Post # 1
I see a lot of posts by brides saying their sibling / friend / bridesmaid / coworker / etc. is copying their wedding ideas.
Do you ever worry people think you are copying them?
My sort-of-cousin (my mom’s brother married her mom’s sister) had a destination beach wedding. That’s what I’m doing too, I had dreamed of that long before she ever got married.
We’re thinking our guestbook might be one of those picture mats to sign. My fiance’s cousin (actually 2 cousins, 1 on his mom’s side and 1 on his dad’s side) did this too.
I know there are only so many ideas to go around, but do you consciously think about it? Have you nixed anything because you thought someone would think you copied them?
Post # 3
OMG totally!! I started planning my wedding and came up with the purple and peacock theme and then my SO is in a few weddings that are before ours and the first one had purple in it. That’s not too bad. But then this invitation we just got for the 2nd wedding (that he’s in as well) had peacock feathers in it AND we were going to do invites just like the one’s they sent us!! I changed our design because I didn’t want them to think we copied, and now when they come to our wedding I can only imagine what they’ll be thinking. However, we did send out our STD’s about a month before we got their invite and it did have peacock feathers in it so I hope they realize we both just came up with the same idea because lets face it… feathers are cool. 😉
Post # 4
I am planning on having my reception at the same place that my cousin had hers 2 years ago. she does not know this yet. but I feel a little guilty. I just hope she doesn’t feel upset over it.
Post # 5
I agree that there are only so many ideas to go around. I do see the difference between taking one element and someone copying over and over from one other person.
I definitely “borrowed” a few things from other weddings I’d been to. I think is someone takes one great idea from you, you should just be flattered…
I used the same picture mat buest book as my cousin (25 bucks from Michaels, how can you go wrong?), and when I talked to her about it, she was just like… I know it’s awesome, I knew I would never look at a guestbook if it was put away somewhere so this is the perfect solution.
I dunno, I hope people copy a few things from my wedding. I just take it as a compliment.
Post # 6
Nope. Because I’m original.
Seriously though I gotta imagine when you’re in a city there are thousands of people and only so many venues. You’re bound to know someone who had a wedding at your venue before.
And honestly I don’t believe a single idea in wedding world is 100% original. For the average person the idea came from googling. Or if you did sit at home one day and thought it up (which I’m sure many of us have and I have as well and still yet to find a wedding to have homebrew wedding favors before mine!) chances are someone else in this world has thought it up as well. But I don’t automatically assume they are copying me!
Now if someone is flat out using on of your ideas because they love it I find it humbling and would appreciate a little cred when it’s due.
ie I did a UPC code generator for our homebrew custom labels another Bee used it but gave me props in her post. Which I thought was super sweet!
And even if a idea seems original to us perhaps to another group of people it’s such the norm. Just because I’ve never heard of it before doesn’t mean it’s never been done before. Know what I mean?
Post # 7
YES! my Fiance and I met at a summer camp he is from England and I am from America. We have been together for 5 years. Another couple from camp he is from England and she is from America were only dating a year got married before we did which is totally fine thats not the issue. I always wanted a photo booth or something along the lines of it… I know they are really popular but a bunch of my friends went to their wedding and they had something along those lines I decided to scrap the idea because so many of the same people are coming to ours and I didnt want anyone to think we were copying!
Post # 8
if you think about it logically there are so many wedding ideas and no one “owns” them(like i used to think i did) so you shouldnt feel like you are stealing/copying anything.
that said, FHs best friend got married last month and when i got into her reception i was just speechless at how much of their decor looked exactly like what i wanted mine to be (in may, 5 months later) and the funny part is we had never even talked about our plans to eachother. but soo much was the same. right down to music we were going to play during dinner, the same card holder, the same kind of centerpieces and runners and decorations.
but after freaking out and getting responses from other bees i stayed grounded =P and i realized that while there may be many similarities, we will ahve many details and other things at our wedding that they didnt have and will make it unique
and it helped to think that because our weddings are so far apart that no one will even remember all those details as much as i would because i am the bride. but i could just imagine being that bride sitting at me reception thinking “they so copied us” not that it really matters but it just bugs me =P
Post # 9
Oh man, I wanted a photobooth soooo bad, and we went to FI’s best friend’s wedding and they had a photobooth! I don’t want them to think I’m copying, so I nixed it. 🙁
Post # 10
I agree…no idea is “yours”, but you want to be the first one to have that special thing at your wedding! However, I am not quite as excited to share my wedding ideas with others that are close to me and are having weddings soon, too.
We have seen a few of our ideas pop up in his brother and SIL’s wedding. We were going to name the tables after our favorite places in our college town. They did something similar with playbills and table names. The picture photo mat is so common, I don’t think anyone will notice/care about that.
Honestly, my big worry now is that his brother and Future Sister-In-Law will happen to think of the baby name that we love and use it for their child! This isn’t something that consumes me, but it does stick in my mind.
Post # 11
Not really because all the elements of my wedding are totally different from things that my friends and family have done. I cant say am totally original but I’m inspired by things outside of my social circle and even outside of my culture, so even though its gonna “copied” from things i’ve seen online and other wedding magazines, its not copied from any friends.
Post # 12
I worry about that all the time. I actually asked permission to pick my wedding date because it would be one year + 1 day after my cousin got married… they all laughed at me!!
Apparently I’m too worried about it. Everyone is right when they say you can’t have a completely unique wedding. I’ve decided to concentrate on a few memorable things that are different.
Post # 13
@Cc7492: see that’s nice that they laughed at you. I picked my date because i’ve always wanted to get married in october and i had some family members who weren’t happy about it ( they had anniversaries in October…)
Post # 14
My brother is getting married 3 months before me and his fiance and i are very similar in taste and i think people will think i copied her since mine is after!!!! i just dont talk weddings were her now…..because i dont want to hear her ideas and then freak myself out about my own!
Post # 15
The only thing that bothers me is that I had two friends get engaged 6 months after me, and I had a LOT of major decisions already made. They knew just about everything that I was planning…and now one friend is getting married 2 weeks before me and one like 3 weeks after me….they both are doing some things that are really similar to me!! It just upsets me because they already knew what I was doing and had been planning for 6 months before they were even engaged. I vented to my fiance and to another friend, then I decided to let it go. My wedding is going to be special and if people think I copied because the one friend who is getting married before me…well so be it! My wedding will ROCK no matter what anyone thinks!
Post # 16
Not really. I mean, I am well aware that people might think it, but they are silly if they do, because like other PP’s said, no one ‘owns’ the ideas particularly and someone somewhere is going to have the same idea/inclination toward an idea.
I mean, unless someone you know personally got married underwater in a shark cage & you decide to do it too, there is really no direct correlation.