Do you expect birthday presents?

posted 3 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: Do you expect birthday presents from friends/family?
    Yes, of course! : (47 votes)
    24 %
    I hope to get some, but I keep that to myself. : (77 votes)
    39 %
    No, no one is obligated to get me anything. : (72 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
    8677 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I stopped expecting gifts after the age of 12 or so.

    Post # 4
    1801 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t expect mom and dad to get me anything (as in I wouldn’t be upset if they didn’t) but I know they always do. Even then, I never suggest ideas, and I struggle to come up with something when they ask me because I want them to be comfortable with the cost. I also know FI would insist, even if I refused. 

    I don’t expect anything from friends, siblings, or more distant family at all, and I’ve been genuinely shocked when I’ve gotten something. It was also very unexpected when I got something for my birthday from FMIL. 

    Your friend is hilariously presumptuous. 


    Post # 5
    3242 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    In my circle we usually chip in for a dinner or get the person a bottle of wine. We also exchange  gifts between siblings/parents. However it’s not a huge deal if someone doesn’t give a gift. I just had my birthday last week and told my family not to get me anything because they had co-hosted my wedding shower the weekend before.

    I would never post about my birthday on Facebook though!

    Post # 6
    584 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @StephieBee:  I absolutely don’t expect presents from my friends! I have issues though where I have trouble asking for things/relying on other people, so typically I don’t expect ANYTHING from my friends and wouldn’t even call them to ask for anything, I’m having a horrible time choosing BMs because I feel like it’s too big a burden to ask of anyone, etc etc.

    I do expect a thoughtful birthday gift from my FI, though. Generosity of spirit is really important to me in a man because I’m a really giving person and if someone I genuinely loved didn’t think of me on my birthday and want to make me happy, it would really hurt. And I guess I’m a bit spoiled, because I still expect birthday gifts from my parents!

    I’m always just pleasantly surprised when a friend gives me a birthday gift, and sometimes feel guilty because I do that rarely and randomly (like if I see something I know a friend will love I’ll buy it and save it for her bday, but I don’t make sure to do it for everyone, every year.)

    Exceptions might be based on the event– like if we are going out as a group for dinner or drinks I might hope I won’t be paying because that’s tradition with my friends, or if I’m hosting an event I’d expect people to bring a bottle of wine or something whether it’s my birthday or not. When I turn 30 I hope I will be able to afford to host a huge bash, in which case gifts would not surprise me, but I wouldn’t expect them either.

    Post # 7
    6273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I don’t even expect people to care, honestly.

    Post # 8
    676 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I usually still get something from my FI, parents and sister, but I would never expect any from anyone else.  Usually my friends just buy me a drink if we go out and celebrate.  

    My birthday is also a week from Christmas so I learned early on not to expect much. lol

    Post # 10
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Nah, I definitely don’t expect gifts from any friends. Sometimes I do get fun little gifts, or a friend will buy me a drink. These are wonderful surprises, but I don’t ever expect to receive anything from friends. 

    When it comes to family, I guess I “expect” a gift from my parents, my sister and my FH because that’s what we’ve always done. I don’t feel like I deserve one or am entitled to mountains of gifts, but I enjoy exchanging presents for birthdays with my nearest and dearest family members. But if one of them wanted to end the tradition, I wouldn’t be offended or anything like that. 

    Posting any type of wishlist on facebook is beyond tacky. I don’t know how your friend doesn’t feel ashamed in being so gift grabby! 

    Post # 11
    2111 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @StephieBee:  We always give gifts! In fact, it really bothered me when I got to high school that friends didn’t think to give a gift when invited to my birthday party. If I know it’s your birthday, you’re getting something. Most of my friends now also give gifts for birthdays, so there’s less disappointment, but it’s still sad to plan something really nice for them and feel like they can’t be bothered to reciprocate. I’d never say get me this or where’s my present, but you can bet I’d be wondering what happened.

    Post # 12
    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Nah, I haven’t expected a birthday present from anyone since I was a kid. I admit that I do feel a little hurt when I don’t get at least a phone call from close family members. One of my favorite birthday things was when Grandma called to sing Happy Birthday. This next birthday will be the first since she died so I’ll really be missing her phone call. 

    Post # 13
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    How awkward! Yeah I definitely don’t expect presents, definitely not from friends and DEFINITELY not from the general Facebook community lol.  I had birthday parties with friends and gifts up until I was 18.  Nothing since.  I usually still get some kind of present from my parents, though (but practical stuff, like this year I got towels off our wedding registry as my birthday gift 🙂 )  I give my friends birthday gifts sometmes, but usually just if I happen to find something that would be perfect for them, and then their bday is a good excuse.  Nothing big though.

    Post # 14
    1169 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I expect gifts from FI, my parents and my sister, only because we always gift for birthdays. I have a few friends who always give me a gift, so I would be surprised if they didn’t give me one… but I don’t “expect” one and I wouldn’t be mad! But anyone else… nah, it’s just nice if they remember to say happy birthday 🙂 

    Post # 15
    693 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I don’t do presents.  I’ll give birthday gift for parents, and do receive them from parents, but even DH and I don’t give gifts to each other (for birthdays, anniversaries, xmas).  We’re just weird that way. 




    Post # 16
    666 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I do expect a gift from my husband, and Igive him a gift.  I sort of expect something from my mom, but that’s about it.  If we have a party for my birthday (which we often do, more to have an excuse to have people over than to really celebrate my birthday), I always say no gifts and people usually just bring a 6 pack or something to share for the party.

    I’m not really sure why we actually celebrate birthdays because they’re not all that special.  Everybody has one.  

    My mom and my aunt both had the same birthday.  Every year they’d each give each other a card with a $20 bill in it.  It was pretty funny.  They used to joke that they should just start reusing the same card and bill or just present the card/bill to themselves instead of each other and save the stamp.


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