Do you ever hop into other people's conversations?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Complete strangers?  Mind my own darn business.  At work or people I care to talk to maybe, jump in.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If I’m not irritated by their conversation or them in general, and I think I can be helpful quickly (like the White House one), I’m totally okay hopping in to say “so sorry to jump in but I overheard you trying to figure out what stop to use, and…”

I’ve always appreciated that when people help me out. 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

iarebridezilla:  The only time I would jump in is when I see tourists trying to find something on a map. I always ask if they would like some help. I think it is the hospitable thing to do.

Otherwise, I think it it the height of rudeness to invite yourself to join the conversation.  It  points out that you were eavesdropping enough to hear the details.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I never do for strangers or people I barely know, only exception has been people lost in the subway.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

iarebridezilla:  I generally mind my own business if I hear people talking about something like those examples above. Sometimes, if it’s offensive I’ll butt in and tell someone off (I’ve done this once or twice), but for the most part, I just pretend I can’t hear people. I don’t know that I’d find someone butting in to correct me helpful or annoying, but I’m leaning towards annoying. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

iarebridezilla:  If it’s complete strangers wondering how to get somewhere, sometimes I will.  I try not to jump in, but it annoys the crap out of me sometimes listening to people have moronic discussions and debates about things they’re completely clueless about.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

iarebridezilla:  I don’t even remeber what it was now, but I was at a restaurant once and these guys were loudly talking to each other and whatever and one of them likened it to a Seinfeld scenario.  He kept saying, “You remember, the one where…” (I don’t remember) and they went back and forth with it trying to figure out what happened in that episode.  I knew exactly what they were talking about.  Anyway, I wasn’t listening to their convo prior but Seinfeld was a trigger word for me so as I walked out I said, “I couldn’t help but over hear you guys, and it’s…” and they were like, “YESSSS!!!!  THANK YOU!!!!”  and we all laughed.  

Nothing rude about it.  They were a 4 or 5 30-somethings and I casually intervened.  I mean, I could hear them 2 tables over so it’s not like they were swapping SS#’s and medical history!  

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I usually stay out of conversations/arugements about trivial matters. However if it’s something to do with directions/touristy type things, and I feel like I would be helping them out, I would definitely say something.  I love when we’re in a new city, holding our map out in front of us and someone stops to ask if we need help with directions or finding an attraction.  I always try and offer the same courtesy when I can help in my own city.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

iarebridezilla:  Agreed.  It’s not that serious.  

Have you ever seen that show, “What Would You Do?”  I often wonder what I’d do if I were in a situation where I witnesses a social injustice, or a dog in a car, or a kid left alone…I tend to be an activist by nature but sometimes I watch it and think, “Nah, I’d have to stay quiet for that one…” 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

iarebridezilla:  …but I do love when you try and engage someone and they look at you like you have nine heads.  I was in TJ Max yesterday and this woman was contemplating a skirt that I just bought (and completely love) so I said to her, “Get it…it washes well and is super comfortable.  I just bought it a couple weeks ago and I’ve worn it three times!” and smiled.  She just started at me like I was missing my eyebrows or something!!  IDK, maybe it me lol.  

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I have totally been guilty of this, mostly as a child though. It’s a ADD thing for me, part of my impulsivity. I ran into some trouble with it at my first grown up job, where a coworker clearly thought of me as a child who was butting in and not as an equal. 

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