Do you ever feel bad that FI spent too much on your ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@weddingbee098:  No, because he didn’t spend much. He gave me an initial budget that made me laugh and I refused to let him spend even half of that. A ring means nothing to me but the things you mentioned, like vacations, do. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@weddingbee098:  I did feel like that for an tiny bit, but then I thought.. Im wearing this ring for the rest of my life and if it was any different, I wouldve been sad (FI and I picked it out when we in that “puppy love” phase of the relationship, when we were 18 and 19)- I am more than shocked that I actually ended up with it 5 and half years later. So yeah its a lot of money, but we arent starving or in debt from it. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I think the budget for my ering is ridiculous. I don’t know. Part of me is like “Woop woop, shopping spreeeeeeee” but in reality I think I would feel most comfortable spending 1/3 of the allotted budget.

 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes and no.  Yes cause it was a lot of money, no, cause there’s nothing else we would have done with that money. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@weddingbee098:  There’s nothing really unique about a diamond. They aren’t rare unless you’re getting into the $25,000 + category. He was willing to spend that but I feel that’s absurd. I’m focused on the marriage, not an arbitrary symbol. My proposal was a surprise – no ring – but he insisted on buying a ring after. 

To each their own. 

Post # 11
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@weddingbee098:  Yes, and I had no idea he was going to go out and buy my dream ring!!  That being said, he has expressed that it was his pleasure to buy it, that it didn’t break the bank (though he saved for a considerable amount of time), and that he only had one shot to get it right.  I absolutely love it, so I’ve tried to come to terms with it. 🙂

I should add to this that I’m not certain of the exact cost, but I have a general idea.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@weddingbee098:  I’m curious, how do you even know what he spent?  I have no idea what my ring cost.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Nope. It can be something I have literally until the day I die, and it’s value goes far beyond a dollar amount.

Besides, I designed it myself without a budget. I spent more than I’d anticipated but we have no regrets.

Post # 14
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42 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

When DH told me how much he spent on my ring, I was surprised as it was more than I would have expected. But I didn’t and don’t feel bad because it was within his budget and he carefully picked it out for me, and knew what he was willing to spend. And I love my ring!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

At first.  No matter now much the ring costs there would always be other things we could have done with the money.  Mine isn’t crazy expensive compared to others, but for us it was a decent chunk of cash.

The way I came to terms with it is through math.  I’ll be wearing this thing every day for pretty much the rest of my life.  I think I did the math for like 50 years, it came out to less that 10 cents a day.  Is that worth something I really like and see 100 times a day?  That idea really helped me put it in perspective, to show in black and white that I’ll get our money’s worth.

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