(Closed) Do you ever think it’d be nice for your FI to take *your* last name?

posted 9 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

He can’t.  He’s the 4th and his son is the 5th.

We have kids and I’m even going to hyphenate so things aren’t too confusing.  I’ll take his last name after my maiden name.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Yes, but he’d never do it. πŸ™

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I initially kind of hesitated on taking his last name, and did (sort of) joke that he should just take my last name, so he could deal with the hassle instead of me.  We also talked about merging our last names and coming up with a totally new last name for our family, but the best we came up with was "Blurley."  πŸ™‚  

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

He actually asked me if I wanted him to take my name instead, but I don’t really like my last name and always thought taking my husbands name would be romantic.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I would’ve liked for us to combine names – but that sounds really silly.  It is super important to my husband to have kids and have someone to pass his name on to, so taking my name wasn’t an option.  I think the best situation is combining names if possible, but if impossible, it’s just as nice for the guy to take the girl’s name as vice versa.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Everyone loves my last name. Because it’s so funny, I’ll let you in on it – Weed. For real. So yes, it has been mentioned. πŸ™‚ But I will be taking his.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The only reason I would consider it is because my generation of will see the end of our (my father’s) last name as there are no males to carry on the name.  Oddly enough this is the same case with my FH’s family… so tradition will win out this time.  I’m not worried or upset about this at all.. in fact, I think having a second middle name will sound great!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I made it clear to FI that I will only change my name if he changes his, too.  The specifics of how it would work are negotiable, but the principle of the thing is not.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I would love to have both of us take a hypenated name, but unfortuanately in most states it’s a very different process for a man to change his name upon marriage than a woman.  A woman (in most states) can just take her marriage license to the Social Security office and have a new card issued with her new name, but men have to go through the whole official name change process, court appearances, high fees and all.  So the hypenated idea went down the drain πŸ™

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

People tell me all the time that he should take my last name. It’s pretty awesome, I have to admit.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

We discussed it, but he’s the last boy in the family… so that’s not happening.

First name Middle name his last My last

First name Middle name my last his last

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Doesn’t the whole name thing bother any other women out there? The choices being take your husband’s name, keep your father’s, or use both men’s names? I guess I will probably take my FH name, but the hardcore crunchy feminist in me can’t help but think there’s no satisfactory choice! And really, him taking your name is nice, but ultimately he’s taking your father’s name! (End crazy rant)

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Eh, Bamboo, maybe I’m selfish but I don’t actually see it as my father’s name.  I’ve had it my whole life, and it’s just as much mine, mine, mine as it is my dad’s (except that he’s got twenty-something years more use out of it ).  I’m quite invested in my entire name as a unit, though, and the idea of messing with what I consider a key identifier does bother me.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I would LOVE it!  We’ve talked about it but I know he wouldn’t – which is fair, because he doesn’t expect me to change my name if I don’t want to either. 

So the happy solution we’ve come up with now is that we’re BOTH taking my last name as a middle name.  It makes me very very happy πŸ™‚

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