(Closed) Do you ever feel like you're ignored on WB because you are older?

posted 5 years ago in 40 Something
  • poll: Do you ever feel like you're ignored on WB because you are older?
    Definitely : (12 votes)
    16 %
    Sometimes : (19 votes)
    26 %
    Now and then : (9 votes)
    12 %
    Never! : (34 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1021 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Just curious – in what way do you feel you’re being ignored? 

    Post # 4
    Member
    1628 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    In what way? Like, that people don’t respond to your threads, or that posts you make on someone’s thread get ignored?

    Post # 5
    Member
    902 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’m not “old” and I feel sometimes alone in my post on here.  I just think it’s different threads will lure different reactions and usually when I don’t have something nice to say I don’t reply at all. 

    I do try to post often though, but lately I’ve honestly been lurking because I just haven’t been feeling well or in a chatty mood.. plus I don’t have any friends on here that may be an issue too

    Post # 6
    Member
    9057 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    This is essentially an anonymous site… how are you ignored because of your age? 

    If you’re posting on the 40’s board, perhaps there’s just not much action there because only a small segment of users fall in that category and are frequenting that board?  Also, sometimes it just takes a bit of time to develop a “presence” around here.  Your post count is still fairly low, so maybe once people feel like they “know” you a bit better you’ll have a better experience.

    I just took a quick look through the threads you’ve started, and one was definitely directed to women in their 40s (and kinda belittling younger people’s choices… so I don’t know that many folks were going to jump in there), the other was a simple yes/no answer about whether you click on links (so beyond the first couple people, I doubt anybody had anything earth shattering to say about that), and the third was a simple dress poll, which you’re right, usually do get a bit of attention, but this one seems to be overlooked.

    I know for me, I’m on Pacific time and usually post in the evenings, so sometimes my posts get “buried” by the time people on the east coast (the majority of users) wake up.  Did you maybe post at a slow time, like late at night or a weekend?

    Post # 7
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    3244 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My posts aren’t always acknowledged either, but I don’t think it’s necessarily age related. Like @PoeticDoveInLA: brought up, I think it’s more related to my not having any friends on here or the particular thread.

    Post # 8
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    2282 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t. It takes time to develop a rapport with the community. The more supportive, helpful posts you offer on others’ threads, the more likely they’ll be to click on a thread of yours to see if they can be helpful. 

    And, as PP said, there arent’ many of us over 40s on here, so posts directed at our crowd don’t have as big an audience, and are more likely to find themselves buried a few pages back before anyone else our age can even get a chance to see them. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    5583 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Now I’m really curious.  How many over 40 even over 50 Bees do we have here?

    What a great resource for relationship advice.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2018 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I wa just about to retire for the night, but I’ll answer:) I’m 45 and on my second marriage. I agree with PP, it’s less about age and more that there are fewer of us.

    Plus, yes, it takes a while to find your place here. But I can think of several over 40 frequent posters. Oh wait, one of them just left. Still, I think we have a lot offer in terms of life experience, etc.

    And I love having a wide range of ages, makes for interesting posts and interesting perspectives:)

    Post # 11
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    506 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    This thread makes me kinda sad. I think having a range of people including people of different ages makes for a richer community too.

    Post # 12
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    14784 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @trueblue14:  I am over 40 and I don’t think that age has never really played into why posts go unanswered.  Sometimes timing of posting or titles of threads can make a big difference in how many responses you get.  Sometimes things are just moving so fast on the boards that things get buried before they are seen for a majority of readers.

    @StarryNight2011:  

    @PoeticDoveInLA:  I really hope that you guys don’t feel like you have to “have friends” on the boards to get responses, that is really not something that we want members to feel.  If there is ever a thread that you really would like some responses to that may have gotten lost in the mix, please PM one of the Hostesses a link and we will respond.  Sometimes it just takes a response to move it to the top of the stack and get eyes on it for it to get responses.

     

    You can also help us out by checking out the “no replies” and giving some love to the lost threads.  I know that I haven’t been doing that as much as I used to, but there has been some health issues in my family that has taken up a lot of my focus.

    http://boards.weddingbee.com/view/no-replies

    @sassy411:  you should start an “intro” thread for that subject.  What a great post idea.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1199 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m  28 and some of my post get ignored. I know the feeling. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    791 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @sassy411:  I’m 53 and was initially happy to find a wedding site that had some options for older women (Encore, 40 something etc). I wish there were more postings for the over 40 set, not because I don’t want to hear from younger women but I think our issues can be very different from 20 & 30 somethings. I’ve found that sometimes there’s just a big difference in how very young women approach things – heaven knows I think very differently now than I did in my 20s. I’d love to be able to discuss some questions, concerns and joys that I truly believe can be best addressed by age peers.

    Post # 15
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    5408 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I personally love when the handful of 40-50 year old bees that I know of post because the more life experiences you have, the better advice generally. 

    Post # 16
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    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I don’t think that age necessarily is a factor, however, I do feel there is at times a bit of cliquishness.

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