Post # 1
I’m kind of hurt right now.
My fiance had three friends (two girls, one guy) from his hometown visit him this weekend and they spent the last two days jet skiing. I wasn’t invited.
He only has two jet skiis (two people per jet ski), so I can understand why I wouldn’t have been invited. However, I’m kind of the jealous type. I saw pictures on Facebook of their day on the lake and this girl had her arms wrapped around him all day and vice versa, the least he could do is introduce us.. right?
I guess I just feel a little neglected. He hardly talked to me all weekend, which is understandable since he’s been busy entertaining them. But a simple “I love you” text would’ve been nice to at least show that he was thinking about me.
We’ve been having problems lately (mostly my lower libido) and I just feel like that’s what’s causing all of our problems. It feels like he’s pulling away from me and shit like this weekend doesn’t help.
Alright, rant over!
Oh, for those who are wondering what the hell a jet ski is.. Here ya go! (And that’s NOT my fiance, this is just a Google image.)
Post # 3
I would definitely be hurt and pissed if I was in your situation. I don’t understand why he didn’t invite you along. Why couldn’t y’all have taken turns on the jet-ski? And he should have been more communicative. Bring this up to him and let him know that this kind of thing is not okay. Good luck girl, hopefully you are able to work this out with him.
Post # 4
um wow. yeah, that’s BS.
my husband never did anything like that when we were engaged. at most, he would ask if it was okay for him to go do something with his buddy. but he would never just go do something without me without asking first.
your FI should want you there. he should want to be showing you off to his friends.
Post # 5
@SkinnyJeansLover: Yeah, me too. I wouldn’t have been ok with that. If I’m seriously in his life why didn’t he suggest something all 5 of us could do instead? Jet-skiing can’t be the only outdoor activity possible there. Of course I have a big, blunt mouth and I would never have kept my trap shut all weekend. I guess it’s a difference of personality. I just wouldn’t accept that. period.
Post # 6
I’d be pissed. This and the other post make me think he’s really immature.
Post # 7
I was going to vote “no that’s fine” because DH goes out doing “boys things” regularly… until I saw the situation. Taking girls jet skiing doesn’t fit into that category at all! He should have invited you. I would be furious. In fact I would have driven down and invited myself.
Post # 8
@jadlnc: Especially since it was the July 4th weekend! I get that he wanted to spend time with friends alone but we could’ve had lunch or dinner together as a group or something.
Post # 9
I’d be upset. My DH wouldn’t go somewhere like this without inviting me; we’d take turns on the jetskis. His friends should be my friends, and it’s not right for him to not even try to introduce you to his friends.
Post # 10
@paula1248: I sooooo wanted to! But I didn’t want to be the party crasher so I stayed home. He asked me what I was doing tomorrow and I haven’t texted him back yet. I’m too pissed off to even talk to him right now.
Post # 11
Agree with PPs. That is BS IMO.
Post # 12
@SkinnyJeansLover: You’re not the party crasher, you’re his fiancee! Next time just arrive unannounced. If he’s doing nothing wrong, he’ll be delighted to see you and will introduce you to his friends.
Post # 13
This is a bit strange. I never have to feel left out with my FI because we literally do everything together. Sometimes I will get lunch with the girls (where he doesn’t want to go). But overall we live our life completely together. Some may say we are together too often, but for us it is perfect.
In your situation where there was a “group outing”, I think it is strange you weren’t invited. You shouldn’t feel like a party crasher. You are marrying this man – FOR LIFE – therefore just by being engaged/married I say that is an open invitation to be involved in each other’s life in general.
Post # 14
I would feel hurt and jealous and mad! That would drive me crazy.
Post # 15
Wow I would feel very hurt as well. FI or I would never go on group outings like this without at least inviting the other (if one of us doesn’t want to go we would gladly go without the other though). Guys only or girls only would be different but I’d be upset in this situation. You should talk to him about it.
Post # 16
@SkinnyJeansLover: My SO doesn’t invite me to blokey catch ups, but I would be pretty pissed not to be invited to something where opposite sex people are – it implies that it’s not just a guy thing, therefore you should be included. Also, seeing as though they’re such good friends of his, you should have been given the opportunity to meet and spend time with them. I’d be upset too.