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    tranquility    August 20, 2011  

    I decided to skip my TOM this month and it got me thinking: is it wrong to do so?

     

    Does it ruin your body? I know that it doesn't acumulate but what happens to all those symptoms of bloating, water retention and so on and so forth?

    This is only my second time skipping it (I'm on the patch) and I just was wondering if anyone else does this on a regular basis and has any info on it. 

     
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    SweetRose2011    March 9, 2010  

    I'm sorry but what is a TOM?

     
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    EvaBostonTerrier    July 3, 2010  

    Per my doctor's directions, I take just the active tablets for 4 packs of BC  (3 month supply) before I take a week off.  There really isn't a medical necessity to have a period - when you're on BC; it's really bleeding due to hormone withdrawal, which is different that a regular period.  Historically, women started menstruating later and had multiple pregnancies, therefore the amount of time they spent menstruating was less than today.

     
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    tranquility    August 20, 2011  

    @SweetRose2011 ooops sorry tom=time of the month

     
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    SweetRose2011    March 9, 2010  

    I have never done it, but I entertain the thought sometimes. I hate my period. 

     
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    tranquility    August 20, 2011  

    @EvaBostonTerrier: So do you ever feel those "period symptoms" around the time you would get if if you werent on bc? 

     
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    EvaBostonTerrier    July 3, 2010  

    @tranquility: No, I don't typically have any traditional PMS symptoms until the end of the 4th pack when my TOM starts.  Occassionally I will have breakthrough bleeding during the 4th pack before I actually stop the active tablets, but that doesn't happen nearly as often now that I have been doing this for a while (a few years).  Breakthrough bleeding is pretty common though when taking multiple packs of just the active tablets in a row.

     
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    TheMrs2013    June 8, 2013   NH

    Nothing wrong with skipping it. Heck, they make birth controls that you intentionally skip (Seasonique which I was on and you get your period once every 3 months). I have noticed in the past, that I might have some spotting if I skipped on a traditional birth control but other than that, no PMS symptoms.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I was on the pill continuously for over a year and now I'm on Nuvaring continuously.  The period you have when you are on BC is basically a withdrawal from the hormones and isn't natural at all.  I never had bloating or water retention so I'm not sure about still getting those when skipping my period.

     
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    JeniRae    May 2, 2009   Pittsburgh

    I've been using the ring continuously to skip it. I don't have any symptoms at all, other than MAYBE very light spotting for one day. I love it! 

     
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    finnaroo    August 7, 2010   DC (living in nyc now)

    i tried to skip it once since i was going on a beach vacation and it didn't totally work--i had a little bit of spotting during what would have been the end of my cycle. i'm on ortho tricyclen lo though, which doesn't work as well for skipping as some other pills, or so i read, since the hormone levels differ week to week. it was fine though-- i didn't have any other symptoms or anything and was back to normal the next month.

     
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    SportsGal    August 11, 2012   Vancouver, BC

    Yeah I've skipped it probably two or three times in the last 10 years on the pill..  That was when we were on vacation in Mexico, or for our anniversary getaways etc.  Obviously I didn't want my "fake period" to come during those romantic times..  Innocent  I just kept taking the pills without a break and had no issues..  The next month I stopped again and it had no problems.

    I don't try and do it regularly but if something like that comes up then I'll do it.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    I've skipped mine for years on the ring, right now I am 3 weeks off bc entirely for the first time in 12 years and still have yet to get a period, so even if I wouldn't have skipped I still wouldn't have gotten a period before putting a new ring in

     
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    I skipped it once and my OBGYN said she used to skip hers ALL THE TIME and that there's no need to have a period on birth control (or the pill I was on, anyway). I'm not sure how often the minimum recommendation is, because I just wanted to skip for the honeymoon, but it seemed to not be much of a big deal to her.

     
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    Treejewel19    May 18, 2012   Sonoma County, CA

    I was on Seasonique for about five months as my PMS symptoms include wicked headaches and neck pain that seemed to avoidable if I was on a constant pill.While in theory it seemed like a good idea it didn't really work out well.

    For starters even after five months I was still spotting. I would rather have a period I can "count on" rather than random and inconvienent spotting. Also, BC without the week off has a higher risk of increasing your blood pressure according to my doctor. Sure enough my BP went up significantly after taking it for a month despite otherwise constant normal BP beforehand.

    For me it just didn't work out unfortunately.

     
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    TheFutureMrsLamkin    November 5, 2011   South Jersey

    I used to skip mine all the time, just keep taking the active pills.  Only problem like other bees have said, is the spotting and break through bleeding.  If you dn't take your pills at exactly the same time this happens.  i find some mild cramping if i don't take them when I'm supposed to. I think after 3 months without a period increases the likely hood of spotting, at least that's what i experienced.  Other than that, no problems.

     
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    AB Bride    June 25, 2011   Canada

    It drives me nuts when people talk about a period when on BC.  If you're on BC YOU SHOULD NOT BE HAVING A PERIOD!!!  You have a withdrawal bleed, not a period.

    I'm going months without having to stop.  I'm just on my old BC pill (a high dose) and my doctor told me to stop taking the pills when I get breakthrough bleeding.  I can go 4 months without a problem.

    I would be a little concerned about using the ring or pills that have different doses of hormones, I would talk to my doctor.

    I get symptoms from time to time where I can feel my hormones go a little out of whack, but I had that issue before I was skipping the withdrawals.  The timing has nothing to do with when I'm finishing a pack.

     
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    Aure    October 6, 2012   Las Vegas

    My gyno prescribes my BC so that I don't ever have "periods" because I get severe, debilitating cramps. I get breakthrough bleeding and spotting occasionally, but really it's the best thing that's ever happened to me. There's nothing unsafe about skipping.

     
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    eliwhit    March 12, 2011   Ohio

    If you're on the pill, there is no medical reason for you to have a period. I was on Lybrel for 6 months, a birth control that is designed to make you not have a period (no off-week). Like some PPs, I had absolutely debilitating cramps. It's better for me to not have a period (or withdraw bleeding) at all, so I don't. I just had Mirena inserted, which helps with a heavy flow and can stop periods after 6 months (and I don't have to take a pill, woo!)

     
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    apex    September 16, 2011  

    I've skipped mine a few times. I just skip the inactives and go straight to the new pack. I feel like I have PMS symptoms for an extra week or so.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    @AB Bride: My doctor said it was okay to use the ring for 4 weeks and replace it.  He said that I might have to go down to every 3 weeks if the breakthrough bleeding gets bad though.

     
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    Mrs Grape    December 10, 2010  

    I take three packs of BC before I take a week off--I have endometriosis, and this helps minimize the regrowth of tissue. But what I don't get is that the nurse told me I "have" to take a week off to have a period/withdrawal bleed. She said that "my body won't let me" go more than three months. Whaaaat? I don't know if she's just misinformed, or if I am...but I'd love to never have a period again, if possible, because the pain from the tissue returning is horrible.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    @Mrs Grape: I'm sure she is wrong.  I've been on the Nuvaring continously for a year now and I was on Lybrel for a year too with no need to have a period.  Yes I had breakthrough bleeding sometimes but usually not enough to be a full period.

     
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    Mrs Grape    December 10, 2010  

    @MissAsB: I'm thinking of calling today and asking if I can just keep taking it. I'm already sort of pissed and appalled that they didn't tell me to take the pill continuously after I had (expensive, painful) surgery to remove the tissue in March, only to have it start growing again every time I had a "period" because of the hormone fluctuations. 

    Lol, she told me I had to have a withdrawal bleed every three months "to get all that stuff out of your uterus" and made it sound like it'd be bad-bad-unhappy times for all if I didn't.

    I'm a little nervous about spotting, though...mostly because it sounds so unpredictable and I don't want to bleed all over myself, lol.

     
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    Aure    October 6, 2012   Las Vegas

    @Mrs Grape: Yeah, she's misinformed. The spotting really isn't that bad. Throw a couple of tampons or pads in your purse. From my experience you'll notice that it's happening before you bleed all over yourself.

     
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    londongal    June 6, 2012   London

    @Mrs Grape: I just started the implant because I was on a the pill (POP) continuously but still had bad periods and just wanted not to have any. I was warned about 'erratic spotting and bleeding' which I thought sounded awful but seeing as I was having that anyway, I figured it couldn't be any worse.  Been on it three months, had two days of very very light spotting and that is it! I do carry a pad with me if I go away but really it's been fantastic.  The doctor I saw said that if I did get more bad bleeding with cramps to take the POP AND have the implant at the same time to stop it - so she is actively encouraging me not to have periods and I love it! life is so much better now!!!

     

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