin’s around the whole dynamic changes because she gets so cranky and whiny so easily… and yes she expects me to take the girl’s side of things. Sorry, missy.
When we all go out to lunch together, we naturally pair off into conversation (guys talk, girls talk). I kinda hate this. I was talking to Erin about how Ian gets to plan FH’s bachelor party and how I was so excited knowing how much fun they are going to have.. and then Erin sort of half-jokingly says “Yeah, we’ll have to ring them up, just to check on them and make sure they aren’t doing anything they shouldn’t be.” I was shocked and offended. She went on to complain about Ian at which point I could hear FH and Ian talking to each other about when Elder Scrolls Online will be released (a new awesome video game!!!) and I just remember thinking “Oh man I wish she wasn’t here!”
Anyway the point of this long-winded story is that yes, sometimes I wish we could hang out with our friends without their SOs! It all depends on who they are and if you get along with them well.
Post # 9
Our neighbors are “couple” friends. Her husband works with my husband. I would never ask one without the other because I know how little time they get to spend with one another, because I get to spend so little time with mine.
I don’t have problems with couple friends.
Post # 10
We have several couples we hang out with on a regular basis. While we have a good time hanging out with them, I certainly enjoy a break from all-things-couples sometimes! We both enjoy time apart with our respective friends.. but every once in a while its fun to go on a double or triple date.
Post # 11
@MrsEdamame: +1. While we would never give up work to see friends, we do enjoy our couple friendships. I can’t think of the last time that I went out without my man but we are both happy that way. Oddly, I will be meeting a friend for coffee without him tomorrow but that’s only because he’s working. Otherwise, we prefer to have our socializing together.
I’m past any kind of partying stage and there is nothing I couldn’t say in front of my husband.
Post # 12
@Aquaria: Oh I know EXACTLY what you mean. I like having double date nights with my friend. And I like when we hang out together at my house because my husband respects our privacy and space and always tries to find something else to do than just sit on the couch and listen to us.
Her H, on the other hand, if I go over there, he always has stuff to do, but he is ALWAYS coming in and out, jumping in on the convo, asking her for stuff, etc. He did that to her mom too because before their wedding her mom was trying to talk to her about whether she should actually get married to him or not, so he made sure he was always present. He does it with me, and it irritates me. I don’t really want him to overhear my conversations with her about girly stuff or something like that. I also don’t want his opinion on things, and trust me when I say he is a VERY opinionated person.
Post # 13
I cant think of a friend or couple friend where we always hang out as a couple. There is always time to have one on one friendship time.
Whether its a lunch/shopping/running date with only my friend, or the couple comes over but the guys disappear outside while we are cooking.
Post # 14
It depends on the couple. My FI and I have a male friend who I love hanging out with, but not when he brings his GF. Mainly it’s because we end up segregated (i.e. the guys go off to do something and I’m stuck chatting with her and she is dreadful!)
However, we hang out with another couple all the time (dinners, hiking, camping, ski trips) and the dynamic is great.
Post # 15
@Aquaria: Your friends could have done that if they’d met their SOs in person too…not just online lol
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