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I feel like that a lot, especially when I'm discussing something wedding-related with my fiance. I ask if he thinks I talk about wedding things too much, but he tells me that "This is the time to talk about it, we're only getting married once!"
I do try and rein myself in when around other people who aren't directly involved.
I'm already married, but I'll still chime in.
I remember being on the opposite end of it. It seemed like that's all people wanted to talk to me about (particularly coworkers). I didn't talk about it too too much because I didn't want to bore people, so I guess they felt the need to talk to me lots about it. Especially the "You still have time to back out!" comments.
I've kind of gotten that too, okqueenbee. A few weeks ago, I went out with two friends and all they wanted to talk about was the wedding, and I was like "Guys, I'm so sick of talking about it, can we please talk about something else?"
I am pretty reserved about the wedding, and only really talk about it to people who I know are interested (like a couple ladies at work are always asking about it, my mom, FMIL, and my sisters AKA BM's) ... Even then, sometimes, I wonder if they REALLY care, or are just asking to be nice.
It helps we have a lot else going on right now (jut bought a new house, finishing the last rooms in the house, landscaping plans etc)
OMG mine is like a disease. I talk about it with everyone including but not limited to the checkout person at the grocery store, my co workers, my insurance agent on the phone yesterday... I cannot stop.
I wish I talked about it that much. I really want to, but I'm very careful to be reserved about it because I don't want people to get sick of hearing it. I typically preface by saying "is it okay if I talk about something wedding related?"
Ummm I talk about it all the time to certain people. The girls I work with are all married, so I usually bounce ideas and questions off of them at work on a daily basis. I talk about it to my BFFs who are also my bridesmaids, although I try to back off sometimes because I'm afraid of overwhelming them!
That's why I'm on here so much...!
Um yes... ALL THE TIME, even to my bridesmaids. Today I was describing the color of flowers, like literally trying to articulate the specific hue of green that was going to match the color "horizon" for their dresses and I had to stop myself because I was I was so annoying.
I feel you and this site is amazing. I've also started to up my posts on here in an attempt to curb my behavior in the real world. I keep promising to my friends and family that I won't be a psycho forever... for now, on weddingbee, I'll just embrace it behind a computer screen.
There are a few people I know I can talk to who are always supportive, otherwise I try not to talk about it all the time, especially to those who aren't invited. But, I will say, it's really challenging, you can't spend this amount of money and throw a party for 200 people without it consuming you.
I try to remember that people talk about what is important to them - my friends with babies talk about their kids, my workaholic friends talk about work, etc...my 'thing' right now is this wedding.
Oh--and this right here is why I joined weddingbee. It's so great to have a community of people who get it and don't think I'm completely nuts when I tell them how much time I spend obsessing about our table numbers!
So, thanks ladies!
yep. and i do this for a living so it's even more wedding overload for me (as i like to call it)... i am tired of it and i still have like 10 more months of this left to go (which sucks)
I have a stock answer that I give most people when they ask, mostly because I don't want to bore them with the details. I have a few people who hear a few more details, but other than that, I let it all out at weddingbee.
I've been self-conscious that I've been boring my friends and family lately too. But then I think, hey I've been there for their weddings and pregnancies, and listened to every last detail. It's my turn!
I try really, really hard not to talk to people about the wedding unless they bring it up first or have told me outright that they want EVERY single detail (as my bff did). I'm always affraid that I'll be "that bride" and that people will be tired of my wedding before it even happens.
I feel like that all the time! It's especially rough because I don't particularly enjoy planning and I don't get to see many of my friends often... so when I do see them I feel like all we talk about is me and the wedding. I'm not one to like being center of attention or talk about myself constantly and it'd been really rough getting used to it! I mean, even if thats what people WANT to talk about... I just feel boring and self-consious. :(
I feel this way ALL. THE. TIME.
My poor, poor FI is stuck reassuring me that I haven't become the dullest person on the face of the earth because big chunks of my brain are now, three months out, in constant wedding-mode.
Haha! I don't get sick of talking about it, but I'm SURE other people do! :) Too Bad! LOL
I am going to add myself to the list of people that enjoy this site because it seems like few other people would understand what I am going through. FH tries to pay attention - but no one else in my life would understand my current preoccupation with hair and makeup, jewelry, or any of the other details that run through my head from one minute to the next.
I'm not sick of listening to myself talk about weddings. When I do something, I emmerse myself in it so I can become as close to an expert as possible to be able to make an informed decision. Last year it was buying a house. This year it's wedding. What next year holds - well I have no idea.
Haha yes definitely! I love planning my wedding and I sure love talking about it, but sometimes right in the middle of a sentence i just KNOW that I have bored my poor listener past the point of being able to bear me. Sometimes I stop myself but mostly I keep trucking along :)
this is what I have weddingbee for. So I dont overload my friends with wedding things, there not married or engaged... and when I went to pick up my bridal dress.. we went in the store and I thought they might be stoked to have a look around.
But they sat on the couch and my MOH said the other girls said that they werent getting married anytime soon so whats the point. I thought one of my BM who is mad keen on sowing would be looking at each dress!
This is when i realised, I needed a place where I could talk about weddings when I wanted too and be able to switch it off. Hence joining weddingbee.
Also I keep all my wedding stuff in one room, so that way I can shut the door on it!
In a word, yes. I catch myself if a conversation lulls and the very next thing I think of to chat about is... another wedding thing. Come on, Littlestbirds, you have tons of interests and scintillating things to talk about, not everyone is as excited as you are about the science-experiment-cum-wedding-favors in your linen closet.
Haha! This is soo me! I actually hate talking about wedding things with random people because I know they only ask out of courtesy, but then I get carried away and before you know it I'm telling them about the cool monogrammed flatware we registered for (as if they care!) so, anyways I'm right there with you.
It happens to me once in a blue moon I feel more so that I talk peoples ear off about the wedding or asking them for too much advice I know they want to help but I feel like I should just shut up sometimes : )
Oh man, I definitely feel like this. I started adapting the rule of "soeak only when spoken to" about the wedding. Dana, you're right - not everyone is as interested in our weddings as us lol. Thank goodness for Weddingbee! MY Fi jokes that I have all these new online friends at the hive lol
Oh yeah! It's a little worse for me, because I work for a hotel, and meet a lot of brides before they sign their contracts. I have to make an effort not to talk about my own wedding while listening to theirs!
Yes! I try to keep a lot of my wedding related discussions limited to family and close friends but sometimes when people ask me how I'm doing and I can't think of anything to talk about but the wedding I mentally kick myself and think about other things to talk about.
I'm w/ okqueenbee; people ask about it all the time! I try not to talk about it a lot and remember that I'm more than the wedding, but it's hard sometimes.
And if I really can't resist and I know I've reached my quota with FI, I just talk about it to my cats. I know I sound crazy, but they're the only creatures that really don't mind :)
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Sometimes I'll be in the middle of a conversation with someone - my mother, a co-worker, a friend, etc. - blabbing on and on about the wedding, and suddenly, I'll think to myself "God, you are being so BORING."
I keep having to remind myself that the wedding isn't as interesting to others as it is to me. That's why it's nice to have a community like this, because everyone is all about the weddings.
But still, sometimes, even here, I say to myself, Okay, Dana. Enough with the wedding crap. You had a life before the engagement and you'll have a life after the wedding. Get over yourself.
Does anyone else feel like this sometimes?