Post # 1
… I was thinking about this and I NEVER return gifts. Ever ever ever. I don’t care how much I hate something, I would never say “oh, I don’t actually want this. Did you keep the receipt?” To me it is purely the thought that counts and I am not above a well thought out and well placed re-gift. (emphasis on the well thought out and well placed, aka something you would have otherwise purchased for someone else particular)
It is just not worth the awkwardness and potential hurt feelings to me. And honestly, the gift is special to me just because someone picked it out with me in mind.
Even if a gift receipt was tastefully tucked into the package itself I don’t know that I’d be that likely to return it quietly. It just feels as though it is against the spirit of gift giving. (unless it was something realy REALLY expensive to a store I wouldn’t mind a shopping spree to. But this is unlikely to happen anyway)
Post # 2
I don’t usually return gifts, but I wouldn’t bat an eye if I did. I think this is because most gifts are thought out and meaningful to me; they aren’t objects I would want to part with! However, when you get those gifts which are so painfully oblivious…yeah, back to the store they go.
Maybe I’m just not sentimental when it comes to objects and things. I routinely clear out my closets and throw away all sorts of paraphernalia. I guess I’m just sensitive to clutter. I guess it’s my practical side stomping on the side of me that would keep an item purely for sentimental reasons.
BUT, like I said, I rarely return gifts. I usually love the items I receive and happily put them to use!
Post # 3
freshflowers: I never return gifts. However, I honestly did after my baby shower. When you get 2-4 of the same item, I would rather exchange those for a gift card and buy some diapers than keep the items and never use it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I very rarely return gifts, sometimes I exchange them though…like at my bridal shower I got a lot of red items for my kitchen from my aunt but I have no red in my decor so I exchanged them for green. No biggie. Same item, different color. I have also exchanged a few gifts my DH got me at times because he was trying to get me something specific I wanted for but got the wrong item and when he realized it he said I should exchange it for what I really wanted.
Post # 5
freshflowers: We got 8 of the same color towles for our wedding. 8! 6 of those ended up going back to the store because really, I have space for 8 towles and I don’t want them all to be the same thing.
I would not normally return a gift if it’s useful, but I’m extremely anti clutter after cleaning out my “I lived through the height of the great depression” great aunt’s appartment. I don’t keep things for the sake of keeping them. I donate stuff I’m not using to Goodwill at least twice a year. If you get me an elephant head with a mirror in it (A gift one of the groommen mentioned getting for a prior wedding) it will probably quietly make it’s way to Goodwill if it didn’t come with a gift receipt.
Post # 6
I return gifts sometimes, but I would never ask someone for a gift receipt if they hadn’t already included one. A lot of things can be returned without a receipt for store credit. I would almost never admit to someone that I returned or otherwise got rid of a perfectly good gift they gave me, I would shamelessly lie and say it was broken or lost or something if I had to. But if it was clothes that didn’t fit or something like that I might mention something about that if asked.
Post # 7
freshflowers: Interesting perspective. From your point of view, how long do you try to keep a gift that you don’t like? Even if you don’t return it, you can’t hang on to it forever, right?
I’m totally practical about gifts. I return gifts frequently and alwasy include a gift reciept (where practical – not like for a bottle of wine or something) when I give a gift. To me the thought still counts even if you decide you are better off without the item. I’m a very practial person and have no tollerance for clutter in my life. I just don’t like “things.” If someone gets me something that I don’t need I’ll thank them graciously and return it quietly. I’d never ask for the reciept though!
That said, I also try not to encourage people to give me gifts. I never hold birthday parties for myself, for example.
Post # 8
cbgg: 9 times out of 10 my fiance and I know someone who would love whatever it was. Otherwise we keep a running gift drawer of nice items that we don’t quite have the right person or occassion for that has proven very practical.
I hate clutter also and thus far this has not proven to interfere with the tidiness of things at home haha.
Just in general I HATE obligatory gift giving. I get “don’t come empty handed” but seriously… bring me a bottle of wine or something consumable. Soap is great too! haha. I would much rather an occassionless present from a friend that ACTUALLY made them think of me than a pile of gifts on my birthday that people just slapped together because that’s what is supposed to happen.
Post # 9
freshflowers: I couldn’t agree more with you on that! A consumable is alwasy appreciated (wine!) but there is really no need to buy me gifts in general and I’d much rather enjoy the quality time with a friend than have to spend time and stress on going through a whole gift-giving ritual.