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He can't. He's the 4th and his son is the 5th.
We have kids and I'm even going to hyphenate so things aren't too confusing. I'll take his last name after my maiden name.
I initially kind of hesitated on taking his last name, and did (sort of) joke that he should just take my last name, so he could deal with the hassle instead of me. We also talked about merging our last names and coming up with a totally new last name for our family, but the best we came up with was "Blurley." :)
He actually asked me if I wanted him to take my name instead, but I don't really like my last name and always thought taking my husbands name would be romantic.
I would've liked for us to combine names - but that sounds really silly. It is super important to my husband to have kids and have someone to pass his name on to, so taking my name wasn't an option. I think the best situation is combining names if possible, but if impossible, it's just as nice for the guy to take the girl's name as vice versa.
Everyone loves my last name. Because it's so funny, I'll let you in on it - Weed. For real. So yes, it has been mentioned. :) But I will be taking his.
The only reason I would consider it is because my generation of will see the end of our (my father's) last name as there are no males to carry on the name. Oddly enough this is the same case with my FH's family... so tradition will win out this time. I'm not worried or upset about this at all.. in fact, I think having a second middle name will sound great!
I made it clear to FI that I will only change my name if he changes his, too. The specifics of how it would work are negotiable, but the principle of the thing is not.
I would love to have both of us take a hypenated name, but unfortuanately in most states it's a very different process for a man to change his name upon marriage than a woman. A woman (in most states) can just take her marriage license to the Social Security office and have a new card issued with her new name, but men have to go through the whole official name change process, court appearances, high fees and all. So the hypenated idea went down the drain :(
People tell me all the time that he should take my last name. It's pretty awesome, I have to admit.
We discussed it, but he's the last boy in the family... so that's not happening.
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Doesn't the whole name thing bother any other women out there? The choices being take your husband's name, keep your father's, or use both men's names? I guess I will probably take my FH name, but the hardcore crunchy feminist in me can't help but think there's no satisfactory choice! And really, him taking your name is nice, but ultimately he's taking your father's name! (End crazy rant)
Eh, Bamboo, maybe I'm selfish but I don't actually see it as my father's name. I've had it my whole life, and it's just as much mine, mine, mine as it is my dad's (except that he's got twenty-something years more use out of it 
). I'm quite invested in my entire name as a unit, though, and the idea of messing with what I consider a key identifier does bother me.
I would LOVE it! We've talked about it but I know he wouldn't - which is fair, because he doesn't expect me to change my name if I don't want to either.
So the happy solution we've come up with now is that we're BOTH taking my last name as a middle name. It makes me very very happy :)
We actually discussed this, but I feel like it would be ridiculous. I asked him if he would, not with the desire that he actually do it, but rather to gauge his reaction to considering changing his name (I know it's not really the same because it wasn't serious and it's still probably easier for women in this society where it's common to change your name at marriage). A month after the wedding, we're still not sure what to do.
I think that when a married couple has the same last name, the assumption is that it's the man's name, so it doesn't matter whether it's yours, his, or a combo from the point of view of external perception of people you meet down the road.
I wouldn't want him to... i'm sick of my last name. i've hated having a colour as a last name... i can't wait to take his last name :)
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Apparently in some cultures it's tradition for the husband to take his wife's last name as his new middle name. I love this! My brother did it when he got married, and so did my best friend's husband. Unfortunately, Mr. Tiramisu was dead-set against it- "but I can't change my middle name, it's my middle name!" ARGGGGH!
I think it's really romantic to each have a part of each other's name... and then you are the same middle and last. Awww :) Too bad my hubby does not agree!
never would happen, but his brother on the other hand DID take his wifes last name! long story!
It comes up whenever we're making travel plans - his last name is really common and ethnic so its alot of questioning and scanning before he can get on a plane. My last name is unheard of and European so it makes no difference. I don't think I'll take his name though - combined with my first name it would be the brand of a fruit drink. Not good. I think I'll keep mine.
I definitely think it would be nice if it were a more popular option. He's the only boy with his dad's last name so I know it's important to him. Also, it's not like I'd be keeping my dad's last name because...I don't have it! It's my mom's maiden name (so my grandfather's last name.) Kinda confusing. But yes...considering it would be a welcome change.
@sparkle: I'm trying to figure out what that name would be...but the only thing I came up with was "Jose Cuervo" - and I know your name isn't Jose! Hehe. But you did say a brand of fruit drink, not liquor...no idea.
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No. He doesn't expect me to change my last names, and I don't expect him to change his. We each already have names of our own, neither of us needs a new one :-P
@amandopolis: We came up with "Payber" one night, but sadly it didn't fly. lol
He'd never, ever take my name... I don't even like my last name!
We briefly (half jokingly) discussed changing both our names to McLuvin' ... but we got a lot of negative reactions. I am considering hyphenation or keeping my last name ... still VERY undecided, because my last name is way better than his!
We talked about both changing our names to each other's last names, but that just seems silly. However, we did talk a bit more seriously about him changing his last name, but he contends that since his last name is on his papers (he's a scientist so he has to publish papers) he can't change it now.
But, he did say that if he ever were to get out of the business, he would seriously consider it.
I have yet to decide how serious he was about that last statement.
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I considered being a "Kim"... but there are too many "MyFirstName Kim"s in this world, and I like to be a little bit unique. (I am an identical twin, so little things like this are important.)
Did you ever bring up the idea of your FI changing his/her name? If not - does part of you think it'd be nice and/or fair if guys had to change *their* last names?
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