Post # 1
Do you ever fantasize about men other than your fiance/husband/boyfriend?
Maybe a man you work with or someone you see at the grocery store, etc…
Even though you know you would never actually do anything, because you love and respect your SO, do you ever find yourself just thinking of what it would be like ?
Post # 4
Nope, I’m really into my husband, but we’re weird like that.
Post # 5
I can see when other men are attractive, but I don’t fantasize about them. My husband is still the hottest guy in my world.
I can see another man and think to myself, he’s a good-looking guy without having sexual thoughts about him.
Post # 6
SO is the only man in my fantasies that comes from the real world. I don’t have sexual desires for anyone I have known, past or present – including those I slept with before SO.
There are certain characters on TV that inspire lust in me. Usually, it’s not the celeb but the character they are playing – I need more than looks. For instance, Damon from Vampire Diaries gets me going, but I wouldn’t have any interest in sleeping with Ian Somerhalder if the opportunity magically presented itself.
If I am masturbating, I am thinking about SO ( usually reliving one of our sexy times ). If Damon from Vampire Diaries wanders in, I shut it down. It’s a road I don’t want to go down. It’s too easy to say, “It’s only fantasy.” Thoughts precede actions. Now, Damon doesn’t exist, but if I let myself fantasize about him, and one day in the future I do lust after a real world man ( which I think is bound to happen at some point though it’s not something I am dealing with right now ), it’s not much of a leap to fantasize about the real person, is it?
If you are fantasizing about a real world man who you see and interact with, it’s also not much of a leap to let yourself get into tempting, real-world situations. I’m sure many won’t agree with my train of thought on this subject, but I think that most people wind up committing adultery because of things that they chose to do or think about long before actually sleeping with another person.
Post # 7
@housebee: @adoc86: +1.
It would feel really awkward to me. I’d have to consciously do it and that would just be weird. It has never popped into my head unconsciously.
Post # 8
@CorvusCorax: +1. Of course I notice if someone is attractive or not. You can find someone attractive without being attracted to them. Not everything is about sex! 😛
Post # 9
nope, just not interested.