Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Sometimes I’ll be in the middle of a conversation with someone – my mother, a co-worker, a friend, etc. – blabbing on and on about the wedding, and suddenly, I’ll think to myself “God, you are being so BORING.”
I keep having to remind myself that the wedding isn’t as interesting to others as it is to me. That’s why it’s nice to have a community like this, because everyone is all about the weddings.
But still, sometimes, even here, I say to myself, Okay, Dana. Enough with the wedding crap. You had a life before the engagement and you’ll have a life after the wedding. Get over yourself.
Does anyone else feel like this sometimes?
Post # 3
I feel like that a lot, especially when I’m discussing something wedding-related with my fiance. I ask if he thinks I talk about wedding things too much, but he tells me that “This is the time to talk about it, we’re only getting married once!”
I do try and rein myself in when around other people who aren’t directly involved.
Post # 4
I’m already married, but I’ll still chime in.
I remember being on the opposite end of it. It seemed like that’s all people wanted to talk to me about (particularly coworkers). I didn’t talk about it too too much because I didn’t want to bore people, so I guess they felt the need to talk to me lots about it. Especially the “You still have time to back out!” comments.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’ve kind of gotten that too, okqueenbee. A few weeks ago, I went out with two friends and all they wanted to talk about was the wedding, and I was like “Guys, I’m so sick of talking about it, can we please talk about something else?”
Post # 6
I am pretty reserved about the wedding, and only really talk about it to people who I know are interested (like a couple ladies at work are always asking about it, my mom, Future Mother-In-Law, and my sisters AKA BM’s) … Even then, sometimes, I wonder if they REALLY care, or are just asking to be nice.
It helps we have a lot else going on right now (jut bought a new house, finishing the last rooms in the house, landscaping plans etc)
Post # 7
OMG mine is like a disease. I talk about it with everyone including but not limited to the checkout person at the grocery store, my co workers, my insurance agent on the phone yesterday… I cannot stop.
Post # 8
I wish I talked about it that much. I really want to, but I’m very careful to be reserved about it because I don’t want people to get sick of hearing it. I typically preface by saying “is it okay if I talk about something wedding related?”
Post # 9
Ummm I talk about it all the time to certain people. The girls I work with are all married, so I usually bounce ideas and questions off of them at work on a daily basis. I talk about it to my BFFs who are also my bridesmaids, although I try to back off sometimes because I’m afraid of overwhelming them!
That’s why I’m on here so much…!
Post # 10
Um yes… ALL THE TIME, even to my bridesmaids. Today I was describing the color of flowers, like literally trying to articulate the specific hue of green that was going to match the color “horizon” for their dresses and I had to stop myself because I was I was so annoying.
I feel you and this site is amazing. I’ve also started to up my posts on here in an attempt to curb my behavior in the real world. I keep promising to my friends and family that I won’t be a psycho forever… for now, on weddingbee, I’ll just embrace it behind a computer screen.
Post # 11
There are a few people I know I can talk to who are always supportive, otherwise I try not to talk about it all the time, especially to those who aren’t invited. But, I will say, it’s really challenging, you can’t spend this amount of money and throw a party for 200 people without it consuming you.
I try to remember that people talk about what is important to them – my friends with babies talk about their kids, my workaholic friends talk about work, etc…my ‘thing’ right now is this wedding.
Post # 12
Oh–and this right here is why I joined weddingbee. It’s so great to have a community of people who get it and don’t think I’m completely nuts when I tell them how much time I spend obsessing about our table numbers!
So, thanks ladies!
Post # 13
yep. and i do this for a living so it’s even more wedding overload for me (as i like to call it)… i am tired of it and i still have like 10 more months of this left to go (which sucks)
Post # 14
I have a stock answer that I give most people when they ask, mostly because I don’t want to bore them with the details. I have a few people who hear a few more details, but other than that, I let it all out at weddingbee.
Post # 15
I’ve been self-conscious that I’ve been boring my friends and family lately too. But then I think, hey I’ve been there for their weddings and pregnancies, and listened to every last detail. It’s my turn!
Post # 16
I try really, really hard not to talk to people about the wedding unless they bring it up first or have told me outright that they want EVERY single detail (as my bff did). I’m always affraid that I’ll be “that bride” and that people will be tired of my wedding before it even happens.