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I hesitate even writing this because I don't want to sound like a whiner or like I am having a pity party for myself, but do you ever feel like you post something on the boards and people mostly ignore it?
I recently posted about something that I was excited to share on the weddingbee boards and I feel people just blew me off. It's hard to see that happen because I was really excited to share on here and other people who post the same thing get 40 replies. I feel silly for posting my pictures now and wish I could delete the post.
Anyone else?
I'm sorry that happend. :(
I honestly don't think it has anything to do with people not wanting to respond, but there are so many posts on here that when it's a busy time they often get bumped down really quickly or just lost in the shuffle. Nothing intentional!
Aw. Yes. I'm glad you posted this. I've been "ignored" on posts that I thought would be really interesting/exciting or that I really needed feedback on. It's super sad. Sometimes it feels like I'm just not hardcore enough about this wholeI wedding planning thing because I don't find it necessary to comment on things that the whole hive does. :( So sorry you feel this way. I guess just know that you've got company. :-)
i dont know about ignored but sometimes there are threads i feel i just cant contribute to or others have said it better so i dont respond
other times im sure im the killer of all threads because i post and then everyone goes away
and dont forget weekends/long weekends/halloween ect - there are busy times online and not so busy times
I feel the same way sometimes! But I know it's just because people start talking about certain hot topics, and then those get pushed to the top. Try bumping your posts if you want them to get seen... sometimes I do if I really want to be heard!
And I'm really sorry that your post got ignored! :( I'm going to go find it right now!
Hey ladies! I'm so sorry you are not feeling the love lately! I have to say that many of my posts have been unanswered or maybe just got one or two comments...I really do not think it means that people are not excited or that you are not welcome! Sometimes people just post on the first threads they see on the main page, or on the ones with titles that grab their attention. I know I am guilty of this, especially when I am busy!
Just know that you are welcome and there is a lot of love in this hive...I hope you feel it!!
Aw, like the other posters said, you can't take it personally. You never know why some posts get a lot of responses - everyone happens to be online, by chance it didn't get bumped down too fast, it's one of those hot button issues that everyone wants to share their two cents on...
I feel ya, I have felt the same way on message boards, but you have to remember it probably has nothing to do with your post!
Jaylii if it was your e-pics post I think they're awesome and sooooooo beautiful! I think the reason people probably avoided it is b/c it has an outside link--most people don't like to visit outside links b/c they open in the same window. Sometimes I have trouble getting back to the post if i don't think about it and close the window!
Nah, not reallly...posts can get lost in the chaos sometimes, so if you feel like it's getting ignored, just bump it, i know i have done this before! =D
I've felt that way before!
It takes some time... what I realized at some point is that people tend to comment on posts by people they've seen before! Over time, you'll get more responses to your posts as people get to know you - I promise!
ditto erindesmar!! i posted about guiliana and bill and how much i loved the show and i heard crickets in there... i swear i was waiting for the tomatoes to be thrown! sometimes people don't respond if there is another topic floating around that is similar. in the future it may be easier to ask the question in the similar topic that already has people subscribed to it. other times it may be difficult for people to see your topic because new topics are added so frequently. i promise no one is trying to ignore you!! lol I think at the end of one of my infrequently posted upon posts, I asked if there were a delete button, so trust me you are definitely not alone!!!
((HUGS)) you are definitely welcome around these parts!
oh, if it was an outside link site to a photographers site - if the site takes a while to download i just give it a miss... sadly, i have the patience of a goldfish
I think it just depends on whose on and how long it stay at the top of the board.
You know, I am also totally guilty of only looking at posts that relate to my personal wedding planning. FI will not do engagement photos because he is camera-phobic already, so if I see that in the topic line I probably skim right past. I know, I am a bad bee! I will do better!!!
I have thought that at times, but I realize that time zones, certain days of the week, etc. will effect comments. Sometimes, I intentionally go through each board and look to see if there are threads that have 0, or only a few comments, to see if I can contribute in some way. I have also shamelessly bumped a couple of threads for more comments!
Just think of a ignored post as a post that no bee could answer at this time. I've had one post that went unanswered. I would actually feel not welcome if I asked a question and everyone attacked me and disagreed with me. Luckily, everyone on this site is nice.
I don't know if this happens but since the most popular time to have a wedding is summertime... does wedding bee get popular in the months before the summer? Might be a possible reason.
Also, I know I sometimes create post when it is 1am PST... or 3am EST.... so when people post early in the morning, my post gets pushed down and forgotten.
Don't take it personally. Looks like your getting a lot of feedback now from this post.
:)
Aww. ((HUGS)) I think everybody has probably had that happen (look - even Mr. Bee!!) - you definitely shouldn't take it personally! There's so much going on here that it's easy to get lost in the shuffle, as others have said.
I am so glad you posted this! I feel that way sometimes so I won't post anything for a really long time until I regain courage. I just tell myself it's because the other bees just answer things that are at the top of the boards or pertain to them.
Don't give up! 
@eloping, I thought I was the official "thread killer" around these parts! :o)
Jaylii, I've noticed that a lot of times when I've started threads on the weekends, it usually takes a couple of days for it to get noticed/commented on. (There's a chance Halloween may have something to do with it!) It's hard to wait, though... I know!
Don't be discouraged... keep on posting! I'm glad that you are here! :o)
I agree 100% with yrret107 - I posted a question about a dressmaker, and didn't get a single response for two weeks, probably because no one was familiar with her firsthand. I logged on tonight, and saw a response! So sometimes it just takes someone who really has something to add finding your post.
I only look for posts to which I can contribute or relate to an issue I'm having currently. I have a feeling a lot of people are like this. It's definitely not personal!
I felt that way when I first came here. I honestly thought maybe people couldn't see my posts. lol. Then I realized the reality is that sometimes people just peek in, check from phones, mean to come back, thread gets bumped...and it's not actually personal. Sorry you feel that way but glad you said something because we've all been there.
Look! 23 responses and counting to this thread. ...and everyone is telling you to try not to take it personally. I know I've definitely started threads that get pretty much *zero* responses, even though I thought the post was certainly interesting. I hope you continue to post on weddingbee, and don't get too frustrated. I think you'll find that this is a very friendly and supportive group. So many other forums on the web are just snark snark snark.
I've def. felt this way before, but you just can't take it personal. Like cinemaparadiso said, a lot of people don't click on outside links, and I'm one of them. Maybe if I get a wild hair I will, but 99% of the time I don't. Lazy, I guess? haha
You are my 1% today...
Your pictures are beautiful! I love the ones on the rocks by the ocean.
Hope you're feeling better about things!
I think probably everyone has felt this way before. I know I have!
Familiar posters often get more "buzz", so stick around, keep posting and you will become even more a part of this great community! "The love" is reciprocal too - I love to look at a lot of posts but sometimes don't have the time or energy to post on most of them, but if I'm reading one started by someone who posts frequently on my threads, I'll comment to return the favor and build that friendship.
Also, I think "hot threads" often get that way because they are bumped to the top. I know I am guilty of keeping my threads at the top and therefore on everyone's radar by responding to posts in my threads or even saying something new in my own thread.
Something else that's been mentioned is actually posting pictures in your thread makes it easier for people to click and instantly see them. You would think its not a big deal to click a link but people are busy and if you make things easier for them they'll have that extra minute to post on your thread!
You are certainly welcome here, so don't be discouraged!
MrBee is totally right -- the longer you're around weddingbee, the more you'll feel like you belong here. When I started here, I felt like no one liked me, I was super paranoid that they were avoiding me. So, as I do in real life, I decided to kill everyone with kindness. I stopped starting posts, and commented a ton on other peoples' stuff. I also realized people had responded to me on a few things (other peoples' posts) and I'd never gone back to look, and ignored them. Eventually people get familiar with your name and your avatar and your story and your personality, and then it's easier for them to comment/want to be involved when they see your name pop up.
It's just like making friends in real life - it takes time and investment, but it's totally worth it!
Aw Honey, I sooo wouldn't take it personally at all, it's happened to me loads too. I think like lilyfaith said, sometimes if a thread is really popular then your comment gets bumped down the list quickly. Also I think there's a lot of ladies who've been using weddingbee for a while and so maybe a little community has formed. Keep at it though because even if you reach one person, that's one person you've inspired :-)
Oh I know just how you feel! I never feel "ignored" per say, but I have written posts that either haven't been responded to, or just received one or two replies. I totally agree with everyone else, it just depends on when you write the post, how you word the title, etc. Don't feel discouraged!
PS: I definitely thought I was the thread killer! I'm always seeing "No replies since" hahaha :)
I have been there too! It's okay - when I do get responses they're really helpful so I try not to get too disappointed when I get zero responses.
And BlueShoes I saw your mention of being a 'thread killer' so I wanted to make sure you weren't the last one here! 
This has definitely happened to me. I think it happens to all of us from time to time, and it can be kind of a bummer. Just stick with it, it's worth it. :)
and FWIW @crebre80, I love Bill and Giuilana. :)
This has totally happened to me - but overtime your posts will get more traffic and attention. I know I miss things people post sometimes when it's on the weekend, or what is late at night for me because I'm at work all day and go to bed super early sometimes and then I'm very rarely online during the weekend because it's the only time I get to see CW. So no worries - I don't think anyone meant to intentionally ignore you!
I agree the the pp's-it's happened to all of us. And I totally agree with what Mr. Bee said about the more you post and familiar you become, the more responses you'll get. It took me a few months to hit my stride.
I have felt that way from time to time, but not exactly snubbed. Like others said, sometimes, there's just a lot going on and you get moved down fast. Bump yourself and maybe you can get more input.
I agree with the pp... a lot of times it is probably just that your post gets lost in the shuffle or something. There is totally no shame in bumping after a few days if it gets down too low and asking people again for their advice!
I also agree with Mr. Bee-- I think that people do tend to comment a little more maybe when they feel like they have a relationship with the poster. When you see the same people over and over again you get a little invested in their lives/their weddings... you know about their FI, their kids (if any), their struggles... it becomes more like a friend asking for advice rather than a stranger so you are more likely to go out of your way to respond to them.
Overall I think that WB is the most inclusive, warmest group I've ever seen online! Keep posting and people will get to know you better, and I'm sure you'll start getting responses you're happy with. :)
I've felt like that sometimes--I get sad, but then I kidna don't care, even though I don't like it, because it's not the end of the world. Sometimes I say something & other's don't care. It's not the first time lol. Sometimes I do bump myself up if I don't get an answer. Sometimes it just gets pushed down...I think I'll go bump a couple of my other posts :)
Awwww, I am sorry you feel this way. I have definitely felt this way before too but I try not to take it personally. Sometimes I will have this great idea and Im like "oooo I cant wait to post this!" and then poof...its at the bottom of the list with 2 responses lol.
speaking of...ive got some *bumping* to do lol
I know what you mean. I didn't post a lot before the wedding but now I'm posting more after wedding stuff and I guess that isn't as interesting to people as wedding stuff. Seems like the more you post, the more people pay attention to you.
I've felt like this too every once in a while when I don't get many comments on posts, but I think it's just the way the boards are - and I think WeddingBee is, hands down, the kindest online community I've ever been in. I was on theknot.com for a while (mostly the Planning & Ettiquette board) and I couldn't stand how horribly snarky those women were! Full of trolls and cliques and - yuck. I'm so glad WB isn't like that at all!
No way Eloping - I'm the thread killer! :P
Seriously though, I think most of us have felt like this a time or two.
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