Do you ever miss being single?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you ever miss being single?
    Yes : (25 votes)
    7 %
    Never : (175 votes)
    47 %
    Sometimes : (171 votes)
    46 %
  • Member
    4071 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Meh. The dating scene isn’t for me. I never knew how to meet people. I’m thrilled I don’t have to worry about it!

    Member
    68 posts
    Worker bee
    • OEC
    • 2 years ago

    I voted never but perhaps that’s because I’m currently single. ;)

    Member
    3303 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Nope.  And honestly FI gives me butterflies.  It’s been 11 years.  He’s so dang fine and romantic and surprises me all the time.  I am still smitten!

    Member
    6407 posts
    Bee Keeper

    No, but sometimes it feels weird to think that’s over for good. But I’m happy to move on to the new phases of my life. I see it like this: sometimes I might get nostalgic for my teen years, but when I honestly think about it, I don’t want to go back to highschool either :)

    Member
    3012 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I met my FI when I was 23 as well (4 years ago) and I’ve never missed being single. 

    Member
    161 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m so glad I don’t have to be a part of the singles scene! I love having someone that completely understands me and makes me feel safe and comforted. The whole dating scene was too much for me. I’m more reserved and quiet and I just hated dealing with creepy guys and guys who only wanted to hook up:(!

    Member
    1689 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Not even a little!  I met my FI when I was 18.  When I turned 22, I had an identity crisis, and questioned all my choices.  I was worried I was with him because I had always been with him, and was afraid I had missed out on my college years. I had never even had a one night stand! 

    We broke up for 9 months and I… did nothing.  Went out on a few dates, didn’t like any of them, and didn’t do any of the crazy things I set out to.  It turned out that I had dated FI for 4 years because I was madly in love with him.  I had never had a one night stand because, well, I just wasn’t very interested in guys without an emotional conection.    

    FI took the time to date too, and he came to the same conclusion as I did at the same time.  When we got back together (a year later), we both knew we wanted to marry the other person (even though we wanted another 3 years before we got engaged).

    I just really like being in a relationship and I was HORRIBLE at being single.

    Member
    1914 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Eh sometimes I do miss it a little TBH. I love my FI and am really thankful that I have him, especially since I did date a lot of people before we started dating (we were friends first). I mainly miss the complete freedom more than dating. Not that my FI controls what I do-he is so supportive of me doing new things and exploring life as much as possible… I just hold back a little without realizing it because I want to spend as much time with him as possible. :)  

    Member
    1153 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015 - Outside

    I said sometimes, but I don’t miss the dating scene or anything like that. I just miss the “freedom” to do whatever I want, whenever I want. But SO gives me that too, so I’m really just being silly during the small amount of time I think about it :]

    Member
    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Sometimes! For sure! I adore and love my fiance and can’t wait to marry him, but sometimes I think about how I’ll never have the excitement of the chase or the total independence etc. I think it’s totally normal :)

    Member
    4338 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    I don’t miss being single and looking for love, no way. Sometimes I miss being single, and being content with self-discovery, and having personal adventures. I suppose I could do those now, but I always have to think about them in the context of what our weekend will be like, because we see each other so little as it is, I don’t want to miss him! That in and of itself is annoying, but it has nothing to do with my husband so much as it has to do with the crappy work hours his job gave him for the time being.

    Member
    2298 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I don’t miss being single in terms of dating at all, but the other day I was talking with someone about an idea I had about a book to write (would require moving across country and enrolling in an interesting program), and I realized – yeah, that’s not something that’s likely to happen now! And I can’t just make that decision on my own anymore.

    The reality is, I was unlikely to do it anyway. And I’d way rather have a life with FI over that. But it was just a sort of “Whoa… this is real, I have to make major life decisions with another person” moment. I knew it intellectually but hadn’t had that emotional moment yet.

    Member
    6729 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I actually liked being single, but I still never miss it.  I have just never been happier than I am with my husband.  I did miss it in previous relationships, though.  

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