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Sort of. We aren't spending TONS of money though, and I think it will be well worth it! :)
Yes! Some days it just hits me... this will all be over in one day. All this time, effort, and money are going into One.Day.
Then I realize that to me it's worth it, but I still come to that realization at the oddest of times.
YES!!! I cringe when I think about how our budget has gone over time and time again. I really even have been holding back and not sharing with people on how much the whole wedding will be, because of being afraid of their judgement, I don't want to hear another "why don't you guys put that towards a house," anymore.
i never wanted the big party. my fi did. we're compromising... and i know it will be beautiful. but i always have a minor heart attack when i look at the budget!
YES! I have thought about it a lot...but when it comes down to it I have had an idea of what my wedding would be like and I think I would be disappointed if it were something totally different
Meh, sort of. I honestly think about it more about my dress than the wedding itself. I guess I'm just really confident that we are building a memory for ourselves and our families and friends that will be really special. We had some recent deaths on both sides of our families, so getting everyone together under happy circumstances feels really precious. Also, FI and I are at a point in our lives that the core friends we have now are the people we will be vacationing with in retirement. Not every person attending the wedding is a besty forever, but there won't be many people there who I won't be in touch with 40 years from now. For some reason, that really makes me feel much better about the money.
Another way to look at it is that my parents and I took a vacation to China (with little bro) last summer, and the split of costs was roughly the same as the wedding, and it cost about 2/3 as much. We had a great time and built beautiful memories. The money we spent was worth every dime, and I have the same feeling about the wedding (excpet maybe the dress! Love it, but...woah, I spent a lot). The fact that the trip was 14 days compared to 3 (wedding weekend) doesn't make a huge difference.
When I start to freak out, I just remind myself that although we're spending a lot of money, we're not spending on anything unnecessary, in our opinion. We're staying true to ourselves and our vision and aren't spending money on certain things that the WIC tells us we need (i.e. limos, ice sculpture, videographer, etc.)
Definitely, yes, especially now since my budget has roughly doubled since my parents got involved. But given how many people are coming, it's not that much at all - probably under $60 per person. And we are making efforts to support companies we like, which employ people we like, so there's that aspect, too.
i struggle with this too, i want my wedding to be great but to spend 5,000 (my budget) on one day is hard to swallow. i think of what we could do with the money...BUT i think i would regret it if i just ran off and got married.
Of course! But then I shove those thoughts away and try to just feel grateful that it's all possible.
Yes - especially since I had a city hall ceremony already which I was really happy with. But I am excited about my wedding and I think I'd be bummed if we were not doing it. Our wedidng is a little different that most people's though in that we don't have big families and there aren't all of these obligations to invite certain people or not invite them. So our list is very small and I feel like we are getting to do exactly what we both want.
Hehe, what was that about city hall and a fancy dinner?
(That's what we did, and it was SO WORTH IT, 100%! No regrets.)
But it's your special day, so if what you want costs more, you gotta go for it. Be true to yourself and your idea of what your wedding day needs to be! Sometimes those dreams cost a little (or a lot)!
Yes, I think that exact thing... Or sometimes I think we should have just done a destination wedding with just family and a few friends. Oh well! Big wedding here we come!
We have just starting pricing things out and I can not believe how much stuff costs! We live outside Philadelphia and the venue prices around here are just so expensive! I was def saying HOLY CRAP! :)
yes i do, a number of times. But in the back of my mind I know that I'm trying to create the wedding that i've always envisioned and wanted....not too big, not too small, and full of shabby-chic goodness-ness.
Yes...and often! And especially considering we have a big payment on our venue coming up in a couple of weeks. I told FI this weekend I could care less about the big party and would marry him in a parking lot! BUT he's the first son in his family to get married and I'm the only daughter in mine so for us, it's more for our families. Would be nice to have some help with the $$ considering lol. At the same time tho, it's nice knowing that we are able to do it on our own - I can't imagine spending this amount of my parents' money...they've worked so hard all their lives so I just want them to enjoy the day without having to worry about writing the big checks.
I voted SORT OF because we made out like bandits on our wedding. It still was about $7K but that included our honeymoon!
Yes, all the time. To be honest, it stresses me out quite a bit. But then I remember that we wouldn't be spending the money if we didn't have it and that yes, it's only one day but it will be a wonderful day spent with great people. So then, I feel a little better but still feel sressed. Oh well.
I've had this freak out a couple of times. We always follow it up by looking at our budget and ideas and making sure that we're doing everything that we're doing for a reason that is very important to us. There are some things that other people wouldn't think are necessities that we are including but there are many things that other people would think are necessities that we aren't doing because they just don't need to be there for us to have the kind of wedding that we want to.
The other fact that my fiance keeps reminding me of is that we are having a wedding that we can afford. Yes, it's a lot of money--but money is to spend and we're spending what we can without going into debt or changing the quality of our life until we get married.
absolutely!!!!! i just posted, though, that we have done everything we can to "pay cash" and NOT put anything on credit...but maaaaaaan is it hard to look at the number we've spent and have left to spend and not think "man that should be going towards our debts..."
BUT even though we've got debts to pay off and other things we SHOULD use the money for...i keep telling myself how much I'd regret NOT having the wedding of my dreams and whether you're rich or your poor - once you're gone you can't take debt or riches with ya!
Yes I literally feel guilty every single day at my vanity and self indulgence.
Ahh I try not to think about it : )
But the outcome will be wonderful!! plus whens the next time your going to spend that much on one day...Maybe your daughters/sons wedding in about 25 yrs (for me) lol
Definately. I call it wedding guilt and it sucks. But you know, it's one day. How often does a moment like this come around? It's not like a birthday.
We`re not having a big fancy wedding, even so if we were to go to city hall to get hitched that alone would be almost $1000 (350 for the wedding license, 350 for the JoP, and another 50-300$ on chambers fees, taxes & etc).
At times I want to throw up my hands and say "Why bother?" because it seems so ridiculous.
ALLL THE TIME! And we have just started to plan! We keep saying lets just elope! Ugh whose idea was it to make weddings so expensive?! GRR
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HOLY CRAP, I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW MUCH MONEY WE'RE SPENDING ON ONE DAY!!! and then think how nice it would be to get married at City Hall and then have a nice fancy dinner?
I'm excited to have a big party with all of our close friends and family, and to wear the white dress, and to have attendants and dancing, etc. But sometimes I freak out about the money.
Anyone with me?