Post # 1
Every once in a while I will have a dream about my first love. I have not seen him in 6 years, and it’s been about 5 years since I last spoke to him. But every so often I will have a dream that we are still together and we are about to get married. In my dreams I completely forget about my Fiance as if he never existed.
Does anyone else have dreams like that?
Post # 3
@kelly105:I have had dreams like that, and I haven’t spoken to or seen mine in 6 years either. They are very strange dreams! I always feel weird when I wake up. Then I wonder if he has ever had those dreams about me. Maybe it’s happening on some parallel universe!
ETA–I do not wish I was with my ex. I am very happy with my husband and have no regrets about being with him.
Post # 4
I don’t have dreams like those specifically but occassionally my ex will make a random apperance in my dreams. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. You can’t control what you dream about.
ETA: I always feel guilty when I wake up after dreaming about my ex. 🙁
Post # 5
OMG…I have definatly dreamed about my ex quite a few times. We dated for 4 years,he was my first love. things eneded badly we have talked in 5 years. Even after being with my SO for 4 years and could not be happier. I sometimes still have a random dream about me ex..
the few dreams I remember.. we got back together multiple times in multiple dream…I usally wake up thinking thanks GOD that was a dream. The most recent one I had he was follwing me around the grocery store beging for me back…and I told him straight that it was never happening.
I always would question if my dreams were trying to relay a message that i still loved him and wanted to be with him…. but I dont! far from it! I was always so much happier with my current SO. I think the dream/nightmares come to remind me of how good I have it now….and not to take advantage of the great love I have now because I always wake up after those dreams to be happy of my reality.
“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
Post # 6
occasionally, they however are mostly dreams where he applogizes to me and we talk.
I had one where we were getting married, but then Fiance came up to me and said, he tricked you, your supposed to be with me today, and then Ex turns into a giant bird.
Post # 7
That’s so funny that you posted this, I actually just started a similar thread last night. I recently dreamed about my first love as well, and he has not crossed my mind in AGES!! It was SO weird that I would dream about him now!
Post # 8
I had an ex-SEX dream once. When I woke up I felt gross and weirded out and a little guilty. BUT, I was also RELIEVED that it was just a dream!!
Post # 9
Yes, I have nightmares occasionally. 😛
Post # 10
Sometimes, but the funny thing is in the dream we’re always doing some random stupid thing. Like about a year ago I had a dream that my ex and I were shopping for gardening supplies! The dreams never actually mean anything, I think it’s normal to have people who were once a big part of your life pop into your subconscious now and then.
Post # 11
i actually had a dream about my ex the other night – my first love too – there was another serious relationship between him and my husband and i havent talked to him in a long long time. Random!
Post # 12
My exes pop up in my dreams more than I would like. We aren’t neccesarily together (although we have been in some) but three of them seem to make appearances off and on.
Post # 13
I’ve had a dream from time to time with my exboyfriend in it. He was my first love…we’ve been broken up for 4 years
Post # 14
Yep. I think it’s normal. I usually have two types of dreams:
1) I dream about an ex (from a pretty good relationship). In my dream, I’m usually getting married to him and like you, OP, I don’t even remember Fiance. I have absolutely no desire to be with this ex in real life, so it’s pretty bizarre. I think a lot of the time the ex is more of a representation of my actual Fiance, if that makes any sense.
2) When I’m stressed or feeling guilty, I dream about an ex from a relationship that wasn’t so good. Oddly enough, I often dream about his gf (whom I’ve never met) in these dreams, too. I think it’s usually just a result of my stress.
Post # 15
Every now and then an ex will pop into a dream, but in some random way (like he comes by with the neighbor’s daughter selling girl scout cookies or something… crazy!).
I do sometimes have dreams about guys I’ve never dated or even considered dating (just people I know), and I’m making out with them or something. I feel SO weird when I wake up (and when I see that person again in real life…haha)!
Post # 16
I sometimes have nightmares about my ex. They’re less frequent now, but I had a really vivid one a few months ago that the ex had found out where I live and was trying to break into the apartment to hurt me, and for some reason Darling Husband couldn’t get home in time to help. I woke up completely freaked out. My ex was very abusive and I was with him for almost two years, so I guess it’s not surprising that there’s some lingering trauma…but on the other hand, whenever I have one of these dreams I find myself going, “REALLY? It’s been four years since I left him, wtf.”