Post # 1
In real life, that is.
My FI proposed to me the eve of Christmas eve with a beautiful 1.51 round brilliant diamond ring.
Since then we have seen his SIL one time, about to be two tonight. She is about 15 years older than me. Before we got engaged she would say things like, “I had to wait 10 years for my upgrade to get a 1 carat!”
So when she saw me after Christmas she asked 2 times that day what size center it was. I would reply something like, “Oh I’m not sure. Maybe a little over or under a carat. I didnt ask”
I’m just prepping for tonight incase she asks. Is it rude of me to lie, but more rude of her to ask more than once? Am I being silly thinking it would upset her? I tend to over think things.
Post # 3
I can’t even believe anyone would ask you. No one has asked me and I would be taken aback if they did.
Post # 4
@HannahGrace: Sometimes family asks too close of questions
Post # 5
It’s none of her damn business. If she asks, do what you did before and change the subject. Rude!
Post # 7
@cls9q: I would deflect and just say something like “Big enough!” 🙂
Post # 8
Ok thanks guys! Just needed the reassurance that I didn’t have to tell her.
Post # 9
@cls9q: I’ve never been asked but FI and I both agreed that neither of us felt comfortable sharing that information. When people ask about the ring (in general) I’ll say that it is a three-stone cushion cut ring and that is about it. No one needs to know how big it is or how much he paid for it.
You don’t have to tell her anything you aren’t comfortable sharing. Just tell her you aren’t sure and change the topic.
Post # 10
i think this is a rude question too! i have never asked! I however, have been asked and simply say “Im actually not sure” and then change the subject!
Post # 11
I’ve never actually had someone ask me this in real life. I think if I was I would just say I didn’t know.
Post # 12
That’s so rude. Honestly, I don’t even know what size my center stone is. I could probably find out, but it doesn’t matter to me. My fiance picked it out, I love it, and that’s all I care about.
Post # 13
I had people ask me… I mistakenly told one co-worker who I thought was honestly just curious. It spurred a lot of bitchiness and gossip/side eye about the cost. :/ I would not say anything again in the future, that’s for sure.
Post # 14
I’ve had people I know as well as total strangers ask me. Sometimes I tell the truth, sometimes I lie and say I don’t know, never asked.
Funny though, the only time I’ve actually answered honestly, was to the total strangers. To those I know, I say I don’t know.
Post # 15
@cls9q: I don’t understand. She wants to know the size……so what’s wrong with telling her the truth? It doesn’t sound like she’s being bitchy.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
I’ve never been asked and I’m not sure what size the center is anyway. It is rude of someone to ask, if they were newly engaged as well and a close friend then it would be fine I guess.