Do you ever fantasize about men other than your own?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you fantasize about men other than your SO?
    If I see a sexy man, of course! It's human nature! : (21 votes)
    35 %
    Hardly ever, but sometimes I can't help it. : (20 votes)
    33 %
    No, I never have sexual thoughts about other men. : (18 votes)
    30 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    no, not really.

    Post # 4
    Member
    8426 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Nope, I’m really into my husband, but we’re weird like that.

    Post # 5
    Member
    918 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I can see when other men are attractive, but I don’t fantasize about them. My husband is still the hottest guy in my world.

    I can see another man and think to myself, he’s a good-looking guy without having sexual thoughts about him.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    SO is the only man in my fantasies that comes from the real world. I don’t have sexual desires for anyone I have known, past or present – including those I slept with before SO.

    There are certain characters on TV that inspire lust in me. Usually, it’s not the celeb but the character they are playing – I need more than looks. For instance, Damon from Vampire Diaries gets me going, but I wouldn’t have any interest in sleeping with Ian Somerhalder if the opportunity magically presented itself.

    If I am masturbating, I am thinking about SO ( usually reliving one of our sexy times ). If Damon from Vampire Diaries wanders in, I shut it down. It’s a road I don’t want to go down. It’s too easy to say, “It’s only fantasy.” Thoughts precede actions. Now, Damon doesn’t exist, but if I let myself fantasize about him, and one day in the future I do lust after a real world man ( which I think is bound to happen at some point though it’s not something I am dealing with right now ), it’s not much of a leap to fantasize about the real person, is it?

    If you are fantasizing about a real world man who you see and interact with, it’s also not much of a leap to let yourself get into tempting, real-world situations. I’m sure many won’t agree with my train of thought on this subject, but I think that most people wind up committing adultery because of things that they chose to do or think about long before actually sleeping with another person.

     

     

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @housebee:  @adoc86: +1.

    It would feel really awkward to me. I’d have to consciously do it and that would just be weird. It has never popped into my head unconsciously.  

    Post # 8
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    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @CorvusCorax:  +1. Of course I notice if someone is attractive or not. You can find someone attractive without being attracted to them. Not everything is about sex! 😛

    Post # 9
    Member
    1838 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    nope, just not interested.

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