Do you ever get a little jealous when your FI doesn't invite you somewhere?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I tell him that I'm a little upset that I wasn't invited and/or introduced?
    Yes, tell him. : (152 votes)
    86 %
    No, let it go. : (25 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    846 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I would definitely be hurt and pissed if I was in your situation. I don’t understand why he didn’t invite you along. Why couldn’t y’all have taken turns on the jet-ski? And he should have been more communicative. Bring this up to him and let him know that this kind of thing is not okay. Good luck girl, hopefully you are able to work this out with him. 

    Post # 4
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    2457 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    um wow. yeah, that’s BS.

    my husband never did anything like that when we were engaged. at most, he would ask if it was okay for him to go do something with his buddy. but he would never just go do something without me without asking first.

    your FI should want you there. he should want to be showing you off to his friends. 

    Post # 5
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    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @SkinnyJeansLover:  Yeah, me too. I wouldn’t have been ok with that. If I’m seriously in his life why didn’t he suggest something all 5 of us could do instead? Jet-skiing can’t be the only outdoor activity possible there. Of course I have a big, blunt mouth and I would never have kept my trap shut all weekend. I guess it’s a difference of personality. I just wouldn’t accept that. period.

    Post # 6
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    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I’d be pissed. This and the other post make me think he’s really immature.

    Post # 7
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    7206 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I was going to vote “no that’s fine” because DH goes out doing “boys things” regularly… until I saw the situation. Taking girls jet skiing doesn’t fit into that category at all! He should have invited you. I would be furious. In fact I would have driven down and invited myself.

    Post # 9
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    11734 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’d be upset.  My DH wouldn’t go somewhere like this without inviting me; we’d take turns on the jetskis.  His friends should be my friends, and it’s not right for him to not even try to introduce you to his friends.  

    Post # 11
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    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Agree with PPs.  That is BS IMO.

    Post # 12
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    7206 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @SkinnyJeansLover:  You’re not the party crasher, you’re his fiancee! Next time just arrive unannounced. If he’s doing nothing wrong, he’ll be delighted to see you and will introduce you to his friends.

    Post # 13
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    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    This is a bit strange. I never have to feel left out with my FI because we literally do everything together. Sometimes I will get lunch with the girls (where he doesn’t want to go). But overall we live our life completely together. Some may say we are together too often, but for us it is perfect.

    In your situation where there was a “group outing”, I think it is strange you weren’t invited. You shouldn’t feel like a party crasher. You are marrying this man – FOR LIFE – therefore just by being engaged/married I say that is an open invitation to be involved in each other’s life in general. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    230 posts
    Helper bee

    I would feel hurt and jealous and mad! That would drive me crazy.

    Post # 15
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    8593 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Wow I would feel very hurt as well.  FI or I would never go on group outings like this without at least inviting the other (if one of us doesn’t want to go we would gladly go without the other though).  Guys only or girls only would be different but I’d be upset in this situation.  You should talk to him about it.

    Post # 16
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    989 posts
    Busy bee

    @SkinnyJeansLover:  My SO doesn’t invite me to blokey catch ups, but I would be pretty pissed not to be invited to something where opposite sex people are – it implies that it’s not just a guy thing, therefore you should be included. Also, seeing as though they’re such good friends of his, you should have been given the opportunity to meet and spend time with them. I’d be upset too.

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