Post # 1
I was at the copy store and I know from past experience that if I go in and tell the employee that I need this done because my software doesn’t have the specs to do it I’ll be charged more than if I go in and play dumb saying I need this done and don’t know how to do it. I know it’s awful for the whole women’s lib movement, but it saves some money. Has anyone else ever played dumb for a discount?
Post # 2
I’ve played dumb just to make a conversation faster or, on a personal level, to allow someone the satisfaction of “teaching” me something – like Fiance, for instance.
Post # 3
renwoman: haha, yes I have. I have done it while working, especially in confrontational situations. Part of my job is to recruit students and we do that by knocking on people’s doors. Initially, some people think we are trying to sell them stuff and will get really angry/start yelling (before they even open the door). I have admittedly “played dumb” and “bat my eyelashes” saying, I am so sorry to bother you, I am just in the neighboorhood…yada yada yada.” It works every time, especially with men. They immediately say, “oh, no worries, it’s ok.”
I have also done it in other situations like you have described. Is it ideal? No. But I figure, sometimes you gotta do it. I am all for women’s equality/rights, but I don’t think “playing dumb” occasionally will set our generation behind in the previous efforts that have been made. The way I see it, some men will “play smart” and pretend to know/do things that they have no idea how to do so they can “be a man.” It’s not ideal either, but it happens.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
When I was a teenager, I played dumb to get out of a speeding ticket. Acted like I was totally lost and didn’t know what road I was on, let alone what the speed limit was. It worked. Now it makes for a funny story, but it’s not something I would do again as an adult.
Post # 5
renwoman: I’m an engineer now, but I used to be a mechanic and I am a licensed state inspection mechanic in my previous home state. When I take my car to get worked on I play dumb because sometimes it’s interesting to see what they’ll try to convince me I’ll need.
I already know what it needs and I know what services are just pushed onto people that aren’t really necessary. I usually decline the unnecessary stuff and I have asked them to show me what they’re talking about when they thought I’d just take their word for it.
Post # 6
My biggest situations where I play dumb is when I know the story before the person involved in the story, or should I say the ‘offender’ in most cases is ready to tell me. I have many-a-Oscar winning performances, if I do say so myself.
Perfect example occurred this weekend. My sis and her bf went to Vegas over the 4th. She texted me that he got really drunk (accidently), and was kicked out of the pool-side concert they attended, because he fell in the pool. I was NOT to say a word, because he was embarrassed. This weekend I saw him, and asked how Vegas was. He said ‘fine’. I asked (to SEE if he would tell me) how the concert was, and he smiled and said ‘I am sure your sister told you about the concert’. I totally played dumb, so he told me the entire, hysterical story, which was way better coming from him anyways!!!
Yup, I seem to know info ahead of time, but play dumb to get the 1st person scoop!
Post # 7
I play dumb when I take my car in for service to see how much BS they will feed me even though I’ve grown up around cars and mechanics my whole life…. It’s purely for my entertainment and I call them out on it every time.
Post # 8
I hate to say it, I’ve sometimes played dumb with Darling Husband. We painted our bathroom this past weekend and he went into a big speech on how we should hold the paintbrushes, etc, like I’ve never painted before (and I’ve probably painted more times than he has). He wasn’t condescending but his dad was there and his dad is in construction so I think he was trying to show his dad that he knew what he was talking about. His dad later thanked me for going along with it.
I’ve also played dumb when getting pulled over by the cops too. I have talked my way out of several speeding tickets!
Post # 9
Um, yes. I prefer not to play dumb, but it is often necessary. I don’t really play dumb with my SO or with vendors to get a better deal, but with casual friends/acquaintences/co-workers I do. A lot of people speak with great authority on subjects that they know very little about, if you correct them or contradict what they are saying usually people get very upset. Also, some people like to speak instructively to others, regardless of how much or how little they know, I usually just go with it, it makes me more likable. Typically I just nod and say something like, “wow, that’s interesting!” rather than get into it. That rule also applies to anything involving religion, politics, statistics, finance, etc.